Player’s are hard to spot. If they were easy, none of us would be in this predicament asking ourselves, “Does he really care about me?” The most important thing is to go with your gut feeling. If you keep asking your self the question of whether or not he is a player then he most likely is. If you REALLY like him and have that gut feeling, you will find your self making excuses for him, defending his actions, and find any reason that makes it seem like he really might just be a genuine guy, even though you have one positive against numerous negatives.
One thing to look for, is his words.
He will make you feel more special then any of his female friends. He will whisper sweet nothings, telling you he wants to see you, he wants to hold you, he misses you, he wants you there with him. Anything to make you feel special and wanted. It’s a way of buttering you up, tricking you into thinking that he genuinely cares and has deeper feelings for you. He will say he is in no shape for a relationship right now, which in a sense is true, because all he want’s to do is move from girl to girl.
He is a smoothe talker. He has done this SO many times, that it is natural. He has come to believe his own lies, so he doesn’t ever feel guilty, or see anything wrong with what he is doing, or how he is acting and treating you. He isn’t feeling any emotion, even though he is giving you every indication he is, and you are really special to him.
He will make you feel like you are making a big deal out of everything, when in-fact you are not, and have every right to be upset with him. He will turn the situation around on you, leaving you feeling hurt, upset, and as if you really are making a big deal out of something that you have every right to speak up about.
He will tell you he will call you or text you, when he actually has no intention of it. When you make plans to see each other or hang out, he will cancel last minute. He will ALWAYS have an excuse, and it will always seem reasonable, even though it really isn’t. If you tell him that he always does it, he will tell you that you never really actually make plans, and you are over reacting. He will make you feel guilty for acting this way.
Make you feel more special then the other girls he talks to. You will make plans to see each other, or hang out, and he will act excited, then just cancel last minuet. He will make you feel like you are making everything into a big deal, when you really
You will go long periods without talking. Long enough to wonder why he isn’t talking, and to wonder what is up, but short enough that you will figure he really was “just busy”. You will be so happy to just talk to him again, that you will forget everything negative with him that has been happening. He will always have an excuse. He is ofcorse, a smooth talker.
If he really cares about you and wants to be with you, you will never be questioning his actions and motives. You will just know. Don’t find excuses f