Simple: they are intimidated. It's hard enough for us guys to get up the nerve to talk to any girls, much less the drop dead gorgeous ones. Rejection is painful enough one on one, but in places like clubs or bars, women are usually there with their friends, meaning if we get rejected, there's an entire table of people watching it happen. Therein lies another problem: friends. When we see a hot girl at a club, dancing with a bunch of friends, we have no idea if any of the guys she is with are a boyfriend. We assume that, since she's so attractive, she's probably not single, which means she's off limits. This is where the less attractive women come in. It might seem shallow and mean, but I think most guys subconsciously assume two things about unattractive women at clubs: they won't reject us, and they don't have boyfriends.
Ladies, if you're attractive and you want guys to talk to you at clubs, let me suggest a couple things:
1. Don't go clubbing with guy friends. Since we as onlookers have no idea if you're involved with any of them, we aren't going to take the chance and talk to you.
2. Break off from your group once in a while. Go to the bathroom more than you have to, travel around the dance floor, or simply dance a little on the outskirts of your group. If you're cute and you walked into a club, I can guarantee you that at least one guy has kept an eye on you all night, waiting for the opportunity to talk to you. If you want to meet guys, you need to give him that opportunity.
nah I don't buy into that whole idea of beautiful are intimidating crap. it's more like they are annoying. they think too highly of themselves so we guys don't bother approaching. I much rather approach an average looking girl who seems to be friendly and sweet than some stuck up biachey. I know that not all good looking girls are like this, but most of them are.
ooookkkk just remember one thing beauty is in the eye of the beholder and when I say a girl is unattractive she really is but I would never call a girl ugly because you have no idea what she's thinking about you! With all that being said guys can sometimes be jerks so they go for the unattractive girls that they think - as all the other guys above me have said that unattractive girls are found without a date or alone! But what guys seriously don't realize is that all girls are the same in the department of turning a guy down! Ha I'm so amazed when guys come up to girls who are less attractive and ask them out and all they do is get "I'm sorry I have a boyfriend"
Haha oh dear! Whatever happened to female solidarity? Seriously girls.. get a grip! Have you ever thought that maybe a guy doesn't approach you because you are all standing around looking bitter because other girls are getting attention...? Also, I kind of resent the insinuation that if a guy approaches me at a club it's because I'm "ugly!" Have you ever thought that maybe guys approach girls who look like fun... oh and also, just because you think these guys are hot, doesn't mean we all find them hot, just like you find these girls "ugly!"
I'm with Mercutio on this one, its intimidation. They don't feel that they could get the gorgeous girls to dance or even talk to them. Plus, what you find unattractive may seem pretty in their eyes.
I've wondered the same thing. I'm not drop dead gorgeous, but I'm nowhere near ugly. LOL. And guys WILL NOT TALK TO ME.EVER. they look but they won't speak. Wassup with that ?
You no what I'm wondering the same thing, I'm not hot but I'm not ugly. this guy I like is dating this ugly chick, blows my mind.
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Beautiful women are intimidating for most guys. That's why 20% of men have 80% of the sex out there. It's a sad fact that only a handful of guys in the room lack the approach anxiety to go up to the really hot women and talk to them. Part of it is also fear of rejection. That's why you get slobbering drunks who do hit on women, poorly I might add, by use of liquid courage. Any other time they might be nice guys to hang out with, but because they need the liquid courage it makes them into your classic drunken idiot saying things like "you're so hot!" and spouting off horrible pickup lines.
I am going to assume a couple of things in this answer.
I assume that the boys in the club are intimidated by your gorgeousness. They automatically think that you have a boyfriend and therefore are not worth their effort, or, Maybe they see you with another guy who happens to be your friend and they assume that you're together.
Even in a club, guys can be shy, and they probably think that the less-good-looking girls are more easily swayed by their advances.
Maybe your look and personality project "I'm the girl that you bring to Mom's house" and that's not what they are looking for in a club. Their looking for someone to grind against for a couple of hours.
Hows your flirting muscles? are they in good shape or are you at a loss of things to do/say when the time comes? Sending guys clear signals is a sure fire way to get a guy to notice you.
I don't mean to be rude but.
I would not use the word ugly. Ugly in your eyes does not necessarily mean that other people think he/she is ugly to it's YOUR vision. Not everyone's vision. People also shouldn't be judged on how they LOOK in YOUR eyes because maybe they have a great personality. Another reason that they could hang out with a specific type of girl is maybe they know them or. have seen them before or spoke to them before. That's a general explanation.
For me personally I tend to be intimidated by big groups when I'm alone in a club. I would rather go for the girl standing/sitting alone at the bar.
I agree with some of the comments about intimidation, that definitely could be a reason. Also, alcohol is a great equalizer when it comes to looks.
But that's not the only possible explanation, another could be that those girls are attractive, and you just can't see it. I've seen girls call hot celebrities ugly (Natalie Dormer especially), ugly girls call hot girls ugly, hot girls call ugly girls hot, etc. etc. The thing is, lots of girls don't really understand what makes girls attractive, and hold other girls to dumb standards that don't make sense to guys.
My "grainS of salt":
-Fundamentally, there is not that much difference between a "beauty queen" and an "unattractive" girl. In the dark there is even less difference.
-The "beauty queen" sure is the "editors' choice" but might not be the "best buy": the "beauty queen" can be a spoiled brat. (I've known quite a few like that) The "unattractive girl" projects another image.
Last but not least: beauty is in the eye of the beholder!
I guarantee if you went over and took control of the situation he'd follow you away from the ugly chick. Instead of expecting to get serviced just because you're hot, go over and take what you want. It'll give the guy the security to be who he really is with you. Unless he's an asshole.
But in general when a guy sees a hot girl they usually make the assumption that a girl as beautiful/cute/hot as her must already be taken and don't even bother to try. That are insecure and believe they will be shot down if they approach her.
Straight forward.If you see a hot girl in the club chances are she has a guy and last thing you want when looking for a girl is a fight. 99% of girls that are "not as pretty" are single and make for a much easier catch
Why don't you approach guys you find attractive?
Don't leave it up to them and then get upset.
When you see a really hot chick its hard to approach her because of the fear that she doesn't want you and ull get rejected so you go for a less attractive girl who you have a better chance with.
If you have this problem the way to fix it would be to show interest in the guy and he'll feel secure about dancing with you. And when I say show interest in the guy be really obvious because guys are idiots when it comes to reading the hints girls give us.
Maybe the "hot" guys you're talking about are fully matured grown men and want more of a woman than her looks and physical appearance.
We do it because most hot girls don't put out the same night and an unattractive /slight ugly girl with a nice ass body will give us sex easier which boosts our confidence. Sorry but that's the truth in our society.
hello! those ugly girls are sooo available for sex. period.
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