Personally I would think it is a bit rude (and selfish) to be honest. You promised to remain friends and now you suddenly decided to change your number...just when he most needed you. But then again I understand your feelings (of having gone through such pain)...
It depends on which viewpoint you stand on...and I see that both parties are both right, and both wrong. I call this Cause and Effect...because it really is. One party decided to 'dump' the other one, and the other (because they felt hurt and betrayed from this experience) could not develop the strength or patience anymore to hold onto the potential hope that an out-of-the-blue call may bring.
One thing I believe our society makes really big things out of (and which causes a huge amount of hurt, resentment and unhappiness), is the word 'dump'. The truth is, it was not a 'dump' but rather a letting go. You came together because you felt a mutual sense of affection and attraction. The logic should be that should you leave (because of incompatibility issues), it should also be mutual. But this does not happen. Why? Because we hold onto the little things too much...we have become so embroiled and infatuated with this other person (thinking we may never find another one like them) that we forget why we got together in the first place.
So, if we want to create long-lasting relationships, (even if we have separated with our ex), we should resist the temptation to delete them off the phone, and allow them to be there should the need ever arise that they may contact us again. Because its not only the right thing to do, it is the most wisest and loving thing to do.
Nobody ever deserves to be 'dumped', only to be loved or made friends with.
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I haven't ever dumped a girl (but I have been dumped) and I think I would just kinda be like "screw it" personally. Besides she has my number if she wanted to contact me. I've always found that talking to an ex (or even a girl I am interested in but it never went anywhere) just prolongs that "getting over it" stage so I don't ever mess with it.
Honestly, you dumped her when she was at her most fragile phase. She loved you and I'm sure she was deeply scarred by that (oh lord of heaven! =_=) and she doesn't want to be your friend, so you've got to stop being selfish (that's how she would see you if you ask me) and approach your other friends if you want to talk to someone. She wouldn't be the only close person to you, right?
i would say, you changed your number because you are trying to cut him off, and you probably deleted him outta ur phone book to right? ya ur trying to get over him by making it so that you won't think of talking to him
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