I HAVE NO IDEA HOW TO FLIRT?

[littleheartbigbooty]

I flirt for fun sometimes, but I really can't do it if I'm really interested in someone.
So, tonight I'm going to a pub and then clubbing with my friends and my crush.
I really wanna flirt with him, but don't know how!! I'm really shy so it's not easy for me. I can do it if I'm not interested cause I know I have nothing to lose and I can be more direct.
But I kinda really like him so I don't want to look desperate but I'm afraid that if I'll be too subtle he won't notice it.
Any tips? Girls, how do you flirt? Guys, what do you like? How to understand if he's interested? He used to like me but now I don't know how he feels. One of his friend told me that if he knew I'm into him he'd text me in a heartbeat but I don't know.

[TheJinxGod]

Ok yeah your problem is the fear of failure, this happened to me. I could not solve it any I never went anywhere with this girl and one day I just asked her out without flirting she rejected me. The way I would solve this by looking like you have no shot anyways, I know I know what you saying "why so pessimistic". Well if you're not going to flirt you don't have a shot anyways. Now make the flirts funny more than sexy, guys like this and will give the impression you're interested. Now after much of this you should give an sexual response see what happens do it without fear. Just look at it you're doomed and if you get him it's a miracle. The fear of failure can destroy any shot you have, you must overcome it and that way is the only way I overcame it. Now I have a sweet loving girl because I flirted many times with her and she flirted many times with me until it the confession stage.

[TMWLOP]

Stop being a pussy, plain and simple just be yourself nerd

[littleheartbigbooty]

Wow so nice

[TMWLOP]

Ya, the inner flamer in me came out but i think what i said is extremely true to your case, its not the fact that you can't, its that your scared

[littleheartbigbooty]

Ahahahah yeah I know I have some anxiety and low self esteem issues since I was in elementary school

[TMWLOP]

Girl your name is littleheartbigbooty, just make a joke to lighten the mood or soemthing just make yourself comfortable, the only thing holding you back is you

[littleheartbigbooty]

Yeah I know. I always do this. I'm just gonna drink to loosen up a bit I think and I'll get more confident

[TMWLOP]

Cause liquid confidence is the best :/ but do what you need too

[littleheartbigbooty]

Any tips on how to tell if he's into me or not?

[TMWLOP]

He already does my dear, its up to you to resipricate those feelings, you can keep asking yourself and going 007 on his ass to see every little clue, but its worthless if your not gonna move your pickes

[littleheartbigbooty]

This was oddly helpful thanks dude

[TMWLOP]

Eyyy just another day for this socally aware guy

[amy2016]

have lots and lots of eye contacts with him and smile! don't stare creepily but just look at him, smile so he'll get the message that you're thinking about him so he might come talk to you

[moonbagel]

Honestly I don't know. I don't flirt, so I guess the people who have dated me have just been seduced by my awkwardness 😂

[lucky1234567]

I don't think you'll be able to flirt & don't try to be subtle, he won't notice for sure. One advice (if you like it only then try this) Ignore him as much as pretend he doesn't exist. It will surely switch his mind towards you & if he tries to talk don't pay any attention. He will automatically start flirting with you and he will take care of the rest. Basically play hard to get.

[littleheartbigbooty]

That's what I did the last time I saw him, but I wanted to actually make him understand I want him cause last year when he asked my cousin for my number I told him not to give it to him so he thinks I'm still not interested

[ghjk12334]

Don't worry, no one really knows... just be yourself! that's what everyone is always seeking, you yourself can tell if someone is faking Thier personality (everyone can) and the for fun thing... we all do it when bored

[natebragz]

Just. Be confident and go, if your happy so will he be. Don't cling but be happy around him

[Cowboy6666]

Just talk with him about random things n then suddenly tease him. use your brain. Different circumstances needs different dialogues. 👅

[LastNightmare]

how many hours do you have before getting ready for pub

[littleheartbigbooty]

About 6-7

[LastNightmare]

okay, is it your first time to flirt

[littleheartbigbooty]

No but I just don't know how to act cause I don't personally know him and we're going to be a big group of people so I don't know how to approach him

[LastNightmare]

go sit next to him

[littleheartbigbooty]

And then? How should I act?

[LastNightmare]

try constant touching

[littleheartbigbooty]

That's what I usually do good to know ahahaha

[LastNightmare]

that's the best

[littleheartbigbooty]

Like when guys say something funny, I usually touch their arm, or if I have to walk past them I touch their shoulder, or stuff like that

[LastNightmare]

sit next to him n keep giving him constant touch with your hands, shoulders, thighs, legs, keep leaning on him

[littleheartbigbooty]

I hope he comes to the club with us cause then it would be a lot easier

[LastNightmare]

n what are you planning to wear

[littleheartbigbooty]

Black skinny ripped jeans and I don't know some tight top. That's what I usually wear

[LastNightmare]

why don't you try some loose top

[littleheartbigbooty]

I'm going to try and find something nice in my closet. I was thinking to wear a black body tho (I have a pic of me in it on my profile, in a How do I look question, I don't know if you wanna see it it's there)

[LastNightmare]

let me check it out

[LastNightmare]

I can't see anything.. seems you're not PM me

[littleheartbigbooty]

Oh. Maybe you can see it if I follow you?

[ToruMatsuda]

Walk up to a boy you like and say: hey I like your face. 😂😂😂

[emel16]

Welcome to the club :)

[PhoenixItalian]

why do I feel like you're not shy at all?

[littleheartbigbooty]

Trust me I really am

[PhoenixItalian]

is that why you won't talk?

[littleheartbigbooty]

yeah

[PhoenixItalian]

follow me then

[love_truth]

then DM me i will tell you.

[Anonymous]

Even I don't know