Is it possible that a shy guy be a alpha male?

[JustinX]

i mean alpha males are considered attractive to most women... is it a thing can be learned or trait from birth... if you are alpha male... how do you read a woman's body language? how can you get woman easily? what are the steps?

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yeah damn james bond is one of the most popular alpha males out there... although he is fictional but the character is based on a real guy

[Levin]

Popularised notions of alpha and beta are pretty retarded (too black and white), and anyone who aspires to be alpha on that basis really doesn't understand, very well. However the terms have some descriptive and instructive utility.

As a meditator, it definitely seems like you fluctuate between different brain-wave states. There's inevitability about cycling through all of them, including the generally perceived to be the worst and weakest (presumably beta and delta); where despite how mighty you dream to be, this is really a state of denial that is barely papering over the simmering fearfulness and submissiveness.

The upshot to this is manifold. I'm definitely shy, and don't have the most shall we say, conventional approach, socially, and yet, I definitely often find myself in higher brain wave states where as I say, I am relaxed, focused and utterly fearless (to the extent that this is possible in the human body). The frequency with which I find myself in these states has increased gradually through meditation. This implies that certain aspects of personality may predominate, but they can do so in so called, 'higher' brain wave states.

Now to more practical matters, most people misunderstand meditation. It is mostly used as a form of escape from so called karma, which is basically, your subconscious, which houses your repressed unpleasant past experiences, all the psychological trauma, fear, depression, anxiety, all the good stuff...

Now if meditation is used as an escape, then as most people report, it may well help for a while, but the results will be superficial. If on the other hand, you use it to revisit those past events, repressed fears, traumas, and work through them, and allow yourself to feel shit, then the fear underpinning them starts to dissolve, and you find yourself less bound by these experiences, and more in higher brain wave states.
'One does not become enlightened by imagining figures of light, but by making the darkness conscious'

[JustinX]

Wow the explanation is long

[Qwazihomo]

Yeah it suvks being beta, bit you can reach alpha by finding confidence, through getting in shape to just forcing yourself to talk with chicks and gradually getting better at it.

[JustinX]

yeah that is a common answer

[Qwazihomo]

Its an effective method

[JustinX]

yeah... as always easier said than done

[Qwazihomo]

Thats also true

[szablowskii]

Body build, character, charisma, self confidence, inteligance and then there's money and sucess. Everyone loves a winner.

[JustinX]

true that

[maiez]

you can't be shy, i was once shy, now after just breaking out of my shell I am more alpha than my friends. its such a better life style, and you know it. CONQUER THAT FEAR

[JustinX]

how?

[maiez]

you just have to outgrow it, make new friends, do new things, dont stay the same (shy) forever

[JustinX]

okay thanks for the tip

[Words_and_Wisdom]

Don't worry about being an "alpha male" since it gives a lot of people incorrect ideas. You need to learn traits often associated with that phrase like confidence and assertiveness, but you have to focus on being the best possible "you" you are.

[JustinX]

okay... i thot being confident immediately classified as alpha male

[Words_and_Wisdom]

Well it depends on who's definition. A lot of the time the 'alpha male' can be associated with being an outright asshole who has no sympathy for anyone and only cares for himself, which is why I stay away from the term. Plus it hinders yourself on your path to mastery for trying to make you wear a mask around others.

You just need to master your own self and your own desires. Learn to conquer your fears and take more risks. There's a book called "The Success Principles" by Jack Canfield (the author for the "Chicken Soup for the Soul" series. It's a really interesting read and I'd recommend picking up a copy.

[JustinX]

i wish there would be success principles in getting women