Did I make a mistake sleeping with him on the second date?
So I have gone out to dinner with a guy twice in the last 2 weeks. The first night we met, it was at a bar and we hung out at his house after. He... Show More
Most Helpful Opinion
I did the same thing with my boyfriend. I'm not the type to do that kind of thing either, but in some ways it sort of validated our feelings I guess. I knew after our first date that I was in love, and so did he. (We didn't express that to each other for a while though) I've never been the type to believe in "love at first sight" or "soulmates", but now I absolutely do. On our second date, he actually made me dinner at his house, and I was a little apprehensive about it. Things started getting physical really quick, but we both backed down. We had a discussion about how we should wait until we were ready... we were ready about 2 hours later. It opened up a lot of discussion for us. Neither of us normally sleep with someone on the first date, or even within the first couple of months. And this wasn't just casual sex either... it was really amazing, loving sex. And we've been together almost a year! If it felt right, don't regret it. It sounds like he is really into you, and it may have been the right move for you guys.
What Guys Said 3
I think he is looking for more then sex.Usually when people are looking for sex they won't call you or text you and will ignore you when you text them.They will spend as little time with you as they can and they won't take you to dinner.They won't talk to you all night.I really think he loves you,but just take it as it comes its really to soon to say.Dont get too emotional until you know for sure or you will just get hurt.He was probably just busy at work or something so that's why he didn't text you till later and sometimes if you spend all day texting someone when you go to see them you won't have anything to talk about.I always hear that sex too soon ruins relationships,but all the girls I have been with all they wanted was sex and I can tell you nothing more then one night stands ever came of it.Its not what I wanted,it was always their choice to have sex and then ignore me afterward LOL.I think if the person is normal and not screwed in the head it won't matter how soon you have sex.To me it sounds kind romantic,what you guys did.And I love to cuddle.Usually people that are just looking for sex won't cuddle or they leave right after they won't spend the night with you.You could also just tell him you want to slow down with the sex and see what happens if he wants more he will continue to come see you and spend time with you.Give him a chance and see what happens,just don't get to emotionally involved too soon.Being hurt sux more then being alone!
I hear girls saying they sleep with a guy early on and say they normally don't do that. Is that to be believed? I hear it quite often, and I've always assumed that it is an excuse that girls throw out there because they are worried about this exact situation. How many times is it the actual truth?
And to answer your question: I don't know. It depends on the guy. It depends on the near future. There's now way of knowing, and there's no way to undo what you've done, so just take it as it comes.
What Girls Said 4
I was in a similar situation (we met at a bar, talked all night, the first date we mostly just talked, then made out at the end, but I ended up sleeping with him on the second date, then we cuddled all night), and he ended up asking me on a third date, over the course of which he showed me that he wasn't just in it for sex. Our fourth date will be on Friday, and I'm super excited. So don't panic, it's probably no big deal. That being said, every guy's different. Some guys just see it as having good chemistry, like you said... But in the meantime, don't stress about something that's out of your hands. Personally, I think that if he's willing to spend all day talking to you, and enjoying your company on more than just a sexual level, then that's a good sign that he's not just in it for the sex. Then again, he's a man. Who knows?! Only time will tell! Just try not to get too obsessively worried about it! Good luck :)
it sounds like he is looking for more as he did text you everyday for a week. so he was a little late texting you one day..you went out to dinner with him after that happened so it's not like he was trying to ignore you!
Something like this happened to me. It just got weird after a week actually. I tend to see it as a bad sign after that, but I think it depends on what kind of person you are.