It's like this. Yes you're quite pretty; You'll get no arguments from me on that one.
Yes in some cases guys can find a beautiful woman quite intimidating. Sometimes guys don't approach the pretty girls because they assume they're taken, or if they're not taken, guys question why, like there's something wrong with her, or something. Like maybe she's a royal bitch. Maybe she's crazy or unstable. Maybe she's got baggage. Stuff like that.
So maybe there is nothing wrong with you, but some guy might hesitate because he's wondering if there is, or maybe he just assumes she's taken, or out of his league, or because she's so pretty, her standards would be astronomical. Heck, just the high standards thing, happens often enough to defeat guys before they try, and you wouldn't believe how many pretty girls are ridiculously shallow. I could go on, but not here. (If you really want to know, ask, and I'll get into it.)
In all cases, mentioned above, it basically begs the question, "why bother?".
Next, yeah, there it's also entirely possible that guys are shy. These guys would likely have somewhat low self esteem. If he's shy, then he'd already be hesitant to approach other girls, and all of this would be amplified with a beautiful girl. There's also a chance that all the above stuff, mentioned earlier, will be amplified. It happens.
As for your final question. You mentioning you being a shy girl. I can guarantee, that is something that adds to your problem. See, it's not that guys don't like shy girls. Shy girls can be really cute. There's nothing wrong with being shy, that people don't like. The problem with being shy is that most shy people kinda hang back. They don't get out there in the social scene as much. They don't stand out. They don't do anything to get noticed. They don't socialize. They don't speak up or say much.
In short, a lot of shy girls are kinda wallflowery; That's part of the problem.
If there's a nice guy, out there -- someone you like, someone you want noticing you, someone you want to approach you -- You gotta get them to notice you. Meaning you, yourself, need to take some risks of your own. Get out there, where he can see you. Where others can see you. Give him something to notice. If not that, then make it more one on one. Do things to flirt with him. Glances, winks, looks, a flip of the hair, sitting a certain (sexy) way. Something. If none of that works, then perhaps get brave and make moves of your own. If that doesn't work, then at least you know he's not interested.
Well, I think that covers just about everything you asked about, and maybe a little more. If you have any questions, feel free to leave me a question or comment in the comments section. Hopefully this was of some help, and if I don't hear back form you, good luck.
I know for me to approach an attractive girl was the most nerve wracking thing in the world. She's so hot why would she want to talk to me? She's attractive she must have a boyfriend already? She probably has so many guys talking to her why would she want to be bothered by me?
It's hard to know if a girl is shy just by looking at her, and in my opinion shyness is extremely cute.
I think you should try to convey non-verbal signals that show a guy that you are available and wouldn't mind be talked to. So make eye contact, smile, try to put yourself in his eyeline so that he at least maybe feels like she is available.
It's funny guys often feel like girls are un-approachable and girls often wonder why they aren't approached. There must be some way the sexes can clear up these disconnects...certainly would make life easier
I understand your pain. I have talked to many of my guy friends about this and they say that 90 percent of the time, if they think a girl is cute or like her, they won't say or do anything bout it. Guys are just scared. I am the same way. Everyone says I'm gorgeous and a sweetheart, but I feel like I have to do all of the work to find a guy. Guys probably find you intimidating. My guy friends all tell me that they thought I was a b**** when they first met me because o the way I looked. Just be friendly and be you! Eventually the right guy will come knocking at your door:)
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I've had my share of shy girls and I actually don't mind them and I think I prefer them. They are usually very sweet. But they can be really difficult to talk to., which can be a big problem sometimes. It's difficult to understand a shy girl, gain insight, get to know her because they often are not really talkers. I always try my best, have a lot of patience and try to make them feel comfortable, but it's still difficult.
You started up yet ANOTHER account to ask about this? This is the third time I've seen you gripe about this, on A THIRD ACCOUNT! Didn't you get your answer the first two times, or did you just not like the answer you got? Do I have to get an admin to erase it?
Maybe you need to take the initiative.
And also, try smiling at guys, making eye contact. I'm guessing, since you're shy, you don't look at guys, smile, visually flirt? That sends the message, "I'm ignoring you lad, so don't waste time trying to chat with me."
I mean, who likes getting the cold shoulder from a girl? And who wants to try to talk to someone ignoring them? You obviously don't want to risk rejection, or you'd be trying to talk to guys yourself.
Guys are like girls: they flock to the one who has the most success. You won't look at a shy and quiet guy either.
My guess:
You might try to start with having some male just-friends, and be seen with them and with their friends. Other guys will notice you more than when you continue to frequent mostly female friends.
Your cute, why don't you approach a guy. Yes the odds are against guys approaching and women do get better results.
Shy girls look like they don't want to talk to anyone, so why bother.
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