Even if YOU did the Breaking Up, Would YOU keep VENTING to Them?

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***If So, Has it Helped to Form a Closure for You? xx

Leapfrog00 · Accepted Answer

I would think that would just make it harder to move on. Of course, though, it depends on the circumstances of the breakup. If her and I broke up because she cheated or committed some atrocious act, it would not be wise to even continue making contact, let alone venting to this person.

If we left on good terms, like deciding we were better off as friends instead of a couple, I don't see anything wrong with venting to this person then. Of course, if one of us formed an attachment to the other one, then that might pose as a problem. So yeah, depends on the situation.

smilelots · Accepted Answer

No I would do that with a good friend and move on from the relationship as fast as I could.. but we are all different right so to each there own..

Aerissa_Jade · Accepted Answer

I've had ex's that became good friends, we set each other up on dates with friends, etc... but it really depends on why you broke up and how well you get along.

If it was a cheater, nope... never going to talk to them again.

I probably would not vent to an ex though, unless we were on great terms and it was a topic that he could understand.

I would limit it though to that, not to everything.

Ms_Facesitter · Accepted Answer

I usually don't talk to him anymore, at all. I vent to my friends.

OlderAndWiser · Answer

Breaking up should mean no more contact, unless you have children together.

AviatorTom · Answer

Nope, an ex is done, over, finito

OfMiceandMen · Answer

I rarely vent to anyone I am with. Once I leave work, I turn that switch off, etc. If it is a family thing, then why stress her out about it? So, the answer is no, I would not continue venting to that person after breaking-up as I typically never did in the first place.

RobT312 · Answer

I have had a few amicable breakups…we liked each other just not compatible. I renained friends in that case. I have had a few nasty ones and cut contact 100% …after speaking my peace during the breakup it was over

Justmeagain1 · Answer

Not at all , my business and my good/bad in between is my own. When a person ceases being your partner, they/you have actively chosen to not support each other on an emotional level.

mb120101 · Answer

I got a pity text from my ex of two years ago last night actually. She broke up with me and when I move on she sends me an emotional text at 2am two years later. Fuck off

Lynx122 · Answer

No that's very selfish and rude I'd say. I broke up with you but I want you to still listen to my problems and care about me. I wouldn't do that.

Adam1978 · Answer

No I don't vent about things that isn't relevant for the person in question. So relationship over, there is nothing left to vent about.

Paradisepup36390 · Answer

I loved somebody once, and I was not the one to do the breaking up. But my former partner was disinterested in venting to me after we broke up. I haven't spoken to her in almost 6 years.

mobiusforniner · Answer

I dunno. I've had ex's I maintained limited contact with. But from experience, it's better you don't.

humanearth · Answer

Nope, I cut off all ties with them. Otherwise you still have feelings for them and you want to keep the door open to get back together

RavVid · Answer

I more think carefully after a few warnings than execute and make no contact afterwards.

Britney04 · Answer

No, it's over. You cease to exist and right to vent when I’m done then I done with them. I seen from my sister what happens if you don’t break it off when your done.

douride2 · Answer

No when it's over it's done with. I move on.

Jamie05rhs · Answer

No. You get the venting out before you break up. Get it all done at once.

Likes2drive · Answer

Was done with all that afterwards, I only talk to her because of the kids once in a while

KrakenAttackin · Answer

Keep venting to him AFTER the breakup? Hell-to-the-no, you lost the bitching privileges.

shades777 · Answer

No thats not healthy, breaking up includes moving on and letting go.

single852 · Answer

If i did the breaking up, i wouldn't vent then lol.

invalid1 · Answer

Well, men/women who want to get close to you knowing you! Careful teenagers! They just want to use you and abuse you socially. Again! Be careful!
Don't trust him/her because you think they have the potential of sex or commitment.

electromagnetic · Answer

No contact after a breakup.

lightbulb27 · Answer

what? No, they aren't a dumping ground.

sheenagwapa · Answer

my ex dump me and he is just dobe

snasirmehdi · Answer

Nope... they are no more worth it..

exitseven · Answer

No, once it is over it's OVAH

nolabels · Answer

I've done that. It just prolongs the pain of ending things, for me anyway.

HippieVeganJewslim · Answer

Of course! I make many mistakes, and it might’ve been a mistake dumping Koko. Ex-partners are still real people, and deserve the right to respect and dignity and love.

Sixgunsound · Answer

Once they are an ex they should be dead to you. No contact.

FunkyMonkee · Answer

I might, except that she's in Denmark, as far as I know and I'm here in the states.

LemiaOfThunder · Answer

Break up means no contact unless on friendly terms

LiamJHayden · Answer

I would not even start.

hafinjun · Answer

No we're broke up we're done I don't have any reason to speak anymore

TrillXHippy · Answer

I just wouldn’t talk to them anymore

Kidblink1 · Answer

No, done is done, move along.

CubaPirate · Answer

Nah because I'll have moved on

TrueConfection · Answer

Probably not.

arodriguez664 · Answer

Nope.

Bklynbadboy12 · Answer

Nope when I'm done I'm done

Even if YOU did the Breaking Up, Would YOU keep VENTING to Them?

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