Do you like to cuddle after sex?

[Rosikeramakabudz]

TBH I think it is degrading when the woman wants to cuddle that the man doesn't. I am turned on by the idea of cuddling but if he doesn't like then I would act frigid towards him

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+1 y

Not wanting to be physcially close to me outside sex is indeed degrading because the only way he wants intimacy is through sex.

[rjroy3]

Yea, it feels good. But I'm also wary of it if she's not my girlfriend already or if I don't want to be her boyfriend. If you avoid cuddling afterwards, then it's less of a relationship vibe and more of a "just sex" vibe. I've had situations where a girl thought I wanted a relationship merely because 1. we cuddled after sex 2. I spent the night instead of leaving 3. We hung out the next morning.

To me that's just me being who I am. I like to have fun and play and I like being around other people who want to have fun. But in the girls mind she was thinking, "what does this mean?", "does he really like me?", "is this getting serious?" and so on. So every step of the way I was doing things that gave her the impression I want more and that this is getting serious, when it wasn't. Like if I sleep with a girl, then she becomes someone very close to me in general. But that doesn't mean I want a relationship. So I do try to avoid giving her the wrong impression.

There's no reason for her to feel humiliated if I don't cuddle afterwards. Generally if I'm going to avoid cuddling I'll just clean up and take a shower afterwards. Then go lay down flat. If she cuddles next to me, then it was her choice rather than me initiating the act.

[Anonymous]

Most of the time for me, we cuddle first which leads to sex which leads to more cuddling afterwards. Shit if a girl doesn't want to cuddle after sex I would get the impression that the sex was so bad that she doesn't want to be intimate because she doesn't want to get attached since she's planning on that night being the last night that we're together.

[Maddy98madoudou]

There's a difference between cuddling in general and cuddling after sex.
Honestly I'm not someone that loves cuddling. If I do it it would be before sex as a turn on but I hate it when a guy wants to cuddle to fall asleep or guys that grab me during my sleep. Cause I like my space and after a while I am not enjoying the position I am in during the cuddling.
And I feel like that after sex it's just too much touching. Most of the time I'll just lay there and the guy would be caressing my body with his hand and nothing more.
And cuddles after sex don't really mean anything. You know it if the guy wants you for you or just for sex

[ciitruskiwi]

Sometimes. If my boyfriend and I have sex right before bed then yeah I want to cuddle but if it's during the day then it's probably just a quickie and I'm not expecting cuddles after a quickie.

[thomasans]

Exactly Many times do not allow a cuddle session

[PrincessPie]

Yes and before :) i am a very cuddly person lol.

[Anonymous]

I don't think you can't really go with most of the theories here. It's actually simple: after sex the man is perhaps tired or want's to freshen up (so do women for that matter). This doesn't mean he doesn't want to be intimate for some cuddling with his woman. But try doing that before or even just during the day instead of after. You've just had sex, a token of the most intimate thing you can do as a couple. So don't think he that's actually degrading. You did say: I'm turned on by the idea of cuddling, then you should definitely do this before! Not after!

[Opinion Owner]

It's actually very strange to me that you talk about "degrading" when you want to get turned on after sex... With every respect towards you, but aren't you overthinking this? If you want to cuddle, just tell your partner in advance so he knows you value this a lot.

[Nephilim000]

i love cuddling and it doesn't have to be just after sex. it's nice to have someone to be close to like that. I was at a party with a girlfriend once and we sat down in an armchair with her in my lap and my arms around her. and there was a movie I had never seen before but we couldn't hear it so she told me what was going on while she pushed everyone out of the way. it was awesome

[Poppykate]

Ohhhh. Cuddles! 🤗

[Nephilim000]

Yeah they make everything better 🙄

[Luihu]

Well the polls certainly seem to imply that most men do want to hold on tight to the woman they just made love to.

And I agree, it feels very romantic and calming.

[Jeff1217]

That's the beauty of being in a relationship I believe

[Anonymous]

Good GOD yes! That's the BEST! I like to have her turn around so I can spoon her. Nothing like finishing a hot sex session with some naked spooning, so my spent cock can nuzzle up against her ass while I have my arms around her and hands holding boobs! :P Either we'll both pass out or round 2 will be right around the corner! ;-)

[red324]

I don't see how a guy could just get up and leave after he's done, what's he going to say nice job babe, same time tomorrow? lol At least cuddle with her for 10 minutes or so and give her periodic kisses along parts of her body, then maybe offer to help clean one another up.

[kitty71]

I agree some guys seem just want to do the deed and that is all for them and leave after he is done and treat their girls like prostitutes, cause doing what you describe and acting like that is like his girl is a hoe, just that she is not getting paid.

[CarpX]

I like a little cuddling afterwords. Enough that it's clearly about more than sex. However, I can never stay still comfortably, so it doesn't last that long.

[TheNinthCircle]

Yeah, I do. Intimacy wouldn't be complete without it.

[Bowings0500]

Even as a guy both when I was younger in my 20’s & now in my mid 30’s. I always thought it was rude for ether partner to jump straight out of bed. Even if you have that odd feeling of “Ok I’m done get off me.” You should prob disclose that before or at the very least give yourself a moment to re-set by putting on some clothes then coming back to cuddle for a bit and enjoy the relaxing. (Also not look self-centered or an A-hole even if you can’t help but have that feeling)

[Insidious]

Cuddling is great if I actually like the girl and find her physically attractive.

I do not want to cuddle someone I am not really attracted to. Even if dating. It is about sex at that point.

[gmen9292]

I love having her naked body wrapped around me after sex. It is super romantic.

[Diobrando]

love a cuddle for a bit but then i gotta go clean up

[Diobrando]

then he is using you

[MichaelShapiro]

Most of the time yes. Sometimes I get too hot after a long session and sort of need to cool off first but then yes. cuddle time after that.

[john335]

Should be depends I feel the need to hold a women i like/love as close as I can and talk to her about things.

[Mexicoman101]

That's not degrading. I like to cuddle but, sometimes people dont want that shit. Respect peoples choices.

[JustCallMeLeon]

Its nice. Especially if its late and you have to sleep afterwards.

[Ef_Freak]

na, no, nooo, boys want their space after getting discharged, leave him alone, and bend over infort of him until he get boner again

[danielcaleb]

thanks for the advice, really cool of you.

[serious]

My answer is going to be very hard to explain, so I will just leave it.

[KnightCross]

lol in the past, when i was more active in sexual life, i don't ever remembering of cuddling after sex maybe i'm the sort of the brute guy :D :D

[Anonymous]

For sex, I want the girl to be very physically dominant and smacking me and taking control during, but after I like to cuddle together and be all gentle. Does that sound good?

[Rosikeramakabudz]

partially lol

[Opinion Owner]

Partially? So does that mean you only like the cuddling part?
Are you interested in femdom at all?

[sweetbuddy]

i like to have sex after sex and if im still alive after that then cuddle so yes i do

[chucksterj]

I enjoy cuddling also, but I'm curious how that's degrading if the man doesn't want to?

[Rosikeramakabudz]

look. I touch and cuddle him and he tells me to let him sleep or that he feels uncomfortable. I would be deeply offended by this. I rather get rejected for wanting sex than for wanting to cuddle

[chucksterj]

Its not degrading at all though. He is just a different type of human than us that doesn't want cuddles. It may be rude how he portrays it, but someone who just doesn't like cuddling isn't necessarily degrading anyone.

[Rosikeramakabudz]

not intentionally but it is still degrading. Not wanting to be physcially close to me outside sex is indeed degrading because the only way he wants intimacy is through sex.

[chucksterj]

Sounds like you need to find someone more in tune with your needs, or maybe work on your communication with your SO.

[Rosikeramakabudz]

I don't have a SO

[chucksterj]

My guess then is the guy isn't trying to send mixed signals after sex, or he just doesn't enjoy cuddling.

[chucksterj]

I'll cuddle with you if you want! :)

[mrkdvsn]

Assuming that I ever have sex again, I would much prefer to cuddle BEFORE sex... and then be able to sort of wind-down and have my space AFTER sex.

[snowbird1]

I like cuddling before as it makes me horny and I also like it after as well.

[mrkdvsn]

@snowbird1 I agree with the "making me horny" part, and I would almost view cuddling as part of the foreplay process.

[snowbird1]

I agree and should be part of the foreplay.
Foreplay is just as important as the sex it's self otherwise it will feel more like a hit and run !

[mrkdvsn]

@snowbird1 Yep, you got it.

[Liisjak]

I get hungry after sex, therefore I cook... cuddling ain't gonna fill my stomach :<

[Anonymous]

I do like cuddling but only after I showered and cleaned my gear because I don't want semen on my penis when we cuddle. My sperm infested penis touching her vagina could accidentally make her pregnant.

[OlderAndWiser]

WHAT?

[Opinion Owner]

@OlderAndWiser it's true. A couple had sex and the guy cuddle with his girlfriend right after while his dick still has semen leftover and when his dick was rubbing against his gf's vagin, that girl got pregnant.

[OlderAndWiser]

The possibility of that happening is so extremely low that any story like that should be assumed to be untrue unless you have actual proof.

[Opinion Owner]

@OlderAndWiser it is my buddy story so you can choose to not believe. it's not like i get anything in return if you do believe so i dont really care lol

[OlderAndWiser]

Just because your friend tells that story doesn't mean that it's true. Ask any physician about that story and they will tell you that it sounds preposterous.

[Opinion Owner]

@OlderAndWiser i guess you dont cuddle much?

[OlderAndWiser]

Bad guess.

[Opinion Owner]

@OlderAndWiser i think its a good one

[OlderAndWiser]

Believe what you want but you have never spent any time in my bedroom and I have.

[Opinion Owner]

@OlderAndWiser bedroom? that's plain and boring. you should be more adventurous and try different places. No wonder why you dont know much, this ain't the 60's lol

[OlderAndWiser]

I have had sex in motel rooms, in the shower, in the woods, in a pool, in a hot tub, in front of a fireplace, in my office on the desk, etc. I don't need lessons on being adventurous.

[Opinion Owner]

@OlderAndWiser um, the possibility of that happening is so extremely low that any story like that should be assumed to be untrue unless you have actual proof...

[OlderAndWiser]

I have a reliable eyewitness who was present at all of those encounters. And, for those who know me, none of what I described is outside the realm of what should be expected.

As for your friend, getting a girl pregnant by depositing sperm outside the vaginal canal is possible but it is very slight. https://www.nhs.uk/chq/Pages/975.aspx; americanpregnancy.org/.../

[Opinion Owner]

@OlderAndWiser who?

[OlderAndWiser]

Me, of course. Were you present when your friend had his alleged encounter that led to pregnancy because his "sperm infested penis" touched his woman's vagina?

[Opinion Owner]

@OlderAndWiser Not good enough, as far as I know, you can make this stuff your own.

[OlderAndWiser]

I really don't GAF what you believe.

[Opinion Owner]

@OlderAndWiser yea you do

[OlderAndWiser]

No, I don't.

[Opinion Owner]

@OlderAndWiser just be a man and admit it, don't be a sissy now.

[OlderAndWiser]

Delude yourself however you wish.

[TrollG0D]

Not at all. What's so enjoyable about it? The quicker I can get you to leave afterwards the better.

[red07net]

after sex I don't cuddle I simply sleep on another bed. I find it a little weird

[marky123]

i love cuddling after sex... helps in going for the round 2.

[Theworldwillburn]

I love cuddling with my cat.

[JoyGirl]

I like this guys opinion. Yes, cuddling with a cat is better than cuddling with someone. ^-^

[rgb008]

Not really.
We rarely do that.

[logesh-kumar]

Yes I personally like cuddling after sex...

[Wingedz]

Is like lego with super glue, inseparable.

[wrish09]

Why not I like it. I think it's cute...

[Unit1]

For SURE!!!

[cupidkisses]

I like it

[zoonotic]

Must

[Seppelson]

yes I like to cuddle