I ghosted someone that I actually like, how can I fix it?

[bahamamama]

It's been about a month and I really want to fix it. Is it fixable, and would you still consider someone that ghosted you?

Yes, fixable

No, unfixable

[Viperkiss]

Girl just did this to me. Then when I see her next she shows regret. I just act myself and don't show her intrest. She acts further dissapointed.

Here's the thing. Ghosting somebody is increadablly rude. Basically it is saying "I think so little of you I can't even be bothered to send a few words"

Now should I be head over heels for someone like that? Nope.

She could turn it around.
First she would have to apologize and signify that she did a stupid thing. Then she would have to show clear, unmistakable effort to talk to me and show intrest.
Then I might warm up to her again.
If not, I will not be chasing her.
In fact I don't even want someone like that as a friend.

Guys like a girl who makes them feel important. In being so focused on what guys should offer girls, many girls forget this. Then cause the fatale blow to the courtship: not showing enough intrest. This in turn frustrates the guy and so he try's harder. Girls get excited because it means being chased and more attention. But when he gets her finally, and she wants to move to stage two- he loses intrest and that's the end of that.

So by girls not showing enough intrest, early enough, they actually screw themselves out of something eventually good. Trading a solid foundation for extra attention screws themselves over in the end.

So you must make effort. Strong effort. If not you are signaling to him that you don't like him very much.

Not rocket science.

[Poppykate]

I agree! Show interest! Be like the animals on the discovery channel... show him your naked ass! Lol 😂

[Viperkiss]

@Poppykate lol! Hey baby you like how my ass turned blue?

[Poppykate]

Lol 😂 it's only blue because you are in Canada!

[Viperkiss]

@Poppykate lol no I'm guessing the constant paddling from life.

[Poppykate]

No! Then it would be red! It must be from the cold! We don't see too many blue bottoms here... 🤔 But lots of red! Lol 😂

[Viperkiss]

@Poppykate lol ok that may be the case... but the doctor thinks it's pretty serious...

[Wolframium]

Doesn’t that mean, that you’ve killed someone? I imagine that you had a powerful sniper rifle, silencer, good scope and everything, and you lying on top of some building, looking for your target. There he is. On street, down, in the distance. About 500 m. There are some people too, but fuck ‘em. You aim. Steady. Control your breath, calm down. You have all the time, what you need. You are perfect. And then you got it. Ideal moment. You pull the trigger. He is ghosted. People down panicking. Stupid idiots. You aren’t there for them. Just this one. You didn’t even know him, just got the order to ghost him. You send confirmation text with photo, using camera with state-of-the-art optics. Packing your tools. Nobody saw you, you are used to it. Suddenly, you got confirmation back. 500 000 $ are yours. Starting being hungry, maybe try that Chinese restaurant, which you saw in your scope? Naaah, there will be too much fuzz right now. As you walking down, you order pizza. Rest of the day free.
This is what I saw in my head. I just leave it here. I’m pretty sure, that nobody will even bother to read this. Just like most of comment on the internet.

[bahamamama]

That's one way to look at it?

[Wolframium]

I suppose it is. :-)
Hey, I like thinking outside the box. :-)

[Matti_Jr]

No way, if I'm in the mood for Chinese, I'll get Chinese.

I'm sure there is also a demand for assassinating people who ghost. :P

[Wolframium]

At least go somewhere else. There will be cops, and your suspiciously looking bag isn't good. Sure, you'd probably use some storage somewhere else.
I still don't understand, what ghosting in that context means. :-D

[mb123]

I know that if IO was in her place, if the guy explained a little bit (even if it's saying you were nervous about the situation) and apologies, it would be a good start. In situation when someone has to apologies for their behavior, I find I'm more prone to go with it when it's sincere and to the point. No excuses, no blaming someone else. Just saying you are sorry with the little explanation and then you start prooving to me that you will put the work in. I think that what any woman wants is a guy that knows when he fucked up and will try to fix it. Basically, I think the situation is fixable. But when there is a bump in the road, if she's not ready to forgive you just yet, make sure that you really like her. And if you are sure you do, then don't give up on the situation. Just be there for her and make sure she understands (by showing her, not just with words) that you are not going anywhere.

[Anonymous]

I did this before twice with the same guy and unless you come up with the vest explinstion possible and change for the better after ghosting him there is a possibility. If a guy had ghosted me I would ghosted me he would have to tell me why and if his reason was good enough I might talk to him. Good luck

[Comawhite666]

I've been ghosted before by someone I really liked and it hurt so much. If he wanted anything to do with me now I would ignore him completely, if someone is happy doing something like that then they are not worth having in my life~ it's cowardly and childish.

[RJGraveyTrain]

I would never get involved with someone who ghosted me to be honest.

[sawno]

There is a good way to fix this with me if someone accidentally does it.
So ill share what works on me in hopes it works for him to.

INITIATE the conversations, this is hugely important. Do the opposite of your ghosting and show interest by being the one to initiate most of the time for a while. Apologize for being so absent lately and then just continue where you where.

If a guy was actively trying to come in contact i am sure he will generally be happy that you are talking to him again, so it should be quite easily fixable if he doesn't hold a grudge.

[Dropical]

I wouldn't feel like you were intrested at, so I wouldn't pay you much attention at all. probably become colder towards you In general. That being said if you apologized and tried to make up for it things would get better eventually. really depends on the gesture though. I'm sorry for ghosting you cake would probably work.

[thatonegirl_e]

I've actually done the same thing and felt so stupid afterwards. I was lucky in that the guy I ghosted ended up finding me. We reconnected after that.
There's a 50/50 chance that the person will accept you back. So just try randomly texting.

[ChgzDaniel]

I ghost the love of my life for months at a time sometimes. We never talk about it, I don't do it to be mean... we just both understand that life is time-consuming

[MysteriousDarkness]

@ChgzDaniel Unless you are in the military why would you ghost someone for that long at a time? On top of that why do you both act like its no big deal?

[ChgzDaniel]

@MysteriousDarkness It would be too hard to explain.

[MysteriousDarkness]

@ChgzDabiel If she was the love of your life you would not ghost her let alone ghost her for months at a time. Since you said life is time consuming it seems like you can not find 5 minutes to call, text or message her. Test is pathetic.

[ChgzDaniel]

@MysteriousDarkness For a start, I'm a chick and the person I ghost is a guy. And if you are that desperate to understand then I'll just go and tell you. We are both married and live in totally different countries. Our love is immoral and wrong so we have to be secret about it. I try to fight the urge to talk to him and he understands. But I can't let go of him.

[MysteriousDarkness]

@ChgzDaniel You both are married to someone else and living in different countries. Whyis he the love of your life and not the one you married?

[ChgzDaniel]

@MysteriousDarkness I married young because I made the mistake of getting pregnant at 16, but the guy I married wasn't perfect. I by chance met the perfect person for me online. I told you anyway... too complicated to explain

[MysteriousDarkness]

@ChgzDaniel How can he be the perfect person for you if he is also married and lives in another country?

[Spelling95]

Do you actually like them, or are you out of options now and you like the fact that he was into you before and something is better than nothing?

Chat him up and see, he might not go for it.

[bahamamama]

[reply to all/further explanation]
I did like him and I started this conversation on a stupid 12am at a party impulse. I stopped talking because the conversation wasn't going anywhere and I wasn't sure how to keep it going. I think he did like me, but I probably dashed my chances now? We weren't dating or even talking before this happened.

[Maxine_Payne]

You can try contact him and then apologize for disappearing without warning. Chances are he wouldn't wanna have anything to do with you anymore, but you could still try and maybe it'd work... /shrugs

[JoyGirl]

Just text him and say "hey, wyd."
See where it goes from there.

[404filenotfound]

There's not a chance in hell that I'd give someone the time of day if they ghosted me. It's selfish and cowardly, neither are personality traits that I'd hold in high regard when looking for a mate.

[MysteriousDarkness]

If you really liked him you would not have stopped talking to him for about a month. You are to young for the military so unless you were in a coma I do not see a reason why you could not have called him, messaged him or texted him.

[Blonde401]

TBH if someone did that to me the ship would have sailed.

[GoodGuyBreakingBad]

I would recommend start talking to that person. Only communication will take this situation anywhere.

[Z-Spark]

its getting annoying, girls do this all the time, no wonder the world is overflwoing with dating problems, GIRLS ARE STUPID BEYOND BELIEF.

[Chanel1981]

You could try reaching out to apologize and explain. How long ago was it?

[MysteriousDarkness]

She said it has been about a month

[Chanel1981]

@MysteriousDarkness I see that now that you pointed it out lol that's not too long, I think apologies are the way to go

[Justinaveragedude]

try talking to them, apologize. and GROW THE HELL UP!

[winterfox10]

You've already shown the person that you don't respect them or their time... if he gives you the time of day, you know he's pathetic!

[Patriot357]

No its not fixable because of what you did. No man with any self respect would talk to someone who ghosted him

[hero-hero]

How about trying to grow up and be an adult before considering dating :) ?

[Browneye57]

You've already demonstrated to be untrustworthy. So no, you can't 'fix this'. Move on.

[Chrizly73]

When girls do this, they can fix it easily. Apologies to him and all will be fine

[Anonymous]

why do girls do this? i can't understand the psychology of a woman and the more i learn about them, the less i want to know because it seems scary to be honest