I have a type. Doesn’t look like my mom. Doesn’t look like models. I also don’t want to marry down too far in terms of intelligence or drive or physical aspect or critical thinking. For me, honestly, I always thought I would live life solo. I don’t like most people. I figured if I never found someone who was fantastic, it’s a pretty close second to go with no-one.
It's involuntary to be attracted, but you can train your mind to shut out the wrong people for you. It's not like you "can't help" being in a bad relationship, for example. However, sometimes saying "nope" is harder than it looks.
I can see an attractive person and don’t find many as someone I’d be attracted to. Personally it’s a mixed for me. I like to control my level of attraction and interest in someone if possible, hence I am an open person yet I keep my guards up.
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It's a combination of voluntary and involuntary. We can partially choose what we want or don't want. People who are suggestible can be influenced by things they have been exposed to. Although, even strong-willed people have a few weak points, they just can't help being attracted to certain things.
i can definitely pick who im attracted to because i find them hot, you would not see me accidentally finding an ugly girl hot because i choose not to be attacted to ugly girls, i choose to be attacted to hot girls, so you have all control over what your attracted to
I think that’s why a lot of women go bi or lez nowadays too: they’re tired of the b. s. of men. The fact is that you get what you give, and there are good people out there of both genders that make generalizations of their whole gender impossible, but men and women get so selfish and don’t bother to find them. They just rather complain. But I’ll keep in mind that you prefer to be gay. I wouldn’t have thought that of you. Not that it’s my business, but I prefer to associate more with straight people in general. So thanks for the info.
I'd be interested to know what species those people belong to who believe that attraction is voluntarily chosen, because it certainly isn't homo sapiens
No attraction is not voluntary you can't control what you find attractive. Now what you do after you realize your attracted to the person is voluntary your choosing to pursue it on not
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I have a type. Doesn’t look like my mom. Doesn’t look like models. I also don’t want to marry down too far in terms of intelligence or drive or physical aspect or critical thinking. For me, honestly, I always thought I would live life solo. I don’t like most people. I figured if I never found someone who was fantastic, it’s a pretty close second to go with no-one.
That’s all to say this is a blend for me. Some characteristics I naturally gravitate to, and others are standards. Both need to match.
You're confused.
It's little to do with attraction. some marry for money, others for security and yet others for a myriad of reasons.
Not really 😂but okay
Everybody knows attraction is essential and that different things attract different people.
It's involuntary to be attracted, but you can train your mind to shut out the wrong people for you. It's not like you "can't help" being in a bad relationship, for example. However, sometimes saying "nope" is harder than it looks.
I can see an attractive person and don’t find many as someone I’d be attracted to. Personally it’s a mixed for me. I like to control my level of attraction and interest in someone if possible, hence I am an open person yet I keep my guards up.
It's a combination of voluntary and involuntary.
We can partially choose what we want or don't want.
People who are suggestible can be influenced by things they have been exposed to.
Although, even strong-willed people have a few weak points, they just can't help being attracted to certain things.
Option B. If it was involuntary, people would have the same beauty standards all throughout history and within the same cultures.
Its involuntary because when i no longer feel attracted, i start to voluntarily force myself to maintain attraction to that person
are the food you find tastey controlled by ur brain or do u choose to like them because u like them?
both are culprits, same with yes
so my answer is. both
Good point. I'm not gonna eat a lemon when I hate lemon :D
i can definitely pick who im attracted to because i find them hot,
you would not see me accidentally finding an ugly girl hot because i choose not to be attacted to ugly girls, i choose to be attacted to hot girls, so you have all control over what your attracted to
Makes sense
lol 😁 poor lemon 😢 lol joke
Definitely involuntary. There is a difference between being attracted to someone and not dating someone while still finding them attractive.
It's clearly involuntary. Can I get aroused by a door? Or a car?
Well hopefully you wouldn't want to either, so that could prove either way lol
Trust me, with how difficult women can be sometimes, I've really tried to go full gay. But the farthest I can handle is she shemales.
Being 100% gay would remove so much of the bullshit of dating.
I think that’s why a lot of women go bi or lez nowadays too: they’re tired of the b. s. of men. The fact is that you get what you give, and there are good people out there of both genders that make generalizations of their whole gender impossible, but men and women get so selfish and don’t bother to find them. They just rather complain.
But I’ll keep in mind that you prefer to be gay. I wouldn’t have thought that of you. Not that it’s my business, but I prefer to associate more with straight people in general. So thanks for the info.
You already knew I am bi lol. (liking shemales is definitely not straight).
I did not know that 😂yeah it’s not heterosexual so doesn’t matter lol
What does it matter though? We're only ever going to be friends. It's not like you have to date me or something.
Do homos scare you?
Id say that attraction is totally involuntary. But... BUT... whether or not you act upon this urge is 100% your decision.
Are we talking physical attraction or attraction that's based more on things like personality things that aren't physical? Or a mix of both?
It's hard not to pay attention to what we are attracted to and we are powerless to control our attractions
involuntary, I've been attracted to men i couldn't stand to be around yet there was still something there what found them attractive.
I'd be interested to know what species those people belong to who believe that attraction is voluntarily chosen, because it certainly isn't homo sapiens
Attraction is involuntary but how you respond to it is voluntary
No attraction is not voluntary you can't control what you find attractive. Now what you do after you realize your attracted to the person is voluntary your choosing to pursue it on not
Attraction is attraction.
Sexism is sexism.
Don't conflate the two.
Attraction is involuntary, but attraction is not always a reason for whom we choose.
90/10 split ratio. I can mainly control who I am attracted to, but about 10% of the time I am attracted to the kind I don't like.