I told my boyfriend I kissed another guy.

[Anonymous]

last week I told my boyfriend that I had kissed another guy a month ago when I went out drinking with my sister and a couple other girls. he went out for a cigarette and then said it was fine, he didn't want to talk about it. everything has been normal all week, he tells me he loves me every second he gets, he always wants to cuddle with me. last night we were drinking and I told him that I bet I would get yelled at that night because he hadn't yet, and he said no way, he wouldn't yell at me, he loves me too much, and he doesn't care. I don't have a clean record either. I had messed around drunk before and my boyfriend had to take a few months away from me. I know he loves me with all his heart, and I'm the same towards him, but how is it this doesn't affect him at all? I think I would be incredibly hurt.

[JBrooks]

There are two possibilities. The first is that he is being honest and really doesn't care. Some guys aren't as affected by physical one-time things so long as their partner is still emotionally invested.

The other possibility is that it isn't okay. In that case, he probably doesn't want to talk about it because it hurts him. If that is the case, I would just take steps to make sure nothing like that happens again. Just let him get over it in his own way, but be there for him if he decides he wants to talk about it.

Make sure you know how he feels about these things. He is clearly very attatched to you and it sounds like you really care about him and his feelings, so I'm sure you will both be able to work it out and be stronger for it.

[Asker]

Thank you very much, very good advice.

[davidnoxier]

Do you regret it kissing the other guy? Why did you?

[Goddess_Gag18]

He is putting up with you, may love you so much that this pussy cat is allowing you to get away with it.
Don't push too many of his buttons, you never know one day when he will leave you and never come back.
Just a tip: He could use this as ammo someday to retaliate.

[jacquesvol]

Been there once, lived that: I can understand your boyfriend: love can (should be!) greater than jealousy.

[Asker]

Thank you, he knows there is nothing he can do that would make me leave him, and now, due to unfortunate events, I know he will not leave me.

[doodlebug]

Maybe you shouldn't drink if you mess around on your boyfriend. So this one little kiss probably doesn't bother him because he expects it from your behavior, which isn't a good thing. It seems to me you have been unfaithful more than once and are lucky to still have him around. Most whores like you get dumped, sorry babe it's the cold hard truth.

[Asker]

Lol harsh. I am lucky he didn't break up with me, but I am not a whore, maybe you should keep the name calling for the elementary kids.

[doodlebug]

I shouldn't have called you a whore, but you should fix your behavior to keep such a nice guy like him.

[Asker]

Oh trust me, I know... I felt disgusting the morning after... well thank you for the input, the beginning is probably pretty accurate.

[james_mark]

Stop drinking problem solved

[Dog19]

Your a fucking bitch

[OatsnWhey]

Stop being a hoe.