You're going to have to do a little better than this. Because I've been in a relationship with the same girl I went to middle school, high school, and a residential mental institutional type of school. We would date on and off on and off on and off on and off on and off on and off to the point where my heart couldn't take it anymore. My ex girlfriend kiss a girl right in front of me telling me that it was over between us. Then three months later she came back to me and I accepted her apology and then she just dumped me again kissed another girl right in front of me back and forth the only reason I have not said no to her because I'm not a heartbreaker and her mother told me to look after her any way possible. I was just respecting the mother's wish, and I literally sold my soul to this woman and all she did was play me like a sucker. Like put me first then put two guys then a girl then put me again then two girls than one guy then put me again and just keep making the pattern with 4 different people then me again on and on and on and on and on to the point where I couldn't take it anymore. Is hard to know if your girlfriend or boyfriend will suddenly just turn against by being a lesbian or gay suddenly while being in a relationship that you thought was going to work the last 1,000 times. The worst part is, in all our relationship she never once ever talked about being in a three-way relationship that way I can get used to seeing her kiss another girl but no. I was the jackass the whole time. Being a gentleman sucks sometimes, especially when you have to be respectful and treat women as women knowing that you might get played and manipulated in the process without actually knowing until it's too late.
Well I think girl on girl sex is pretty hot so I think it would turn me on
That's cheating. Cheating is to get physical with someone else. Or even flirting with someone else. The girl you do it with not having a dick does Not make it right.
If you're going to do it, talk to him about it beforehand and perhaps get your guy involved. Many have that threesome fantasy.
You're attracted to girls. If you think it's okay to kiss another girl, you SHOULD ALSO BE OKAY with your man kissing another girl whenever he wants to. If you don't agree with this, I don't think you're relationship material, a monogamous one at least.
She didn't cheat, cause it's a girl
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u I would feel that it was time to find a new girlfriend.
I would want to meet her and if we got along (not meaning threesome unless that was their intention) I would want to sit down with my girl and talk it out depending on how that went all 3 of us sit down and talk it out and depending on how that went I would want to have a sit down with my girls girl. Me having the sit down with my girl would be to give her a chance to explain how and why and also to apologize then to find out where sheās wanting to go from there. Depending on that sit down I would want a meeting with my girl and the other girl it would be to see if we were capable of becoming friends or just how the vibe between me and her again not sexually but if she hates men or just hates me then my girl will have to make a choice right then or I will. Then the sit down with just me and the other girl would be so I could see her true intentions and expectations and push her a little to see if sheās really ok with me being with my girl and if we could actually become friends cause sheās more likely to be nice in front of my girl and Iād want no problems or whatever situation where we share my girl separately but can be friends or we all three get along together or we share my girl and are ok with each other but are not friends but if thereās any behind the back kinda shit then Iām out. Of course Iād be a little upset about her kissing a girl but to be honest it would be more of a turn on. Iām a man what do you expect. Iām definitely a believer in open relationships as long as your honest being safe and are mature enough to handle it and I know the bond between to women can be huge in ways one with a man cannot but I also know the bond with a man can be just as strong just in different ways we both bring different things to the table and not just the obvious. Sorry for the novel but this is a complicated question because technically she cheated some but as double standard as it is I wouldnāt trip like I would if it was another man
This is a personal pitiful of mine. For one of those guys who is and always has been turned on by girl on girl action. But as Iāve gotten older (and Iāve recently quit porn) I realize this is mental complex thanks to me being exposed to porn at a young age.
On the flip side this can be cheating depending on the context. Itās not dealbreaker cheating but still. I guess if she asked I wouldnāt care. Or better yet I knew the girl and this a possible 3some down the roadā¦.. I would be sorely tempted.
But when I put the fantasy aside I think another woman can be even a bigger threat then a another guy. Women know how to manipulate women. It would be all too easy to my girlfriend complain to another girl about my foibles and the other girl could easily indulge that. Thatās emotional manipulation and danger.
There is an older take on GAG about how an engaged girl cheated on her fiancé (they we were both virgins) with another woman. This almost destroyed their entire marriage. The other woman said āyou have to choose between me or himā and she almost choose her. THAT is scary.
But again this is just a kiss. Can be forgivable depending on the context.
It would not bother me at all. Never would I discourage or try to prevent it or decline my own health by stressing and worrying over it. What I would do however, is observe , make note and devise a plan for a way to come between them lol.
Besides, my game and confidence are sound so I'm not insecure in either and would bet my last dollar that I'm just as good if not better in the activities that bi and/or lesbian girls might indulge in. Unless of course a big ol smirking strap on comes into play, I'd have to sit that one out lol. I likely could not compete with it anyway.
Then again , the number one chance for survival in the field is a sharp ability to visualize and improvise.
I would tell her it's not okay. It's cheating if you're not okay with it because she's engaging in intimate behavior with another person without her partner's consent. However, if the guy is okay with it, I wouldn't consider that cheating. Some people like swinging, some don't. Both people need to be on the same page.
Lmao I'm weird. My last 3 girlfriends were straight but all wanted to do 3somes with me. My last ex was the first to bring up the idea of us doing 3somes and her kissing girls if I'm into that.
Personally I'd be okay with it, but what I would say because I feel slightly more strongly this direction. "That's fine, but from now on I just want to be included".
She can do all that. But I'm making out with her too
My boyfriend is 100% hetero, and his dream wants with 100% hetero woman in a long term relationship. However, he found out that I attract women more than men, then he felt a bit more disappointed. He says no matter how much he loves me, he doesn't want to lose me. He thinks it would be better for me to explore a date with a woman for the first time. As if I feel more comfortable then there will be an answer for my sexuality, gender/identity. Is he nice person?
I know my boyfriend is very loyal to me in 13 years. He donāt like to see me kissing another woman, then it would probably hurt his feelings ever! We probably end up our relationship, but not reallyā¦ we are just laid back and more like agree thatāll easy. (Shared this with him, and there wouldnāt happen.)
Okay, just consider that it is also important that you be honest with your partner if there's a more open mind.
Nope. Not ok.
How is it not cheating?
See, this is the kinda of shit girls say casually, but if sheās my girlfriend and weāre exclusive, itās CHEATING! Itās not NOT cheating just because itās another girl or because she did it in front of me.
"Its not cheating y'all overreacting"
Yeah now I know you're immature to be in relationships. Kissing another person is cheating, regardless of gender. That has nothing to do with overreacting, but staring reality dead in the face.
To answer your initial question, it doesn't matter how I feel, what matters is what I do and I would simply dump her ass. I have no time to be teaching an adult the basic principles of a relationship that even children know
I'd say it depends.
Have i agreed to it/she told me she wanted to do it?
I would most likely be turned on
It happened randomly, maybe due to alcohol? I don't know
If there was no intention other than curiosity i don't think I'll think of it as cheating (of ok there, if it's in secret and/or I'll learn about it from other people then i think I may not be happy about it)
A friend of mine got really pissed of when his girlfriend at a nightclub started making out with her female friend infront of the boyfriend,
They made out with each other, the other girl was sitting on her in a way facing each other. They even playd with each others tits while making out.
If it was me in his position, I would ask to join in, if she was hot.
If she did it in secret I'd consider it cheating and that would end the relationship, if she asked to do it upfront and let me watch. I'd ask her and the other girl if I could kiss her to. See how my girlfriend takes it when I kiss the same girl to.
If either one of them is not okay with me kissing, then I'd respect that and it would not happen but I might wonder if she has cheated on me before or will soon as I'm away.
It depends on the answers she would give me about it later. A girl is less of an immediate threat, but I would be watching for signs of emotional investment that would suggest there is more to it than it seems.
Funny how girls actually belive that since it's another girl it's not cheating. You're literally getting intimate with someone else that's cheating it's not rocket science.
Depends on the context.
If she goes into it with the attitude that "it's not cheating because it's with a girl" then that's going to be a problem. I'm basically just going to see it as cheating and having no respect.
If she is concerned that it's cheating and consults me then it could be okay, although I wouldn't appreciate her indulging herself too readily without me. If I get to indulge as well, then we're okay.
I wouldnāt consider it cheating to kiss. But anything further would be if the man wasnāt present and didnāt know. Itās another thing if he was there and aware
I wouldn't see it as too much if ab issue depending on how she felt about the girl.
I'll ask you this though, how would you feel if your boyfriend kissed a guy?
I don't care who she kissed in the past, just want to make sure she isn't planning on kissing any other men or another woman if we are currently dating. I don't care if she is bi or not but I don't do well with cheaters not in the slightest.
Well I'd like to know WHEN she did it, because if it was while we were dating, I'm gonna go ahead and walk away. I'm not going to deal with someone who hasn't figured herself out.
Otherwise, I wouldn't resent her for it.
You mean while we were dating?
Hmm...
If she asked me if it was alright first, then I would probably say yes.
But only if it was in a private, poorly lit environment. And only if I get to watch.
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