How can a guy lose interest in you so fast? Should I call or just forget him?
Well, I have only known this guy for a 2 weeks. And we really connected and had a lot in common and laughed a lot. I don't get it. Everything was...
I erased his name and number out of my phone. I'm Done. Like a said, when a guy is interested...he makes it known.
Most Helpful Girl
Guys do call when they are interested. This guy is probably just bored and looking for a challenge, looking for the girl who thinks she's too good for him. The kind of girl who is too busy/ important to return a text most of the time. If I were you I would ignore him right back. You have to really believe men were just put on this earth to open doors for you, pull out your chair, serve you, and kiss your feet. Even though deep down inside you absolutely adore them and would do anything for them.
What Guys Said 8
Maybe he didn't get what he was lukn 4,.a guy probably won't loose interest in a girl so fast,.maybe he z a jerk..
If you want the guy you should make some of the running. If he has lost interest he'll let you know. If he wants you but is shy, you getting in touch encourages him to keep going. If you feel you are too special to make any effort, he's probably better off without you.
Apart from thinking he is being interested in you, it is also possible that he's playing you. Some men can do this...they come up unexpectedly and say they like you, call you up once and then leave you altogether. Depending on how long they treat you this way (days/weeks rather than months, because longer ones tend to be genuine relationships), it is a way for some of them to make you feel attracted and think of them.
The other idea why he hasn't called could possibly be that he is actually with someone already and was just playing around with you for a little.
Put it this way, if the guy hasn't got a girlfriend already, he'll more than likely call you right away and ask for a date. Why else wouldn't he call you? If he is as interested in you as you say he was?
I don't know what will come from your situation but I can tell you about an experience I had.
I met a really sexy, attractive girl on my train route. We got on really great and got close very quickly (we had much in common it seemed). After the 4th day, I had decided to give her my mobile number and arrange a date (seemed like I could not miss keeping in touch), thinking about it at work all day! I got on the train and was just planning / waiting for the right moment as we talked...
but... as we taked, after about 5 minutes I not only had lost ALL interest but was actively glad I'd not given her my number earlier! She was no less sexy, no less attractive but just something about who she was and they way she lived her life had put me off completely.
I completely lost interest in her (excepting in the purely sexual sense which is not what I like to base a relationship on), as I lost interest, she seemed to talk faster and faster and the more she talked the worse she made things!
So, its possible for a guy to lose interest in the space of 5 minuets, even if he's into you. Especially at our age when we really know what we want in life and what we are looking for.
LOL he obviously read too much into it, he thought you were playing the game where you test if he's clingy and things like that. This boy fancied you but he didn't want to seem desperate because of all the rules the girls make and boys have to follow. Its the 21st century, you should've called him if you wanted to show him you like him too. He was definitely wondering why you never initiate contact with him. So don't over think things next time and look at it from a boy's point of view before you make a decision. GIRLS THIS IS WHAT HAPPENS WHEN YOU MAKE ALL THOSE SILLY RULES THAT BOYS "HAVE" TO FOLLOW.
It's likely he's playing a game or has found another woman he likes better. I encounter this more than I'd like to. In my case, the girls often dfo turn up with a second call or text, but they've found their new boyfriend and it's not me. That's the reality of today's culture of dating as many people as you can at once. Either way, try sending him a text or calling him once, because if it's only been a few days, he may have gotten busy (you get busy, don't you?) Yes, its unlikely he is that interested if he didn't call right away, but you never know, and you at least could get some feedback.
Who do you think you are ? If you are that interested in him, why didn't you try to at least find out what's going on? Maybe he had an accident, maybe someone close to him is really sick/needs care? Clearly you must think you're something so super special, that everyone should have to chase you. There's a reason why you are 30 and single. It's called "unrealistic expectations".
It sounds as if this particular guy is VERY popular with the ladies. That's why he's being flakey. He tells every attractive woman he meets that he really likes them.
What Girls Said 14
Yes, people can lose interest quickly, especially when you have not known each other long. I agree with not texting him. Not that I wouldn't want closure but it is the rare person who is comfortable enough to tell you what happened to begin with.
he found something better or decided he wasn't ready.
mm sound right but I would tex him asking what's wrong see what happens if he doesn't respond do NOT tex him or call him again even if he has gone off you he should say I don't think this is right I wish you well by so do what you feel is right if you decide not to casll you must totaly forget hm :) plenty more fish in the seaa
Forget about him or do you want a boyfriend that doesn't answer your txts?
Only exception to this is, if you feel there has been a misunderstanding (like you said something that could be taken the wrong way), then you should try to contact him, but overall I think he just hasn't the guts to tell you that he's not interested or that he has something else going on.
I know how your feeling hun,it's difficult for me cos he lives just round the corner..i like him a lot but recently things have been quiet..until Christmas eve when he text me early hours on the morning,why do they do that is what I question?
He's just not that into you. Why would he stop calling someone who's compatible with him? 'Cause he didn't think you were compatible for whatever reason, in the first place. Him dropping off the face of the earth says so much anyway. He hates confrontation, hurting people's feelings, and would rather not take responsibility for the way he made/is making you feel... so really, you're not missing out on much.
this exact thing happened to me and I'm telling you just get over it. He's probably just insecure and has low self esteem. don't bother with him
You are right... Bottom line- Guys must chase girls in order for the relationship to work. Some thing are just human nature. Don't even think about him and move on to the next. Once you pull your energy away from him, watch how fast he contacts you.
That is true that if a man is really into you, he will move heaven and earth to see you. He could have some issue that you aren't aware of or he could've lost the attraction for you. Not necessarliy physical, but you could've pushed him away from being too available, too easy to get for him. Men will be inspired to chase you IF they know that your life is so full and he would be lucky to be a part of it. If he gets the vibe that you're making him the center of your world, unconcisously his attraction for you will diminish and he won't feel compelled to "get" you. I'm not saying it's anything you said or did, just a vibe he picked up on. Believe it or not, men are sensitive and can feel a woman's vibe! That's why it's important to BE hard to get, not PLAY hard to get. Fill your life up with things that make you happy and you will be irresistible to him. If/when he contacts you again, just play it cool, act like you've been busy and just say, "it feels good to hear from you." Don't expect any explanation. If he keeps it up, then move onto to a man who gives you the attention you deserve!
Well it hasn'tbeen too long so just shoot him another text messagee. If he doesn't respond then wait a day and then call him. If he picks joke around saying something like "And here I thought you fell off the planet or something. I was bored and wanted to say hey" or something like that.
If he doesn't respond to the call don't leave a voicemail, instead you just have to wait it out. If he doesn't respond at all there's two options 1 He DID fall off the planet or 2 He may have lost interest.
Remember there's only so much you can do to get him to contact you, if he wants to keep you hanging on his every text then you don't need to be around someone like that anyways.
Nope! Don't contact him...NEXT!
Yep, just forget him. Live your life, and if he calls later and tells you he was going through something, I'd be more cautious about moving forward, slower.
He could just be a player. Often the most charasmatic and charming people who you think you "connect" with, instead have some kind of narcissistic personality disorder or who knows what. But don't believe everything you see in a guy till you see his bad side - everybody has one- communication skills(can he work things out with you or does he just get defensive?RED flag)
I know someone where the guys often lost interest fast becasue she was the one calling and texting the guy first all the time. They had no chase, that classic need for hunting (as corny as it sounds) so it was a turn off. She looked desperate just from that. I do not know if that is the case for you but hopefully I've helped a little.
Oh also, guys easily get turned off by girls who have no other life than him. They often think its a little pathetic if there is no ambition, no involvement in outside life, if she has no other world than him. THIS is very common for girls, for a lot of reasons which I won't take the time to go into. BUT if you'd like to change your life a little or just need a distraction from this guy who left you hanging, here's some GOOD reading:
Honestly, Every guy girl young or old should read these.
First - the psychological pillar upon which all other things are based. ready? "How to Raise Your Self Esteem" by Nathanial Branden. its important.
Second - Loving Him Without Losing You (ok this one, not so much for the gents)
Third - Is it Love or Is It Addiction (forgot who its by) third edition
Last - The How of Happiness - by Sonja Lyubomirsky - she was given 1 million dollar grant to research happiness, and its findings are fascinating. It tailors a plan to you by the quizes you take and ya there's a lot more to it but its quite amazing.
Good Luck Darlin.
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