My boyfriend got with me and I could tell he was very scared to have a relationship. He would constantly think I’d cheat or make subtle comments of me cheating and had a huge issue with me being close friends with a male (who also has a girlfriend and I don’t see since we’ve been together unless he’s with me). he broke up with me a week after he asked to be his girlfriend. Then apologized and I took him back.
I forgave but we had an argument, which he started and I fed into it. I was just tired of him accusing me of cheating bc his last girlfriend cheated. It wasn’t mature for us both I could see that and he couldn’t but I tried to make it right but he was done. I gave him his stuff and we stopped talking. 4 days later he was on a dating site, and I seen it. I called and asked him why did he really want to break up. We talked for an hour and he was so mean and cold. Saying hurtful things. I still tried to ask could we end off on a better note and meet in person, he said no. I started to cry wondering how he could be so cold like I was nothing. he hung up on me
i called again the next day and we talked for 10 min. I hung up bc he said he had something to do. But when I tried to reach him later that day he had already blocked me. I contacted him on my other phone and ask could he be a little respectful to me in this time but he blocked that one too. Will he regret being cold towards me or will he just think I’m crazy. Im ashamed at how that made me look, all because I wasn’t trying to leave off on a bad note
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From your retelling I don't think you are to blame and you behaved well. He clearly has issues, justified or not, that you are not responsible for in any way.
It is entirely possible he already regrets it. He might have even realized he is a bad influence and that could well be what sprung the sudden ending. Most guys I know have melancholic temperaments after a relationship ends - that is, the feelings move slow but you still feel it a year after. He very well might too.
If he has left other ways of contact open that would be intentional at this point. However once you've begun the breaking up dances it very rarely gets salvaged. Unless he's the one or something like that I'd recommend you assume he did what is best for him and consider that closure. It wouldn't work out anyway would it?
Regardless of if he does or not, I think you need to make peace with where things are right now so you can move on. It sounds like from the start he was in no place to be in a relationship, and his actions since then have only added to that. You can’t take back how hard you were trying to reach out, but you do better when you know better. Get busy, find a distraction, and work on healing and living. That’s where your mind should be.
He will not have regrets, he will correctly believe he dodged a bullet.