Both of our tempers are flaring.
Composure, articulation, and words have gone far beyond our control.
I want to be right!
He wants to be right!
Both of us are dominant forces, neither of us refuses to back down.
Body language of aggression, we both don't fail to stand our ground.
What has happened?
Our emotions has grabbed full control of us.
We know longer remember what has erupted this volcano.
We both just know, that it will not calm until one of us reaches victory.
"What's our victory?"
It lies in knowing that the other person "cannot prove themselves to be right".
When this occurs, the self satisfication one feels is similar to winning a crown.
"Why is that?"
Because "I am so mighty and strong", this person did not have the power to bring me down.
But is that really winning?
Isn't that perception deceived?
Instead of looking to the truth of the matter, we allow ourselves to become consumed,
by fabrications we choose to believe.
When you argue with someone, in fact you have lost all of your power.
The words that hold most effective are those that can teach a lesson,
and do not hold aggression.
When you begin to argue, you have reached an all time low.
Instead of keeping track of what you are disputing, your message becomes
lost in the words of hurt you choose to say.
Your anger and contempt, now works as a trigger to fuel the other parties
The both of you begin firing back and forth, this has now become a competition
of who can present the most hurt.
You have now entered into a zone where all you want to do
is "feel right" instead of actually "doing what is right".
The feeling of victory that you have won, will be short-lived.
You didn't accomplish anything, but hurting the person you care about.
The person you argue against, will hardly remember what sparked the initial argument,
instead the only thing that will become attached to their mind, is how you took every opportunity
to tear their character down.
The next time you feel yourself about to lose control in a disagreement,
I want you to ask yourself, "What message am I really trying to deliver?",
"Is it one of hurt?" or "Is it one with the intent to have the other person see your view?"
If the other person is fueling with rage walk away from the situation and come back when their
temper has calmed.
When someone is highly emotional, nothing you say will be heard.
If you take the "bait of detrimental words" being thrown at you, and respond back in the same manner,
both of your messages will fall mute to each others ears.
The only thing that will be heard are words that are meant to diminish.
The true victory lies in delivering a calm, and effective message that has the ability to be heard, when all tensions are down.
That is when your message will be delivered successfully.
That is when you truly obtain victory.
Do not allow yourself to fall victim to words that will work as a set back.