If you like a shy guy, I suggest you be persistent, but very gentle. Don't come on as strong or as often as you might usually do, but keep coming on to him.
Shy guys' brains can freeze up when they feel they're under pressure, and they can feel startled and need to escape if something surprises them.
Shy guys usually need a lot of time to process their emotions and thoughts, so don't expect a quick response from him. For the same reasons, conversation can move slower with a shy guy: we usually need to think before we talk.
Shy guys tend to advance, then retreat; advance and retreat, and so can appear to run hot and cold. It's not a deliberate behavior, it's the way our brains process experience. We try it, then we need to think about it.
If she's really shy and hasn't much self-confidence, you might need to take more initiative than usual. He might want to call you but be too insecure.
Here's my suggestion. Invite him on a date yourself _but avoid putting him on the spot or feel like he's pressured_. Like I said, a _really_ shy guy might startle and say "no" automatically because he needs time to process the information and doesn't want to feel pressured or boxed in. You may want to try setting him up to take you out: talk to him about an event or place he enjoys, then suggest you go there together so he can show you around and explain things. He might respond well to that because he can talk about the place or event, and feel less worried about "what do I talk about?"
Good luck!
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I am in so much the same situation, but a few years down the line, lol! I am also getting a lot of signals, but not the big one (i.e. asking me out).
I am very friendly, so I don't understand how I could be scary, but apparently, I am.
The advice you got sounds really good, so I am going to take it too! Thanks for asking.
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