Because as a result of being shy you're coming off as socially awkward. Some times being socially awkward means you're shy and nothing more than that. But you know who else is usually socially awkward? Nut jobs. You're displaying the same socially introverted and awkward traits that people associate with creepy people.
Some times creeps can be extroverts, charming, etc. People never identify them as creeps until it's too late. Just the same, normal people can be introverted and awkward, and be mistaken as creepy people when they might not be.
Some things I did notice though. You said when you like a girl, you like her so much. That isn't a good thing. You don't really know these girls like that, so when you develop an unwarranted level of interest, that IS creepy. Well-adjusted people take a certain acceptable level of interest in people they are attracted to and don't know. People that AREN'T well-adjusted are prone to take too much interest in somebody they should be THAT interested in, or they take too little interest in people they are SUPPOSE to be taking an interest in.
There's definitely a social norm to how much interest you have, and how long it's suppose to take to develop a stronger interest. If you are becoming very interested, very quickly, I would suggest taking a step back and doing some self-evaluating as to why you continue to make this same mistake. I find that people who don't have much experience with relationships tend to be the most likely to become too quickly attached to people. It's a bad thing because this quick attachment that develops is superficial and not based on real-life information about the person. It's legitimately unwarranted. People who are quick to attach are prone to be the same people who quickly detach when their expectations of the person falter. (After all, the strong attachment and liking that formed wasn't a result of real-world information. Once the real-world information betrays the imaged information they made up, they detach quickly.)
Some advice, take it or leave it.
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Creepy usually means unattractive. The majority of girls are attracted to confident approaches, so a shy guy approaching is unattractive and, by extension, creepy. Don't let it get to you, it's not personal.
i don't really like shy guys because when they don't talk us "good-looking" girls, it actually pisses us off. mostly because they don't make any sense and we can't understand anythng that is going through their mind. there is this one shy guy who when he talks to me... he just makes me feel like he hates me because he doesn't say much, but really his problem is that he is shyer than ever. I don't know it just always kinda makes me super upset at how shy they are
and there is another shy guy that goes to my school everyone is inlove with him but it seems like a waste because he's so shy... and honestly I think he is creepy because of that I don't know that's just what I feel like about shy guys...
from my point of view, I prefer shy guys than brazen ones because most likely they aren't the womanizer types. I think you're just expressing in your own way that you indeed like her but unfortunately maybe you're just not her type. or maybe you expressed to her too soon that you liked her so girls generally find that uncomfy. maybe it would help if you don't show it too much, i.e. you can be friendly but add some mystery - girls would like to find you out...good luck and don't be too shy, most of all just be yourself! eventually you'll meet that wonderful girl that likes you back!
who says that's creepy?i would LOVE it if I could find a shy guy like that who liked me.i really don't understand how that's creepy lol
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i wouldn't consider that creepy, :( I think its kinda cute actually.
"Creepy" is kind of an overused term, I think.
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