Do guys fall in love quicker with girls or is it the other way around?

[MissEm96]

It took me a lot longer to tell my boyfriend that I loved him. Share your experiences here 🥰

Yes - guys fall quicker

No - girls fall quicker

[AmandaYVR]

Wow fascinating male vote there.
I wonder if it's their perception, or actually true.
I don't believe it.
Male attraction tends to be based primarily on the physical at the beginning. Female attraction is more complex and has typically prioritized appearance a bit lower because they're assessing everything about the guy, right from the start. Safety, stability, status, all that is taken into account. Guys only have to worry about attraction and subconsciously fertility at first.

I don't think men can put themselves inside women's/girl's heads very easily. And vice versa maybe.
I can sort of tell when a guy is feeling good at the beginning of a relationship, but can't tell when it tips for them into something more serious. That's very, very difficult to know, unless they express it verbally, directly. (Actions/behaviour is not enough. That doesn't rule out they're still in the physical attraction/sex phase.)
My personal experience is that I have strong feelings about a lot of things, quickly. Be they good or bad.

[he-takes-a-part]

unnecessry complications here
guys these days equally see esp when its a life decison that a girl is attractive has stable mind and not looking for things in outside world to get her in mood all the time, not easily frustble, may be mature guys are lesor those who go in deep but possibility cannot be ruled out.
the guys described by you are less serious in their own life leave alone about the girl
With girls it is obviously attraction and appearence that comes into play but with familiarity to the guy is also an important factor statu i dont think is predominant

[jerdanro]

I fall quickly. Not to detract from the women I have loved, bit I think part of it is how much I want to be in love with someone who is in love with me

[NyceGuyFinishingLast]

This is yet another question that is not determined by gender. It is based upon the person and what they expect. There is no determination showing that more guys fall in love faster than women. I have seen a lot of women fall for a guy and even if the guy doesn't want anything to do with them the girl will pursue them. But, I can say the same thing about guys. I really hate questions trying to be based on gender when it boils down the person because in this case both genders are guilty.

I mean all the questions have been directed towards one gender or the other and have no basis on how the knowledge was obtained.

Why do men cheat more than women?

Why do more women flirt with guys on social media than men?

Why are men more prone to getting a divorce than women?

Why do more women ignore their dates with their phone glued to their faces than men? (This one can be proven by just walking in a restaurant. Both parties are sitting at the table across from each other and phones glued to their faces.)

If you are going to base a question on a gender then have the numbers to back it up because most of the questions on here that try to call out one gender or the other, both parties are very guilty.

[MissEm96]

It’s just for fun tbh 😊 not to be taken too seriously!

[NyceGuyFinishingLast]

Yeah I guess. I didn't think about it but it doesn't stop from trolling and men and women are fighting because they are still hurt from a previous experience.

[MissEm96]

People will find an excuse to do this now whatever you post.

[zeitgeist057]

My thoughts are it is dependent on the person; some women fall faster, some guys do. But in general, I think men fall faster and harder than women. Women take a while to warm up, feel safe, open up and be vulnerable. There are guys like that too, but most don't care to waste time, they are confident, open, ready to develop intimacy right away if they are attracted to a woman.

Checking out the poll results I think they more or less agree with me. About 50/50 on the women, and men it's close to 2/3 or even more that feel they fall in love faster.

[MissEm96]

I think you’re spot on

[thimmslicc]

My boyfriends always fell for me first. I fall after I notice he does care.
Some guys fall because they wanna know more about you and care for you. A girl can fall in love but once you break her heart. Piece by piece it goes.

[AlwaysBehonest]

actually because we want to see more of you, If not we wouldn't even care about girls

[coachTanthony]

--------The one who cares the most falls quicker.

"You can't blame gravity for falling in love."
~Coach T Anthony @thedatecoach IG

[MrOracle]

Guys as a rule fall in love more quickly, but tend to remain cautious for a while to make sure there aren't any hidden deal breakers. The feelings will be there, though, even if he isn't trying to show them.

But guys fall in LUST far more often, so lust alone should not be mistaken for love.

[TheorionMage]

If by 'fall' you mean become 'infatuated' borne of imagined visual fantasies... Yes, its MOST guys~

Never forget Frank Zappa's eternal lyric: "If she were MY daughter...
What would you DO , Daddy?
If she were MY daughter... I'd cover THAT girl in chocolate syrup
and make her do 'the Nasty' on the White House lawn..." ;) LOL!

[canucker90]

Guys fall in love faster but that's based on attraction first and then feeling "companionship" of I'm with someone because society teaches guys you are complete with a girl in your life. But then society teaches girls, be independent to complete your life. It doesn't make sense to me. I think girls take longer because she has to see what type of guy he is. Is he toying with her feelings? Is he pursuing her just to sleep with her? Many things come into play. Guys who actually think things through will take a cautious approach with girls. That's if a guy doesn't let his dick do the thinking because that's a recipe for disaster then.

[he-takes-a-part]

guys these days equally see esp when its a life decison that a girl is attractive has stable mind and not looking for things in outside world to get her in mood all the time, not easily frustble, may be mature guys are lesor those who go in deep but possibility cannot be ruled out.
the guys described by you are less serious in their own life leave alone about the girl
With girls it is obviously attraction and appearence that comes into play but with familiarity to the guy is also an important factor statu i dont think is predominant

[littlebitmoody]

As a girl, i catch feelings/am touched easily but falling in love and admitting that to myself takes a long time. I think more than gender, history and environment governs this.

[exitseven]

I used to tell my wife I loved her and she would make a face like she was going to spit up. This went on for many weeks until she finally said it back.

[dray995]

Well, it’s good that didn’t think you were crazy and end up leaving you.

[Rok4bakAR]

Men fall in love once or get their heart broken once! After that they’ll never be able to go back! Meaning they can never love again.

[MissEm96]

I actually totally believe this! My brother had a first love at 18 who he REALLY loved. He’s had a child with someone and been married to someone else since and he told me those breakups were nothing compared to the first love. My family and I very much doubt her ever even loved either of those women. At least, not in the same way

[Rok4bakAR]

Yah it’s like that! Men who get a lot of attractive girls in their 30+ were usually the same guys who were MR nice guys in their teens and early 20’s.

[MannMitAntworten]

Very rarely have I ever said the “L word” first. Many times I never even said it only replying to theirs with, “I know”. I cannot speak for other men but I get the impression women say it far more often. Now, whether them saying it actually means they authentically feel that way is open for debate. Frankly, I doubt most do. The few I actually believed where the compelling ones.

[ProCoffeeAntiSleep]

I don't think its always gendered, but I think one partner always falls quicker, the other falls harder

[TommyMountainFigure]

That depends on the people in the relationship. I'm not one to fall that easily either. I refuse to allow myself to until I am 100% sure.

[dray995]

Me too.

[throwsomecheeseonit]

Depends. Everyone is different i don't think it is up to gender. More up to circumstance. For instance a person who has not had much love in their life might fall in love faster because they are yearning for that connection

[Shihab91]

well since I'm a man ( hunter) when I tell a girl I like her this means I have been watching her for a long time so I have an idea who is she and I already like her while I'm still complete stranger to her

[Browneye57]

Everybody is different honey. It's all based on their own life experiences.
I can fall in love in about twenty minutes. LOL

[Itsmeeeee77]

I fall in love after initial attraction. And I don’t see a woman’s boobs to fall in love rather the type of woman and her face and her eyes and lips. And I express it soon within 3 months.

[gotc147]

Hasn't all the research shown men fall in love much faster than women?

[ChiTown33]

Not in my experience. It's just the opposite. I mean I may find her attractive first but that doesn't mean I love her it's just initial attraction. Love comes with trust and I trust slowly. In my experience much slower than any woman I've ever met.

[PBarlow]

Guys def quicker. If some guy has some issues. One night on the party is all it takes

[boggboss]

wouldn't say either falls for the other first everyone is differnt with how fast they fall

[Floppy2112]

When a guy falls, like really falls for a woman, it's fast. We can tell a lot of stuff right away and 90% we're right if there is reciprocation.