She avoids me now that I told her I like her?

[Anonymous]

I really like this girl. Her ex works with us and she wants him back. I know it's a bad idea to pursue this girl. She has more than looks like humour, ethic, friendly and sincere. Is it wrong to approach her again and tell her I'd like her to give me a chance to hang outside of work as friends even. I just want to be honest with her. This is the kind of girl I've been looking for. From the start I promised myself to go through any task for her but now it's getting complicated. I don't want her to be the one that got away. Please, any advice will help.

[PainfullyHonest135]

I dont know how old you are, but im going to guess your young.

The answer is no.
First, let me tell you this, i know you get butterflies, i know you think she "the one", but trust me, soon as you start seing other women, you will forget her in a heartbeat, especially if you find a good sex freak, or just a more direct open girl who isn't fucking around with Ex's... which leads me to my next point...

Second, if she wants to be with someone she broke up with an made her unhappy, she must be pretty dumb or naive. You dont want to mess with that, just remember liking someone for how you perceive them can change when you actually know them.

If you already told her you like her before going on a date or having sex with her, yah kinda messed it up, more so if now she's avoiding you. she's got her head somewhere else, and you took at shot when your gun wasent even raised, let alone aimed properly.

As a last resort, take her out on a date asap, and work some real magic quick, like, aim to kiss her on the first date. If she isn't interested in seeing you or avoids dates or make unending excuses. she's a lost cause, she already got away (or you scared her off with that dumbass confession at the wrong time).

Point is, move along. you'll forget about her when you meet new girls.

[Marinepilot]

KDA20-This is complicated. He ex works with you and she wants him back. in my opinion when people get back together it rarely works out and it never is as good as the first go around. If you do pursue her and you
work with her ex, this could make things very awkward for a long time. Do you work in close proximity with her ex? I know she's special and you don't want to let her go. However, you do need a roof over your head, food on the table and the necessities of livening. We have had good ones who got away. I'd say walk away from it right now. I know it's tough, but your work and love life DON'T need to be combined. I've seen that movie and I know how it ends. BAD JUJU !

[Anonymous]

Dude, the fact that she wants her ex back should be a HUGE red flag. That's disaster waiting to happen. I know you like her and think she's the one but if you ask me, I think you dodged a bullet there. She obviously doesn't want you like how you want her. Some things are just not meant to happen bro. Move on

[Candy12345]

It just means that she doesn't feel the same way

I get like that when a guy I find attractive that's also my friend likes me.

[KDA20]

She doesn't feel same way about you