Do you think women care too much about physical appearance, in general?

Question

Most questions regarding physical appearance on GaG are asked by girls!

Whether its: Rate 1-10?
Or: What type of body do guys like?

I know guys ask the infamous genital size question, but aside from that, you don't see many guys asking for a rating.
Do you guys agree? If you do or don't please state why!

Mesonfielde · Accepted Answer

"women shave their legs, armpits, condition their hair, wear high heels, wear makeup, and wear lipstick, among other things. It gets to the point where they barely look human!"

They do that because there are a whole bunch of guys who claim "UGH I DON'T WANT TO DATE A GRRL IWTH HAIR ON HER LEGS THAT IS SO UNFEEMININE AND DEESGUSNTINGN NYUHRKJASNKJRNA" and then considering they're the loudest of the bunch, many females assume it is a necessity in order to be liked. That, and in high school, everyone gives you a whole bunch of shit for having unshaven legs, so it's pretty much all about peer pressure. Those who think that legs MUST BE SHAVED will force those who aren't shaving it to do so because otherwise they'd feel like their efforts were in vain. They get reassurance by persuading others into following the same stupid crap as they do. Technically, it's like religion. Pretty much the same mechanics.

That, and females are pretty much conditioned to believe that physical appearance is the only thing that matters. The problem is, that many guys are conditioned to suppress their emotions, disable their empathy, and actually will start looking for "A GIRLFRIEND" not someone to establish a relationship with but "a girlfriend" who could be anyone as long as they "look okay and are presentable and want sex", so basically the common population will end up actually adhering to this physical appearance-based assessment in which males basically treat females as live good-looking sex toys that you're meant to conquer. This is our current culture! Wonderful, right?

Anyways, if you want more info on why people obsess so much about appearance, watch KILLING US SOFTLY 4. People don't learn to value their natural beauty, and accept themselves as they are. But it seems to me that the general male population seems to have forgotten how to do that as well.

MrScTi · Accepted Answer

If you were to graph a line displaying the volume of appearance questions asked by the girl's age, you'd notice a spike the size of the dotcom bubble between ages 14-18. After that, they appear less and less as age increases. Why does this happen? There are two arguments, one being tied to biological and sociological factors where a teenager is entering the early stages of adulthood and must learn of where they stand in society. An identity is being forged, and this is the birth of self-awareness. (Note, it is entirely possible that environmental factors as well as genetic factors can hinder this process resulting in older men/women seeking the same approval).

The day grandma asks a "Rate Me" question (assuming she's on the internet) is the day Hell freezes over.

The other argument is that men and women never really get over this phase and they somehow find love and develop self awareness in other ways and therefore have no need to ask these questions as they get older.

If the media is really responsible then these insecurities would remain consistent throughout our entire lives because the media doesn't go away. There would be no spike followed by a dip. It has to be in our nature and a mechanism for developing identity.

EyeSeaYew · Accepted Answer

Yes. I understand being presentable and hygienic but some girls are far too caught up in looking good (whether they'll admit it or not) and spend too much time on that crap. Th

My mother raised me to care the most about my personality and who I am on the inside. I'm thankful for that. Don't get me wrong, I try to pick out clothes that are good for my body type and fit me well and I take good care of my hair and all that but looking good isn't my top priority. I'm not trying to say that all fashionable or feminine girls are superficial. You can be very feminine and look great without being too caught up in your looks. I just think that when it gets to the point where you're, more often than not, conscious about how you look, it's going too far.

Physical appearance has it's place but it certainly isn't high on my priority list. I'll work on what I can by staying fit and active, wearing clothes that fit well, and taking care of my hair, but there are better things to do with my time than always care about how I look.

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musicbrain5 · Accepted Answer

Women are judged on their appearance WAY more than men are. By the media, by other women, by friends and family, by men they want to date, by society in general, etc. Men don't really have a standard of beauty to meet to look good. Hairy legs don't look good on women, trust me, I have hairy ass legs that nobody wants to see. So I get rid of the hair.

I condition my hair once or twice a week because it's dry, not because I think that's what I should be doing. I don't wear high heels a whole lot because I have flat feet and I'm already 6'1". With everything else though, makeup and all of that, I think less is more. Some women wear way too much and that's what distorts the perceived standard of beauty. There is too much makeup, air brushing, and photoshopping done in advertisements and TV/movies as well, and that affects how women perceive themselves as well.

So a lot of women care a lot, but not all do. I really don't. As long as I don't look like I just rolled out of bed, I'm pretty good to go.

Izzy2102 · Accepted Answer

Well on here you get quite a lot of those questions from guys too.

But yes I agree with you in general. Though in case it's not clear girls do that because they think men care about that only or at least mostly when looking for a partner. If it annoys send girls you know the message that you value them for other things than her body. It's not only men, it's also to big parts the media. But if you've ever been to the comment section of pictures or videos of hot girls and then in comparison to those of women who are not as perfect, you know that men do their fair share in shaking girls self esteem

And I mean some of the things you listed, guys kinda expect. Trust me not half as many women would shave their legs if guys would react postivley to this
https://9gag.com/gag/aAYnZ3Z
look at the comments though. Same goes for make up. You may say you prefer the natural but in reality we can observe that a lot of guys go for girls with loads of make up on

Belleza2 · Answer

Oh hell yeah, women nowadays are actually lost with how they are supposed to look and feel...

Blame the media, blame the image and the propaganda of what a woman is supposed to actually look like - every woman that gets dressed to go out never does it for herself anymore but rather for the guy or to look better than the other woman - why? I do not know, seriously though why are women in competition with one another?

Women by nature, no matter how much they deny are ALL INSECURE so what does she have to do in order to not show her flaws or insecurity - play the part, either look like a skeleton - the way the media portrays a woman to be or pound on a ton of makeup to not show how she really looks - you will be surprised as to how a woman really looks underneath all that makeup - I am not going to lie, I love makeup but do I wear it everyday - hell no, its not for me - not even an eyeliner...

Let's not forget the clothes and the heels - do not even get me started how some women would rather go through pain then coming out of the house with comfort, I love heels but not 12 inch heels - 6 is the most I go up and even that hurts my feet if I wear them for too long.

You also have to consider the reason why women care about appearance, ask yourself would you go out with a girl that looks like she just changed to work in a barn? Probably not. Some women really do it for the guys, so guys could notice them, so guys would still consider them sexy when she is not wearing all that crap - believe me you are to blame at some point, sure hygiene matters but that goes for everybody but some guys expect the best - a trophy...

Which is why some girls ask their boyfriends or husband or lover "Am I Beautiful?" To guys, its annoying when she constantly asks you that but to us - we seriously feel like there is a competition because the moment I will not look the part, you will look at another girl so what do you want us to do? "Or is she prettier than me?"

Anonymous · Answer

You know this question is kind of funny, cause when it comes to dating women seem to care less about their partners appearance then men do.
But when it comes to their own appearance it's a totally different story.

I think that it's not appearances per say that we care about, it's about ritual and self confidence. When i put time into my appearance, like spending 2 hours getting ready for an evening out, it's a ritual for me. It's fun and enjoyable. And the feeling of having smooth skin or soft hair (after shaving or using a conditioning treatment) is incredible. I feel different, better... probably because most beauty products smell amazing.

This is probably just me, not all women are like this of course. But heels, yes they can hurt and feel uncomfortable at times but they are just so pretty and in them my posture is better, and i feel taller and more confident. Again, it may just be me, but my appearance is closely related to how i feel. There's that saying: In the right heels, i can conquer the world.

cece97 · Answer

According to you (and I'm not trying to sound offensive or anything but this is what I got from above) , women who "shave their legs, armpits, condition their hair, wear high heels, wear makeup, and wear lipstick, among other things" care too much about their appearance. I can understand that there are those women out there who take their makeup and high heels to a whole other level, but not all girls are like that, and the ones who are either don't care and think they are top shit or are the ones after attention. Some of them actually don't look human lol but I wouldn't say all girls or even most of them are too focused on their appearance

thatawesometeen00 · Answer

I'm a 14 year old girl obvious I shave and was my hair and things that are to do with general healthy, but I don't like wearing makeup or getting dressed up i'm perfectly fine with a band t-shirt, jeans and vans. I don't know how to curl my hair I just put it in a pony tail or down, I have it dip dyed because it looks cool and I wear beanies most of the time. But most girls do worry about everything and I just think if a guy is going to like me then he'll like me for who I really am not some makeup slavered bimbo.

BloodyEyeliner · Answer

Not all girls are like that though.. I never shave my legs, i got light hair so its not very noticable and I dont care enough lol. Even guys shave armpits so you won't sweat as much and the skin gets irritated. I never wear high heels, dont really feel like falling every 5 minutes and break something. I only wear a little eyeliner under my eyes. Condition your hair? Everyone has to do that if they have at least semi-long hair, just common sense.
I think most girls do what you described, caking on makeup and shaving every inch of their body, because of the social standards. They are told to be pretty, while being shown a model of what "pretty" is and then replicate it. So guys will like them. Heck, so they will like themselves too. Its the media.

allnite69withme · Answer

most do, mainly because of the intense pressure on women from the media. MAny guys do not like stick-thin women, and any guy with a brain does not like a beautiful woman with nothing between her ears (think Kardashian!). A woman who may be "average looking, but has confidence, a sense of humor, and some intelligence is far more attractive to many of us. Now, if you are more intelligent than most men (not hard to be) try not to let him know!!! I have no problem with brainy women, but I am a gerius (who can't type). Most men are not.

pr3ttybr0wn · Answer

what guy wants a woman with hairy legs & armpits, dry hair, men always talk about how sexy women look in heels, discolored skin, and plain looking lips

u criticize women for being superficial but then women who are plain janes tend to rarely get male attention. guys who say they want a girl w no makeup are really envisioning a naturally hot gorgeous model type with natural looking makeup. the avg everyday girl who doesn't do her hair or wear makeup looks frumpy and is often encouraged to fix herself up if she wants to attract a man

girls I see in real life who don't do any of that artificial shit are not seen as pretty compared to girls who do. most men would pick a girlie girl Barbie type over a plain mousey regular chick
I don't know any guy with options who would want a woman who doesn't take care of herself

Zendrya · Answer

I can't remember ever really liking myself appearance wise except for maybe that once in a blue moon when I am in a killer outfit. Like even as an elementary student I didn't like myself. I know that I care too much. I have known that for years but that doesn't help my situation. I don't really know what caused me to hate myself. Like I don't think it was media although as a teen girl it doesn't help. Although my boyfriend likes me completely natural. Doesn't like it when I wear make up, doesn't care if I have stubbly legs, and prefers me in some comfy sweats over a fancy dress. That helps a lot of the time but I also strive to have other people I walk by on the street or in school or whatever think I am beautiful even though I have confirmation at home. But to answer your question I do think women care too much about their physical appearance and furthermore they tend to not care so much about their personality... Well in highschool anyway.

snowangle · Answer

Do you want us to stop conditioning our hair and shaving our body and wearing cute clothes (including heels) and makeup? As other girls have said, we care because men do.

I totally understand not being attracted to girls who overdo it, but you have to admit we look nice when we do it. Like this www.mynewhair.info/.../15-christina-aguilera.jpg versus this ameliebeaute.com/.../natural-makeup-71000.jpg

Yeah I'm mostly referring to makeup here. Only because that's really the main "area" girls tend to overdo it. Everything else you listed, though, is simply expected of us.

Botchie · Answer

Ordinarily I would say to blame the media, but then I thought about it a little more and realized that if girls just didn't care about the media and being judged just like the try to be (independent in her thoughts and actions). I feel as tho if girls were to just block out the media, or just filter it for trends that they actually like, they would be much happier with their lives in general. Not only would they have more free time, they wouldn't have to worry about guys always hitting on them as much, attracting the wrong type of guy who only likes her for her looks, more time (it's so important it should be stated twice haha) and ideally (and I emphasize this greatly) no competition between girls in terms of looks which ideally (same emphasis) would make for better relationships with friends of either gender.

Dcosse · Answer

I think women tend to focus on beauty more because if you look back in history, there weren't many ways for a woman to be successful other than marrying a rich man. For a rich man to want you, you'd have to be beautiful. Men tend to focus in success more because in order for a beautiful girl to want you, you had to be rich. Subconsciously, I believe that mentality of beauty and success has stuck with us for a very long time. Also, beauty has more value in a woman than a man. A woman can be as successful as Bill Gates, and people would still try to pick out her one physical flaw and make fun of it forever. Because women are "supposed" to be beautiful while a man is "supposed" to be successful. People rarely make fun of the ugly rich man, but the ugly rich woman people still see as valueless.

Kinstrome · Answer

In general, yes. There are things women do to enhance their appearance that genuinely do look very good, and I appreciate the effort, but some things to me are quite unnecessary. High heels seem dangerous to walk in, getting an artificial tan is not necessary, and women don't need to put in so much effort for their hair I'm sure. (friend in college revealed she hadn't showered in 3 days one time, and she looked perfectly fine) They aren't a replacement for good conversation skills or friendliness.

To be completely honest, though, it would be hard for me to feel sexually attracted to hairy legs. It may technically be a culture-based thing to like shaven legs, but it also makes sense why they are sexually interesting to men. We like flesh and curves.

Johannaxo · Answer

There is nothing wrong with caring about your looks and wanting to look pretty/attractive. Whatever that means for her personally, is their business. This bothers you because?

Rate me questions are different from a person who just likes to take care of themselves and their appearance." Rate me" usually comes off as an insecure person who is fishing for compliments IMO.

Just because a person takes pride in their appearance doesn't mean that they are insecure about their looks and it doesn't mean that their appearance is the ONLY thing that they care about. I don't see a problem.

Anonymous · Answer

Yes, they care way too much about physical appearance, their own and that of the guys they are interested in. They care way more about looks than men. There is nothing wrong with looking good or wanting a good looking partner, but when you have body image issues, blow large portions of your income on clothing, makeup, hand bags, etc, can't leave the house without a little make up, spend hour (s) getting ready, idealize/aspire to be like some famous person because you think they are pretty, try to change the way your man dresses, become obsess with a guy that you haven't even got to know just because he's hot, try to attract that guy by wearing a new outfit or getting your hair done, etc. then it becomes pretty sad. It's kind of insulting a lot of times when girls think all they have to do is look better, dress nicer, eat less, etc. and then they will deserve my attention.

ice_ice_deedee · Answer

I dont really care what other people think of me i care more about what i think of myself, but saying i dont care about other peoples opinions is a lie. everyone cares about what other people think even if its just a little bit. shaving is the same as showering its something u do to feel clean. Conditioning ur hair is the same as washing ur hair so it doesn't look or feel gross. I don't personally wear makeup but other people do either it makes them feel better or what but its up to them. guys do things for themselves too but ur standards arnt as high as they are for girls.

nerumase · Answer

One of my ex-boyfriends preferred me without makeup, didn't care about stubble after shaving and loved my size too, I've had other men give similar opinions... general consensus was that they just love the natural look (and I MEAN natural, not barely there makeup to look natural, I never wear makeup), what you see is what you get look, they just didn't care. And then there are guys who do, who usually pull a gross face when they see me, and move on to my more attractive, made-up friends :p In my eyes, that's no great loss, I wouldn't want a shallow sad git like that anyways... point is, please don't judge blokes and think they're all the same.

AngelsFalling · Answer

I think it's nice to look good, but I don't worry about it that much. I think people in general worry about their appearances too much I just think girls are more vocal about it. I actually shave my legs in the summer because it keeps me cool though in the winter you might at well call me Bigfoot. :P

Theguyoverthere · Answer

A lot yes, but I have also dated some who were not obsessive about that stuff too and could come out in jeans and a T shirt. Some girls on here even say they get more male attention without it. Many guys don't want to go out to dinner with a girl who spends more time in the bathroom "preparing" for an event she's already at than the actual date itself. By the time she finishes her makeup, the date's over!

babyqurllll · Answer

yes! I care a lot and I still feel there's more I need to do, bc there's probably hundreds of things I feel like needs to be done just to look good. For me, it's mandatory to do some things. I won't leave the house unless I'm showered, dressed in clean decent clothes, teeth brushed, and at least cover up on my face. But that's just looking decent, then there's the whole shaving legs and armpits so you don't look hairy, putting on eye makeup, waxing eyebrows, worrying about body fat, worrying about our hair & hair color & style, dressing in nice clothes, the shape of our nose, and I could still name more lol ugh it's stressful.

But, guys do focus on looks and so do just people in general. It hurts to be called ugly so we do what we can to prevent that.

Marihorror · Answer

Men care about appearance more than they think which is why we do it. I use to be the type of girl that never put much effort into my appearance and I use to never get attention from men. Guess what happened when I took the time to put a little makeup on, moisturize my skin religiously, style my hair, etch? Guys could get enough!

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