Shy guys: I know this guy likes me but he's too shy to even talk to me, If I ignore him will he finally make a move?

[confusedgirl1992]

I've met this very very shy guy a few times its obvious he likes me but he can't even talk to me. I know of him and have met him a couple of times but were not exactly well acquainted. He was super nervous shy when we first met and I have tried to get him to talk a couple of times by smiling and saying hi but he gets all embarrassed and clams up. He has recently been showing up outside my work and seems like he's trying to run into me.

He never tries speaks (Just looks all embarrassed when I have smiled/said hi). I have recently started ignoring him to see if he will make a move.

Will this work or should I just talk to him. Why is he like this?

Yes it might work

No it will never work talk to him

[jessss]

unfortunately shy guys aren't the kind of boy that playing hard to get works with.. you'll either have to befriend him and make him super comfortable around you and then wait for him to make the first move romantically, or you could just waltz on up to him and let me know how you REALLy feel.

[confusedgirl1992]

I don't know how I feel about him because I don't really know him. He is an average looking guy but his shyness is soo cute.

[jessss]

hahah shyness is definitely cute at first, but after having played hard to get with shy boys - i can tell you it always leads to disappointment. shyness is normally a sign of insecurity, so if you're ignoring him he's just going to feel more insecure about the idea of you liking him. so find out what he's into, and spark up a conversation. might be nerveracking but definitely worth it.

[confusedgirl1992]

Will he open up in the end, would you try to befriend him first before asking him out or just go for it

[jessss]

youd be surprised how chatty 'shy' guys can be when they get comfortable. as long as you get him alone, it's likely he'll open right up. JUST DONT BE AWKWARD, cause if you are then he will definitely be. & id probably do them both at once - ask to hang out in a casual place. ice cream date perhaps?

[confusedgirl1992]

In your experience are these sort of guys good to date/have a relationship with. Do they have many friends?

[jessss]

personally they're not my ideal type of guy, but i'm more into douchebags so thats its own issue entirely.
shy guys are like every other guy, he just hasn't had the opportunity to display his personality for you yet. as for the friends part, the only way to find out is to get to know him.

[jessss]

just give it a shot and find out, the more you question it - the more you'll psyche yourself out.

[Luopio27]

AMEN. This is her chance to show that women can be heroes too and accept imperfection of insecurity.

[Longshot]

You'll have to make the first move and make it gently. I suggest you talk to him and tell him you'd like to go for coffee or something like that. Once there is a connection, you may find he'll open up. Ignoring him isn't the way to go.

[confusedgirl1992]

Will he open up quickly or is it a gradual thing. What are these sort of guys like in a relationship? Will h always be awkward?

[Anonymous]

If you ignore him, he likely won't get the courage to talk to you because he won't think you're interested. It sounds like you'll need to approach him. Start a conversation, and ask him questions so he's forced to respond to you.

[confusedgirl1992]

its really difficult when all he does is go red and look at the floor.

[Opinion Owner]

If you like him, you'll have to look past the fact that he gets nervous around you. Pretend like you don't even notice that he's terrified to talk to you otherwise it will make him even more nervous. The more you talk to him, the more comfortable he'll become. It can be hard for guys to talk to girls that they find attractive sometimes because they're over thinking every word that they say to the point that they can't actually get the point across when they speak. But, once he's comfortable around you, you might really hit it off.

[Opinion Owner]

How did it work out for you?

[youhelpmeihelpyou]

If you ignore him, he will think that you moved on. Keep doing what your doing. Say hi in the hallway and eventually, he will get comfortable to talk. most importantly is to be nice at all times or else he will get even more scared

[confusedgirl1992]

Will he change all of a sudden? r should I build the convos over a period

[youhelpmeihelpyou]

you should start the convos first if he's nervous. after a while he will get more comfortable

[Anonymous]

I used to be a shy guy. It took me a while to decide to talk to a girl but once you start ignoring me I would just throw in the towel and give up. It's really just a heartbreaking experience and rarely ever works

[confusedgirl1992]

I feel awful now :(

[Anonymous]

I think it has to come from both sides but thats easier said than done. Try to talk to him on a regular basis. Doesn't matter about what :) He'll be happy without showing it and he will feel morr confident after the little conversation. After a while he will take more initiative to talk to you. Keep making eye contact is also very important because the shy guy will feel like he isn't a bad person because most shy guys think they dont deserve their crush :)

[doctorwhofan23]

He is shy ignoring him will only discourage him, if you want results you need to make the move.

[confusedgirl1992]

will he ever be comfortable? what causes his behaviour?

[doctorwhofan23]

I have never been on a date I get really shy around girls I like. It is just shyness I guess. What if you say "we should hang out" or "when are you going to ask me out" both invite him to ask you out.

[confusedgirl1992]

As a shy guy yourself, How would you react if a girl said this to you.

[doctorwhofan23]

Um I guess I would probbly say that sounds fun and then ask her what she would like to do, or suggestion something low pressure. If she said that to me I would at least know she would say yes and she likes me.

[GoodManDave]

@Asker: Who knows what causes it? I can't say why someone else is shy; I can only give my opinion if I know them personally.

Outside of asking him questions that would be pretty personal (and would probably sound like you're criticizing), which you don't want, all you can do is try to figure out how to handle it.

For me, once I trust someone, I'm fairly comfortable. But sometimes that can take a while.

[confusedgirl1992]

@goodmandave thanks, I was asking Why do you think he keeps showing up outside my work?

[doctorwhofan23]

Showing up outside your work seems creepy honestly

[Shy_Steve]

Of course he wouldn't, So just talk to him so he can get use to you.