"The moment you allowed her to confide in you is the moment she stopped looking at you as a man?"

[Frustration]

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So do you agree or disagree with this? why or why not?

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Interesting how the guys mostly agree while the girls disagree. why do you think that is?

[UptownGirl]

Disagree from a woman's point of view. When I confide in a significant other it's because I trust him. I don't confide in him simple because I have suddenly stopped seeing that he's a man or that he's now blended into my female group of friends.

In fact, I think that it shows maturity, intelligence and respect for a man to sit down and listen to someone confiding in them. Men confide in other men, does this mean that once they do that they see each other as non-male entities? Or to see each other as weak?

[Anonymous]

No because honestly if I already saw you as a friend, then I saw you as a friend before I confided in you or not. It's not like "oh he let me confide in him...he's a bitch now, all sexual feelings turned off". No it's just that I didn't like him anyway and wasn't seeing him sexually regardless to begin with

btw I've confided in men that I have been interested in. I just have to trust him. confiding in a man isn't the kiss of death that some guys think it is,

[PoeticNinja]

I wouldn't say 'not as a man' but I'll start looking to him as more of a friend.

I would like to confide in my significant other, though confiding in him will risk losing him (I don't want that). If that makes sense... I don't want to get too comfortable with him, because I can just do that with a friend instead.

What I do want from my significant other is for him to be more understanding.

[Frustration]

Why can't you be too comfortable around him? why is that such a problem? and it sounds really complicated too.

[PoeticNinja]

I emotionally close myself off (mainly from guys I want to have a relationship with).

Most of the time, maybe.. Some things I would rather not discuss with him, so I may confide in someone else. - As a matter of fact, I tell him very little simple things because he doesn't seem to take any interest. (That's what I think anyway).

It's not complicated at all.

[Frustration]

yes it is complicated, when you like someone you should be able to share anything and everything with each other and going to confide in someone else is just screwy

[PoeticNinja]

How is it 'screwy'? - No, everything can not be shared. I don't see it that way. That's just risking to lose the person.

[giantpotato]

isnt it usually the case when a girl leaves a guy for someone else is when she starts confiding in the other dude about stuff in her current relationship?

[Matt_K]

it's not necessarily the loss of her seeing you as man but it is usually the first step into what we all know and love as "the friend zone"

[OlderAndWiser]

Some people have an attitude that relationships are built on manipulating what your partner thinks about you, and translates into game playing, it lacks sincerity, and it interferes with the establishment of emotional bonding. If that is the relationship you want, follow this advice.

If not, ask yourself how maintaining barriers to candid conversations builds a good relationship.

[itsryz]

Man here, if anything it is the opposite.

When a woman confides in that means they respect you as a Man and deep down believe that you are someone they can trust to listen, validate them, reassure them, and when a Woman comes to you with that mindset, generally speaking a deep connection with that person is formed, whether you want it or not.

For a Woman, confiding in a Man is a telling sign that she wants you in her life and if a Man is not willing to be there for the Woman, then that Man is not suited for a relationship in any regard.

A mans duty is to care and provide for the needs of his wife and family. He works for them and if he is not willing to sit down and LISTEN when a woman just wants to be heard then he is not fulfilling his duty.

[eg148209]

DISAGREE... women love it if they can confide in you! If you're going to be in a relationship, you're going to have to be able to confide in each other...

[WhitneySnow]

Totally disagree. My boyfriend and I confided in each other long before we became a couple. Letting a girl share her feelings makes her like you more not less.

[mandyfire98]

If I can't confide in a significant other then they won't be my significant other.

[Aizou]

if that's true then I'm not

much of a "man" .. ^-^

[EverythingReal]

Sometimes best friends make the best boyfriends. So I disagree.

[stepyo99]

>caring what women think

As long as I see myself as a man, that's all that matters.

[Nikki1989]

Do men really believe this garbage. If they do, it explains a lot about the modern man.

[Anonymous]

i see him more as a friend, then anything else. "as a man" is not the right way to put it..."as a friend"

[Anonymous]

This statement is more than true. I have experienced this numerous times so I don't even let women talk to me in a confiding way

[gothbxtch]

jesus christ no.

[TheGodEmperorLeto]

Sad but true.

[TheGodEmperorLeto]

@update: Cause women are full of sh*t and think they are better people than they are. It's why they still think only men are cheaters. Or most cheaters are men (ignoring the true facts).