I don't like the way lesbian couples are sexualised, mostly by straight men who have this fetishistic fantasy about women kissing each other... Its sick... And it goes both ways, I've seen gay men being some sort of fetish for some straight women... Especially fan girls who like to ship together fictional characters.. Witch is harmless, but some take it a step further and do the same with real life people... someone's sexual orientation isn't your fetish... No matter if you agree or not with homosexuality, or if you find it appealing... Respect them as people and don't stare at them like they on display on a zoo... From my experience anyway, gay couples are a lot more discreet in public than hetero couples are... So just be a decent human being and mind your damn business
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I think out of the two it’s more accepted for two females because guys often find it hot. Neither are wrong though.
Let me tell you a little story. I was once getting drunk with a large group of friends and two girls started kissing just for the fun in it neither is lesbian.
So I say (jokingly) I want in and my best friend was sitting next to me so I put my hand over his mouth and kissed the back of my hand.
No once cared that they kissed but when they saw me and him (although we weren't even kissing) we got an errupted reaction of shock.
Girl on girl kiss is so common by now that it feels normal. Guys thats another story.
Personally I like it this way though. Not a big of that stuff but to each his own I guess
I can't figure out the "exact" why behind it, but guys kissing just looks unnatural while girls kissing looks really beautiful. I'm not homophobic, I'm not anti-gay or anything like that. I just can't wrap my head around it. I don't think I'm alone in this thinking either.
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I do think that two women kissing is still considered more socially acceptable than men but this is only maybe in the last 25 years. It’s long been a sexual fantasy but in reality not so much. Men have a much harder time of it. Slowly becoming acceptable.
Post note: I’m not a big PDA person whoever is doing it.
And two men showing PDA is quickly becoming a fantasy genre not only for gay and bi men but, also, straight women.Not sure what you mean by "acceptable."
Truth in advertising, for a man of my age it is still somewhat jarring to see two people of the same sex kissing romantically. Still, where there is same sex attraction, at the very least it seems rather churlish to object.
Indeed, my only real objection is to PDA's for both same and opposite sex couples that go beyond the bounds of appropriateness to time and context. Good manners demand that we regulate our conduct according to circumstance.
Beyond that, though, it is what it is. As long as such kissing does not breech good taste, there is really nothing to object to.
To the extent it takes those of us some getting used to, we should observe the same etiquette that we expect all people to observe in the general regulation of their PDA. People kissing is pretty common and so treat it as such.I like both. I enjoy watching people of the same sex kiss. It fills me with satisfactions.
Some men do love it when two women kiss each other, and I find that normal. I also find a woman loving when two guys kiss normal too.
Two guys kissing messes with my ADHD and I'd want to sit right beside the two kissing guys. I really love the fan service; even if two of the guys are straight, fan service is a big deal for me.
If the two guys are gays or bisexuals, it will make it even better.Why? Well for me, and I'm wondering if its the same from a woman's perspective, it's all about visualizing.
Step 1. Look up Aphantasia and if thats how your mind works stop reading
When someone describes something I think is really gross my mind fabricates it for me anyway with all the nightmares/years of therapy that'll go along with it.
So 2girls kissing automatically becomes 66%of my first threesome
A couple kissing=Ah she's hot but now available and Im trying to copy paste me in the picture which never works
And 2guys kissing= Move along, let them enjoy their moment and if Im fast I could catch a glimp of the first 2 girls8)
(Couple=1guy 1 girl in this example)
TLDR You'll most likely look to where your preference is?I don't like it or dislike it. I don't care.
I like seeing people kissing of whatever gender or sexual orientation, when I'm emotionally involved with the characters of a show or when they are my close friends and I'm happy they have found love.
Oh, and only like it if I'm genuinely happy for them. Because if I have reasons to fear the other person is going to hurt my friend I'm not happy to see them kiss.
Also, in real life, I'm more or less ok seeing people kissing depending if it's a cute kiss or if it seems like they gonna have sex right there. I don't like the idea of seeing people I know having sex. Again, regardless of gender or sexual orientation.A good barometer might be the plots of dramas. While watching TV my boyfriend would spot what was coming and call "lesbian subplot". Now, because lesbian characters are so common (lazy writers ticking the diversity box), he calls "ubiquitous lesbian subplot". Depictions of male homosexuality are less common, probably because audiences find them less palatable, and so people remain less acclimatized to seeing them. For the conservative audience, male homosexuality is often "defused" by comedy. I think of myself as very liberal, but must admit I was shocked by scenes of male homosexuality in London Spy.
I'm not pro LGBT. As for kissing in public, yeah it's nice and all but you know I don't think a couple should show people what they should have done in private as a sign they think proves their strong passion for each other coz you know, it's supposed to be their thing not mine not anybody else to watch. I even think it's not valiant manhood to let people see how your girl kisses you and hold you close so that they may think how sexy that would be if they were in your place. Keep making out a private thing, please. I mean I'm single at the moment I'd feel the deepest and cruelest parts of my loneliness if I walk down the street seeing people making out. (joke) I'd totally feel happy for them. :D
I did some reading on why men are so turned on my lesbian sexual activity. I’ve been one of those who guys who almost since puberty that was way turned on by that, but why? Why is that? And I know some guys aren’t turned on by that at all. I often wish I felt the same way as them, but I don’t.
As it turns out when women are making out it shows they are both ready for sex. Men know women aren’t always ready for it given menstrual cycles. But it’s just a sign both of them are.
Besides being straight I know most people aren’t turned on by two guys doing that. Sucks for those guys but most women aren’t turned on by watching two guys do that (actually they’re usually turned off) vs many both men/women being turned on by watching girls kiss. Reason being is guys are mechanically ready to go at any time. We might have testosterone fluctuations but we don’t have periods. So it makes no difference letting people know we are ready or not.In the late 1990s, when Buffy the Vampire Slayer was on TV, Willow came out as gay, and would kiss girls.
My mother got into the show and would watch it with us. She is very conservative and, oddly enough considering subject matter, staunchly Christian.
She'd roll her eyes, but not look away.
So, I've kept an eye on that behavior, in her and others, for over 20 years now.
It seems to me that, even straight, socially conservative christian women will generally shrug off girls kissing, and really get displeased watching guys.
So, yeah. Girls are more OK, socially.I dunno I think a straight woman wouldn’t do that. If you have reached puberty and know what you’re attracted to and you kiss the same gender you’re probably bi or gay. I would be repulsed to kiss any girl on the mouth but when I was in school a lot of girls did it and took pics and put it on Facebook.
whether it is acceptable or not depends on your culture and where you live. In the Middle East or anywhere in Asia it’s unacceptable and you can go to prison whereas in the West most people don’t care and mind their own business unless there are homophobes around - they might attack. I think homosexuality is still an issue to a lot of people and may be for quite some time. I don’t see it getting completely accepted even in the next 100 years.I put C, even though I think it was phrased weirdly. Every person and their sexual orientation should be accepted and respected. I don't have a problem with homosexual couples. It is nice nowadays that people feel they can express their love however they chose.
I don't like "excessive" PDAs by heterosexual couples. It makes me wanna scream "Rent a room!" It's worse when I see girl-on-girl all "touchy-feely" while Frenching each other in public. They're "making a bold statement" beyond expressing affection for each other. It seems like they're intentionally making a politically-driven point to onlookers.
Don't get me started with any type of guy-on-guy expressions. They simply gross me out, whether in person or on print or on TV & cinema.It should not matter if a girl and a girl kiss each other or if a guy and a guy kiss each other. In my eyes it is perfectly fine to like your own gender, and if people do have a problem with that, well maybe they should keep it to themselves. People who date their gender should not be getting as much hate as they are. And I only know this because I like girls and boys. And others who are like me, should not be getting as much hate as people are giving us.
I kiss my husband all the time, in public or private, in my college days when I was more openly bisexual I had no problem kissing a girl, now I admit at times I did it to turn on guys that were staring at us but I still loved her and enjoyed kissing her. But over all if two people are in love and kissing is an expression of that love, who are we to judge them if they choose to kiss.
Well, I'm a straight male, so I prefer girls kissing. :p But I also recognize gay guys exist, so whatever. It doesn't bother me to see guys kiss in real life or in media. The only time it bothers me is when it seems disproportionate in movies. I mean, only like 4% of the population is gay, so why are 50% of the people on every tv show gay? Make it more realistic. Even as someone who supports gay people, I gotta recognize studios are going way overboard with it.
I prefer to call them just a loving couple... no matter what gender
If you like the one but the other is disgusting, you should probably learn more about your psyche
As an example, you remember the movie "broke back mountain" where those two guys have a secret gay live... was a good movie but the male world freaked out and didn't understand what the movie is about... now they making the remake but with 2 ladies (blond and redhead) and like the jesus wonder, suddenly the male world is like "oh thats hot, caused by that its ok" guys, thats on one hand a double standard and on the other hand its disgusting for me how ya lie to yourself that there is a difference there...
Plus, in most places on the planet gay men kissing in public can cause serious problems... while lesbian woman kissing in public is more like a free porn clip (like they are there to serve man's sexual imagination)I don't pay attention either way because it's none of my business honestly, if you are that in love to be kissing in public showing public display of affection, you don't give a fuck because you don't know anything or see anything besides the person that's in front of you and let them enjoy that moment because you know as well as I do, you only get to find those people that you're in those moments with once in a lifetime
I might be a little shocked at first like i would be if i saw a straight couple making out in front of me. Im not one for extreme displays of public affection no matter peoples sexuality. But id pretty much just walk by after and move on with my day. I honestly couldn't care that much and have my own life going on.
Heterosexual is the way it should be. God said marriage is between a man and a woman, so he only intended for attraction between the two. Regardless I’m only disturbed when I see two men kissing because I can personally relate to the feelings of attraction that lesbians are drawn to.
I'm into both, but I don't think it's makes you homophobic to be against it either. Just because you support someone's right to be doing what they want, doesn't mean you have to want to watch it. It's normal to be uncomfortable with same sex sexuality if you're straight. It's just not very natural to you because it's not what you're into.
Though I hate all kissing in public. I don't mind it in shows, but pda makes me pretty uncomfortable in general.
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