I'm "dating" two guys right now, both of which I have feelings for. I only went on one date with one of them (a second date is set) and I've been on two dates with the other (the third date is set) .
Am I wrong to be doing this, and should I cancel on one of them? Just something feels wrong about this... please let me know what I should do! When should I decide? What would you do?
I think what I'll do is go on one more date with the first one and take it from there. I am in no way trying to hurt anyone here and that was not the intention. Going forward I will not do this again but it just happened and I initially did not think it through. Thanks again.
Most Helpful Guy
As an older man with quite a lot of experience , I would like to explain something fairly fundamental to someone so young. When you and your partner are 100% committed to each other, it is a magical, deep and wonderful thing. In fact this is actually what everyone is looking for. As soon as one party in the relationship is not of that frame of mind, that magic is not achievable. You will never find the magic unless you are committed to ONE other person. Otherwise it is diluted, like putting water into wine or Coca Cola. If you want purity and intense love and romance, this is only possible without dilution and with full commitment. I have traveled a long road and only found it three times, mainly due to mistrust and in some part my own folly. It is not easy to find another person passionate and committed, but when you do, grasp it with both hands and enjoy it while it lasts.2
Most Helpful Girl
See, this is why I always condemn this. If you got to be fickle then don't date at all. Dating is not about feelings and what you just feel for a person. It is a rational decision. At the end of the day, nobody is telling you this, but you're playing the both of them because you're selfish and you have options. It's going to hurt their feelings and they wouldn't trust you. Besides your under 18 and is far too young for this crap. Especially if you have no plans for early marriage, forget it. I'm sure you wouldn't like it if somebody did that to you where you're an 2nd choice.1