Why do girls want to be treated like objects?

Question

I'm the type of guy that would tell my girlfriend that she is beautiful everyday of the week. They type of guy that would make her feel special and text her a good morning text every day. I'm the type of guy who would go out of my way to protect my woman, but girls don't want that. They want a guy who will treat them like some sort of object. Do you know how many times I've been told to "just get the head" from a girl, like she isn't a human being, only a sex machine? Girls like that shit too. They like being treated like objects. What ever happened to chivalry? To respect? All my friends care about is getting sex from a girl, I'm the only one that cares about meeting a cool girl that I'm attracted to physically and personality wise who I can bond with. Why do you girls want to be treated like objects?

Anonymous · Accepted Answer

I appreciate those things, like having a protective, sincere gentleman for a boyfriend. I'm not a friggin' sex machine, and anyone who thinks that's all I'm good for can shove their heads back up their asses, because I am a self-respecting young woman who deserves a chivalrous guy. I hate that girls I know nowadays are treated like (and also act like) sex toys that can be thrown around without a care, because that's not how I see myself and that's not how I want others to see me. I'm not okay with having flings with random jerks who only care about sex, and I won't lower myslef to that level because I know I'm worth more than that; I have myself a respectful gentleman of a boyfriend and I adore him greatly.

Also, being a nice guys isn't a bad thing. The whole point of dating isn't to suck dick and fuck around- "dating" is getting to know someone because you have an interest in them. A nice guy would do just that. They wouldn't be expecting a bj at the end of a first date, they would be kind and open and genuinely interested in the person they're on a date with. Don't get dating and hookups confused, my dears in the comments.

In actuality, being respectful and chivalrous to a girl you're dating is really bold and shows strength. If he willing to defend for her, support her, care for her, and protect her, then he's stronger than any guy who thrives off having girls suck them off. Just saying. It takes a real man to genuinely care for and be there for his woman.

natured · Accepted Answer

Well you really threw this out to ALL of us, and I can guarantee you, that not everyone likes to be treated like objects, i have no idea with what kind of girls you are surrounded with, but i can guarantee you, that this assumption is wrong.

My man is like you, he texts me goodmornings and goodnights, he holds doors open for me and treats me like a princess, and honestly, I LOVE HIM and i would not change him for no other man in this world...

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Anonymous · Accepted Answer

these masochists you describe in no way represent all girls or even most of them. they are just a loud minority. most of us need just a loving, masculine man that stands on his own feet. if you are fun to be around, kind, and not a doormat. you will be ok with most girls.

Anonymous · Accepted Answer

why the fuck are you asking us. ask your girlfriend and stop boasting about "how good you are" on gag.

MazeOfLove · Accepted Answer

From a relationship coaching lens, I wouldn't generalize 'girls' here. Having been in this business for 10+ years and having seen 500 clients, most girls/women do not want to be treated like objects. Even the ones that are really into sex don't want to be treated like objects, they just want someone that can take control in the moment. There is something to be said about some women being more attracted to the 'bad boys' or the 'jerks' but that is generally because they associate 'bad boys' and 'jerks' with men who are confident and assertive. Sooner or later, these women realize that they are not looking for the right attributes in men and they move on from that unhealthy type.

I-am-a-nobody · Accepted Answer

I can sympathize, but...
You're generalizing. For some women it's a phase. Many others never want to be mere objects, but they are usually quieter and get less of the limelight. You're hanging out with the wrong people (probably the loud slutty type). I realize the "rules" have changed since I was dating, but you should probably listen to the older guys here, who have witnessed female behavior for a generation or two. Don't compromise. Keep looking for a woman that wants a real man, not some boy who just wants to get laid.

Work on yourself. Be the kind of man that a decent woman would want.

Unit1 · Answer

Well, this is a bit tricky.
But what comes first in my mind is that you aren't looking broad enough for girls, meaning you haven't met a girl, who wants to be loved. She is out there somewhere.
Second thing comes in mind is that i see where you are coming from and i feel you.
Third thing comes in mind: While you have a chance and are willing to you can have your share of the sex if its that easy - if you don't mind risking your reputation that is.

But mostly you should keep looking out for good girls if you want a good girl, not a sex-machine.

Kayla45 · Answer

I've never voluntarily asked to be stepped on or treated like I'm worthless, some people have zero respect for others so it seems like we are at fault but in reality that's the furthest from the truth. Everyone is guilty of mistreatment, men and women both. Some are way worse than others, whether it's verbal abuse or being treated like an object as you said.

ShaunaM95 · Answer

I certainly don't want to be treated as an object. Anyone who treats women like objects is disgusting in my opinion. I have no time for people like that at all.

Anonymous · Answer

I guess most are now obsessed with sex. They forget, sex needs to stay in the bedroom. Personally, I don't like my "interests" to happen to me in public. I prefer things to be with someone I trust and private. If some random person came off the street and tried that, I'd be pissed. But my interest? It'd be hot.

Anonymous · Answer

first of all, if you treat a girl better than she treats you or has treated you, first she'll get confused and then she'll take advantage of you. second of all, keep the interplay between masculinity and femininity in mind when you ask these types of questions. outside of that, just know that a bunch of people are just going to say "not all women" and you won't get an answer.

Love_Is_Eternal · Answer

Haven't you learned by now that most women are brainwashed and that nice guys finish last? Sorry, but if you are a nice guy seeking love and commitment, I'm afraid it's over for you. Feminism and the media have completely brainwashed women and given them brain damage. Love, commitment, and happy families is almost extinct. And besides, in a few decades the West will be Islamic countries. Just face it, it's over.

SarahsSummer · Answer

We don't. It sounds like that's what your friends think of us. maybe you should think about better friends instead of thinking we want to be objects.

karahiri · Answer

Some girls will want you, some won't. Can't really expect everyone to want what you're offering because you think that's how it should be.

curiousmehehe · Answer

according to research all DNA are not same and they can't be. some girls dont want to get in relationship so they do such things so they could be independent but some girls need a boy who take care of them and understand them.

danyalovettie44 · Answer

Most girls don't but it's sad some girls act like that out of insecurity or in want of attention.

Anonymous · Answer

It's the first time seeing a guy that do like that, I think it's more like you are the only guy that thinks like that, I really hate that girl act like that, but not all the girls are like that, you are actually only the second guy that I ever heard that really want to love a girl and not an abject/ a machine

lizzye · Answer

it seems a sexist question. why don't u say men with great desire for sex are sex machines?

SovereignessofVamps · Answer

Because she could see it differently, like how she sees the sex acts.

AleDeEurope · Answer

Dude, at your age, most girls are just looking for sex. They want relationships later in life.

AlwaysBelieving · Answer

I think that's just your experience man. I don't think people (in general... male or female) want to be treated as objects. *clears throat* civil rights and the slaves circa 1865 *clears throat*

FýrdracaDócincel · Answer

Chill out. They're advising you to start taking the initiative when it comes to sex, not enslave her and keep her chained up in your basement. Jesus..

disgustingweebtrash · Answer

Milady

HarryJBenton · Answer

Have you actually tried initiating a relationship with any of these girls or are you waiting for them to throw themselves at you?

Topkek · Answer

Because women like getting treated like shit. Plain and simple.  There's a reason why the statement "Nice guys finish last" is true.

Anonymous · Answer

Do both.  Some girls love both.  Tenderness plus wild sexual objectification? Yes.

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