Are cold unapproachable and unfriendly looking men a turn off for women?

[Anonymous]

If a guy appears to be a cold, unapproachable, unfriendly guy is that a turn off for most girls?

Yes

No

I'm a guy and I want to see the answer.

[dupe666]

Stoic, quiet, serious dude who is hiding the fact that's socially retarded? -. o
I'm cool with that.
I'm hyper, cheerful and goofy af. Half my friends are quiet social retards. They make themselves appear "cool" because they think it will make the more appealing to others and because they suck at socialising, but connecting with them can be like pulling teeth. For that you have to open up and share both emotion and information. If such people don't drop their bullshit guard around me (and we both know it's bullshit), I'm out after some time (my current best female friend had a whole year of token effort from me before I got to know her in debt). Though I have this thing where I constantly have to save people. Alone, sad wallflowers are like shit to my fly-senses.

A stoic, quiet, serious dude who hates interacting with humans and is rude?
I stay away. Misanthropes annoy me. They're usually quite stupid. Not a rule, but it's often the case.

[joe_joe]

As a guy, can confirm I tried to act quiet and "serious" to appear cool to mask my lack of social skills.

[dipta]

I don't see how it would be a turn on. Even the cool bad guys know how to smirk and help the old lady cross the street, if that's what you're aiming for... it's not being cold, but cool. Think James Bond, although you don't have to be promiscuous. Nor a real spy...
Treat everyone nicely without being too nice. Give the fat lady a cake treat, like my friend says (he's pretty good with the ladies too) and she will spread it across town how such a great guy you are.

[Account]

If I'd ask you the same question about a girl, how would you answer?
Plus, how would you approach her in the first place if she was unapproachable?
As for me, cold is alright but I'd want the guy to put an effort into getting to know me. Otherwise, I won't bother.

[NUBIANPRINCE]

this is a lie, im cold as can be but for some reason girls think im a good person, ill be who i want to be, cold and heartless.

[Prettygurl12]

Uh... duh? What would make us interested in him when he exudes creepy, don't talk to me, I'm going to sell you drugs in a back alley and then murder you, vibes?

I'm only kind of kidding about the vibes part, but seriously. How are we supposed to find a guy attractive who gives off no enticing vibes?

[Asker]

What are these enticing vibes?

[Prettygurl12]

A friendly guy? An approachable guy? One who is kind and smiles?

[Hannah591]

I find them more mysterious but if they look like they're fresh out of prison, then it's a turn off. I like guys who could be considered as "outcast". I'm weird, I know.

[Asker]

You're not weird, you like what you like.

[ollymay123]

Personally, I am turned off by guys who flirt too much. A guy who is cold and hard to approach makes me interested at him, like wanting to know more about him, how he acts when more comfortable, his inner thoughts, ideas, etc. BUT a guy who is unfriendly or rude can be a turn off. Being unfriendly differs from simply not being friendly.

[Anonymous]

these type of guys are a HUGE turn off first of all they are creepy and i will feel that if i will approach him he might hurt me i mean he is quiet and cold.. undetermined so he might do anything so yes i'd rather go for a sweet, funny, and caring guy who will take care of me and i will also

[almostgirl8]

guys who are like that just give off a "don't talk to me" type vibe... I've met guys like that and theyre a little scary lol

[Asker]

I probably come off as scary haha.

[Anonymous]

No. It's the opposite fot me. Maybe because my dad is that way and they say that a girl is more attracted to guys who are like her father. I feel more familiar with those kind of guys and I don't like for example guys who cry.

[Asker]

Yeah I don't cry in public or in the presence of another person.

I'm also a friendly person who is capable of being quite warm, but it takes me a long time with people and that's why I think a lot of people avoid me or have as little to do with me as possible.

[Opinion Owner]

Are you shy?
I enjoy making a type like that express more. For the attention, it's not a turn off for me at all, it's the opposite. However, I need a lot of attention. For example,
if he doesn't answer my texts in a short period, this may draw me away.
I particularly like if he is self-sufficient.

[Asker]

I'm shy and what I mentioned above is how I come across to people initially.

[findingdreamland]

I picked the word, unfriendly here. His personality can be cold ok, but being unfriendly is not understandable. Not just a partner, also as a friend I don't prefer to be honest.

[Alexzktra]

I chose "I'm a guy and I want to see the answer" because you didn't have a choice for "I'm a lesbian".. :(

[Alexzktra]

Though tbh it was as I expected.

[Anonymous]

It depends on the circumstances. But yea some bad boys are hot xD depends on how cold he is really if you're in a relationship with him and he doesn't even smile at you than no but if he just looks intimidating than its fine

[KBob93]

Yeah... it's like, I'll better adhere to a man more receptive of me.

[Bethany22]

Depends on if he responds well to friendliness. If he doesn't then I've forgotten about him.

[dazedandconfused223]

Lets see are "cold unfriendly looking women" a turn on to you?

[Alexzktra]

yes, tbh..

[Anonymous]

yes it is a real turn off to act like edward in fucking twilight

[Asker]

I've never watched Twilight.

[Alexzktra]

lmfao

[ldrccarter]

men like that make me want them more

[Asker]

Why?

[pinkZeta]

Yes they are no use and a huge turn off

[Asker]

Why are they no use? Bear in mind the guy isn't actually cold, unapproachable and unfriendly. He just appears this way to people he doesn't initially knows but warms up to them eventually.

[pinkZeta]

Well how are girls or anyone suppose to know if it's alright to approach a cold unapproachable person? If girls have their bitch face on and look unfriendly or cold would anyone wanna talk to them?

[Asker]

You raise a valid point.

[TheStupidBlondie]

Its really turn off what a scary guy.

[Asker]

Scary in what sense?

[youngrasshoper]

Isn't it obvious?

[Klaatu51]

no not always

[Anonymous]

Of course.