How long do you think someone should wait to date again after a breakup?

[Anonymous]

[ThinkFitness23]

Great question..


Depends on a few factors:


1. Length of the relationship.


2. How you broke up, did someone pass away for example.


3. Who’s decision it was to leave the relationship, I say this because those who choose to leave don’t have to deal with the rejection & often they have “checked out” of the relationship long before the time of the breakup.


Ideally you’d like to be emotionally & physically free but this isn’t always the case and this definitely can cause issues.


Without a time frame I would say it’s best to deal with the hurt/pain etc concentrate on yourself and then it’s a matter of “coming across the right person” pardon the pun…


If you have left someone and you ready then do your thing although you should be mindful to be discreet as so not to further hurt the person you just left.

[Asker]

Thank you! I ask this question because around mid-August I ended things with my ex. It was very toxic. The relationship was on and off for pretty much a year it started in September of last year and ended in August of this year. I'm pretty emotionally free from thinking about her. But due to her, I have some trust problems. I don't want to bring those problems onto another girl and basically waste her time. Like back in October, I started liking a girl. She seems really smart, respectful, and pretty and I don't want to start dating her out of desperation.

[ThinkFitness23]

Your welcome, do your thing when ready 👍

[DoctorSex]

I don't know how people jump from relationship to relationship.

If you recently broke up with someone then there's something about your relationship skills that are lacking, or your red flag recognition centre. Regardless you need to do a lot of internal work on top of licking your wounds. There's no way you can do that straight away, you're likely to transfer those same mistakes into the next relationship.

Do you recognise where you were at fault? That's usually the best sign that you're on the right side of moving on. Do you have a balanced assessment of your past relationship? After all it takes two to tango.

Kind regards,

DoctorSex

[CubsterShura]

That varies from person to person or even relationship to relationship. But if I had to put a line somewhere I'd say a gap of 6-8 months is a good time window. To be safe, taking a little more time even after you're sure that you've fully moved on is a good choice.

[Kori1236]

Whatever feels right for you. If you need time take time if you’re ready go ahead and look for another partner. But if you have trauma from the previous relationship be sure to actively work on it while looking for another relationship if that’s the route you go

[Guy13]

I like at least six months resting and recovering period. Although Time is important, we often fail to consider if the relationship is actually severed.

Break-up, less children involvement, means blocked, ghosted, no digital connection, and no show-up. It also means one friend contact if absolutely necessary. I assume that we have been or know one who has been “that friend”.

[OlderAndWiser]

They should wait long enough that they are not dating for revenge and they are emotionaly available to a new partner. How long does that take? Everyone must decide for themselves.

[Man-O-Metal]

It's a feeling with an unpredictable time frame. There's no set rule. Besides, every situation is different. It's best to be real with yourself and completely let go of everything. Stop thinking about it. If it enters your thoughts, immediately think of something else. Just do everything in your power to get it off your mind. It's in the past anyways so it doesn't even matter anymore. Getting on with your life is the only goal you should be shooting for after a break up. Then, when you're comfortable, get back to it.

[Twalli]

Depends on how you broke up. If the break up was nasty and you were together a long time, you may need several years. You could also be like my grandfather who continued to date whole married to my grandmother, in which case he didn't wait at all after they got divorced because he was already dating. You could also be like my grandmother who didn't date again. If we grow apart, the relationship died and we were already over each other before it ended. Thrn we don't need to hel. The same is true if you decide that you can't be together due to having different goals.

[BCA6010]

Long enough that the subject of a "rebound relationship" is out of the question - such things are a waste of effort and unlikely to produce anything good. For a relatively short relationship falling apart, this probably won't be very long, but if for example a relationship that lasted several months or even years, it could easily take several months to be over it and back in a right state of mind.

[lightbulb27]

til you processed the lessons learned, made changes you want to make to yourself, and feel healthy and balanced again, not to mention the finances are in good place.

[sheikalana]

Honestly there's no right or wrong answer to this. I believe you should wait a few months especially if it was a long relationship. But if you feel you're ready to start dating again one month after your break up then go for it.

[Anonymous]

If it was a long term relationship, you're not going to be right for months.

Some people jump right back in and pick up a replacement. Others stay alone for years.

But you're young.

Your call.

[jshm2]

About 30 seconds. Ideally you should have your second and third lined up before the breakup. Provided it is the fault of your first.

[petitedollbabee]

Depends on how the relationship ended, and how your partner treated you in the relationship.

[PizzaPieMamaBear]

There’s no right answer it’s whatever the personal is comfortable and ready to

[Sorrento-Sun]

When they no longer pine after their ex. When feelings of love and hurt have faded

[AdithyaR]

There's no fixed time. It's whenever you feel like you've healed and you're ready.
It could one day or one year, it's upto you.

[CallmeTheKnight]

However long they should wait. It can be the next day, the next week, month, year, or 2 years. It doesn't matter. When you accept it's over, move on

[MikeInHawaii]

You should date again when you’ve found the right person, regardless of whether that is in five years or the next day.

[exitseven]

I would go out with someone the next day if I could find somebody

[Nikki1989]

There is no perfect answer to this. It is whenever you feel ready.

[KrakenAttackin]

If you are a woman you are already dating the new guy before you have broken up with the old one, soooo...

[Lkid23]

If you’re emotionally and mentally ready for someone else and totally healed from your past relationship, you’re good to go.

[Anonymous]

It's not like being married, you can go the same day if you want.