Is it too early to make out on a third date?

[Anonymous]

I met this guy online and I really like him (I feel emotional and also a physical attraction to him). We had 3 dates already, all of them took longer than 4 hours, so we had enough time to talk. And today we kissed first time and we also ended up making out. I enjoyed it, even when he touched me all over my body, bu I didn´t want him to undress me (it is really too early for me and I didn´t felt like that, but he didn´t even pushed me).

This is a good guy, a nice one. So I´m wondering if he doesn´t think anything bad about me (that I´m easy or so.. I just realy felt like that)..

No, that´s cool, completely normal

It is a bit too soon, but he probably doesn´t have bad opinion on you

Too early in my opinion

[OlderAndWiser]

The opposite of "easy" isn't "never." The opposite of "easy" is "careful and selective." If you know him well enough to trust him and you know he isn't just looking to score, then you proceed at a pace that is comfortable for you. No one else can make that decision for you.

Easy girls jump into bed on a first date; I know because I've had a few of those first dates. For an easy girl, sex is about nothing more than feeling good here and now. For a girl like you, sex is a way of becoming closer to someone who is becoming a regular part of your life.

The best way to make sure that your gentleman knows you are not an easy girl is for you and him to actually have a discussion about it - in person and definitely NOT by text - and to let him know that you are very attracted to him but that you also want to be careful.

Good luck.

[Asker]

Thank you, you said it so wisely.. this is exactly how I feel it. I don´t want to trade myself and sex as a commodity. He was really sweet and nice to me during our dates, so I wanted to show him how much attracted I am to him and give him my affection.. Thanks again ;)

[OlderAndWiser]

You are welcome. . . and I hope he is all that you hope for.

[Linhlilypops]

@OlderAndWiser: I made out with him on our second date, which was yesterday - Vday. I'm not easy, I'm very cautious and selective actually. I listen to both my mind and my heart, sometimes I feel like I haven't had a boyfriend because I'm listening to both of them, maybe I'm a bit too careful in choosing a person to give my heart. I felt some chemistry for this guy, I think he's nice and gentle, I mean both my mind & heart "like" this guy. Yesterday we had dinner at his place, and then he started to come over my side and kiss me. Tongue involved at the first place, then we made out, ass and boob grabbing involved, we did a lot of make out that I even felt his boner as well. But now I wonder if it was too fast to have an intense make out on our second date, does he think I'm easy (we talked and I told him that I'm not into short-term/casual relationships, I'm lookingn for a serious one), and will this lead to sex in our 3rd date? (I won't have sex until I'm sure about the relationship)

[OlderAndWiser]

@Linhlilypops Tell him that, like guys, girls have hormones and sometimes you want to give in to lust. . . but you also don't want to look back and have regrets about doing something too soon and you don't get any chance for a "do over" so you want the next few dates to be limited to being together in public places so that you don't give in to temptation. That tells him that you have the desire but that you also don't want to be easy. He'll stay interested unless sex is all he wants, in which case you just weeded out someone who you wouldn't want anyway.

[Linhlilypops]

@OlderAndWiser: thanks a lot! I haven't had this experience before because I'm 9 years younger than him, an East Asian girl and he's a white guy in his early 30s. So this pace is a bit too fast for me and make me feel a bit nervous. I couldn't deny it because there hasn't been a guy who kissed me at this early phase of dating so I didn't prepare to "defend". Also I wanted it too even though it came a bit too early.

[Klaatu51]

no he won't think u r easy... so if u enjoyed it... fine then :-)

[emilyyy23k]

Totally fine. People fuck on the 3rd date or even earlier so you're good lol. Do what you're comfortable with

[Consultant]

Wow that's a lot of time you spent together, how have you not made already? lol it is absolutely not too early

[HeatherJoanGaG]

I think it is perfectly fine!

[Anonymous]

By the third removing clothes would be a good idea 😉

[ClariceOwen23]

I do that on the first or second date. It's fine

[KDA20]

If it feels right go for it

[abundantlyrich]

Mack him. I hope he gets stunned.

[Succcesssfulll]

Completely normal, just kissing.

[Asker]

i also allowed him to touch my body (my breasts, bottox, etc)

[Succcesssfulll]

Thats fine too.

[emerald77]

I think it's fine!