He told me that he never cared about me and just used me, and also has cheated since the day we met. Is what he did really that bad, or is it common and I'm exaggerating?

[Anonymous]

So,first of all. I'm sixteen, my ex boyfriend is seventeen. We broke up two months ago and I still think about him everyday and would probably take him back if he ever wanted it (not that he does.) anyways, we met last June and a month later were official, he was great. Then in February, we broke up. I dumped him accidentally, and seven weeks later he finally wanted back together because I met someone else. We dated again for seven weeks. Wanna know how we 'broke up'? He ditched me all weekend, then stopped returning calls or texts. Flat out ignored me. His friend texted me and I asked what was up, he said we had broken up and that he been hanging out with some other girl a lot. I called my ex and some girl answered. A week later he began to tell me that he never cared about me and just used me and also has cheated since the day we met.

[gummybear888]

this is not something that happens a lot because most people don't act like dogs. so he got a new girl, most people would feel sorry for her. she is going to be used and tossed out as well eventually.

and why even think about the ex boyfriend anymore? he obviously has some psychological issues because he does not respect women and the way he sent his friend in to do that, his friend is also mentally disfunctional or at least, uncompassionate, lacks maturity and being used by his friend as well.

question is, he ditched you, why even bother worrying or thinking out the logic. I would be extremely livid if this happened to me, perhaps, I would break a few things of his and if I saw him outside, I probably would not break. the key thing is, you move on. focus on yourself, get a better boyfriend.

what he did was cruel and disgusting. he should feel embarrassed about what he did but obviously he's an animal and doesn't care about the girls he goes out with. you very young, 16. you got your whole life ahead of you and you shouldn't be thinking or dating these pieces of garbage.

realize you made a mistake. and learn from it. this guy is a tool. and this is why I didn't date in high school. I saw too many of these idiots in high school. so I stayed single till after. do something to make you hapy for a while, hang out with friends, join a sports thing, go shopping, whatever it is, even start a journal if it helps. block any of his friends and him. and move on. there are actual good people in this world, get to know them and be happy.

[sexystarfishiguess]

that's so awful. I'm really sorry for you. my boyfriend kinda did the same thing... he told me that I was basically just his rebound and that he never really cared about me, and he broke up by just ignoring my texts and then he got his girlfriend to text me for him because he was too cowardly to do it himself.

my advise: I know it hurts, but try to realize that you're worth more than that. he treated you horribly and you deserve someone who will care for you and treat you with respect.

[buttercup5]

You accidentally broke up with him? He wanted to get back with you because you met someone else? He had his friends text you?

Y'all are both just young. I say leave him alone.

[malekoniky]

Does it matter if it is common or not? It is still wrong of him. But this kind is not that common. This is too much.

[Asker]

What do you mean?

[malekoniky]

I ment that he did wrong to cheat since the first day you two met.

And that it does not matter if it is common or not. Only thing that matters is if you like or dislike it. If you don't like it, your boyfriend should not do it. No matter how common or uncommon it is.

[martyfellow]

jAt your age, all this is pretty much meaningless. Ignore him forever and ever, and be more selective next time.

[Asker]

Doesn't make it hurt any less.

[martyfellow]

The quicker you forget all about him, the better. Just tell youself he was worthless...which he was...