Guys how would you feel if your girlfriend told you she kissed another girl?

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CuriousJC · Accepted Answer

You're going to have to do a little better than this. Because I've been in a relationship with the same girl I went to middle school, high school, and a residential mental institutional type of school. We would date on and off on and off on and off on and off on and off on and off to the point where my heart couldn't take it anymore. My ex girlfriend kiss a girl right in front of me telling me that it was over between us. Then three months later she came back to me and I accepted her apology and then she just dumped me again kissed another girl right in front of me back and forth the only reason I have not said no to her because I'm not a heartbreaker and her mother told me to look after her any way possible. I was just respecting the mother's wish, and I literally sold my soul to this woman and all she did was play me like a sucker. Like put me first then put two guys then a girl then put me again then two girls than one guy then put me again and just keep making the pattern with 4 different people then me again on and on and on and on and on to the point where I couldn't take it anymore. Is hard to know if your girlfriend or boyfriend will suddenly just turn against by being a lesbian or gay suddenly while being in a relationship that you thought was going to work the last 1,000 times. The worst part is, in all our relationship she never once ever talked about being in a three-way relationship that way I can get used to seeing her kiss another girl but no. I was the jackass the whole time. Being a gentleman sucks sometimes, especially when you have to be respectful and treat women as women knowing that you might get played and manipulated in the process without actually knowing until it's too late.

Makeushiver · Accepted Answer

Well I think girl on girl sex is pretty hot so I think it would turn me on

JosyJosy · Accepted Answer

That's cheating. Cheating is to get physical with someone else. Or even flirting with someone else. The girl you do it with not having a dick does Not make it right.

If you're going to do it, talk to him about it beforehand and perhaps get your guy involved. Many have that threesome fantasy.
You're attracted to girls. If you think it's okay to kiss another girl, you SHOULD ALSO BE OKAY with your man kissing another girl whenever he wants to. If you don't agree with this, I don't think you're relationship material, a monogamous one at least.

Gabygaby · Accepted Answer

She didn't cheat, cause it's a girl

OlderAndWiser · Answer

I would feel that it was time to find a new girlfriend.

humpbackjack · Answer

I would want to meet her and if we got along (not meaning threesome unless that was their intention) I would want to sit down with my girl and talk it out depending on how that went all 3 of us sit down and talk it out and depending on how that went I would want to have a sit down with my girls girl. Me having the sit down with my girl would be to give her a chance to explain how and why and also to apologize then to find out where she’s wanting to go from there. Depending on that sit down I would want a meeting with my girl and the other girl it would be to see if we were capable of becoming friends or just how the vibe between me and her again not sexually but if she hates men or just hates me then my girl will have to make a choice right then or I will. Then the sit down with just me and the other girl would be so I could see her true intentions and expectations and push her a little to see if she’s really ok with me being with my girl and if we could actually become friends cause she’s more likely to be nice in front of my girl and I’d want no problems or whatever situation where we share my girl separately but can be friends or we all three get along together or we share my girl and are ok with each other but are not friends but if there’s any behind the back kinda shit then I’m out. Of course I’d be a little upset about her kissing a girl but to be honest it would be more of a turn on. I’m a man what do you expect. I’m definitely a believer in open relationships as long as your honest being safe and are mature enough to handle it and I know the bond between to women can be huge in ways one with a man cannot but I also know the bond with a man can be just as strong just in different ways we both bring different things to the table and not just the obvious. Sorry for the novel but this is a complicated question because technically she cheated some but as double standard as it is I wouldn’t trip like I would if it was another man

Anonymous · Answer

This is a personal pitiful of mine. For one of those guys who is and always has been turned on by girl on girl action. But as I’ve gotten older (and I’ve recently quit porn) I realize this is mental complex thanks to me being exposed to porn at a young age.

On the flip side this can be cheating depending on the context. It’s not dealbreaker cheating but still. I guess if she asked I wouldn’t care. Or better yet I knew the girl and this a possible 3some down the road….. I would be sorely tempted.

But when I put the fantasy aside I think another woman can be even a bigger threat then a another guy. Women know how to manipulate women. It would be all too easy to my girlfriend complain to another girl about my foibles and the other girl could easily indulge that. That’s emotional manipulation and danger.

There is an older take on GAG about how an engaged girl cheated on her fiancé (they we were both virgins) with another woman. This almost destroyed their entire marriage. The other woman said “you have to choose between me or him” and she almost choose her. THAT is scary.

But again this is just a kiss. Can be forgivable depending on the context.

TangBang69 · Answer

It would not bother me at all. Never would I discourage or try to prevent it or decline my own health by stressing and worrying over it. What I would do however, is observe , make note and devise a plan for a way to come between them lol.
Besides, my game and confidence are sound so I'm not insecure in either and would bet my last dollar that I'm just as good if not better in the activities that bi and/or lesbian girls might indulge in. Unless of course a big ol smirking strap on comes into play, I'd have to sit that one out lol. I likely could not compete with it anyway.
Then again , the number one chance for survival in the field is a sharp ability to visualize and improvise.

TruthBringer · Answer

"Its not cheating y'all overreacting"
Yeah now I know you're immature to be in relationships. Kissing another person is cheating, regardless of gender. That has nothing to do with overreacting, but staring reality dead in the face.

To answer your initial question, it doesn't matter how I feel, what matters is what I do and I would simply dump her ass. I have no time to be teaching an adult the basic principles of a relationship that even children know

okdigimon07 · Answer

My boyfriend is 100% hetero, and his dream wants with 100% hetero woman in a long term relationship. However, he found out that I attract women more than men, then he felt a bit more disappointed. He says no matter how much he loves me, he doesn't want to lose me. He thinks it would be better for me to explore a date with a woman for the first time. As if I feel more comfortable then there will be an answer for my sexuality, gender/identity. Is he nice person?

I know my boyfriend is very loyal to me in 13 years. He don’t like to see me kissing another woman, then it would probably hurt his feelings ever! We probably end up our relationship, but not really… we are just laid back and more like agree that’ll easy. (Shared this with him, and there wouldn’t happen.)

Okay, just consider that it is also important that you be honest with your partner if there's a more open mind.

ZackBan · Answer

Funny how girls actually belive that since it's another girl it's not cheating. You're literally getting intimate with someone else that's cheating it's not rocket science.

MisteryMe · Answer

I would tell her it's not okay. It's cheating if you're not okay with it because she's engaging in intimate behavior with another person without her partner's consent. However, if the guy is okay with it, I wouldn't consider that cheating. Some people like swinging, some don't. Both people need to be on the same page.

Diodoro · Answer

Lmao I'm weird. My last 3 girlfriends were straight but all wanted to do 3somes with me. My last ex was the first to bring up the idea of us doing 3somes and her kissing girls if I'm into that.

Personally I'd be okay with it, but what I would say because I feel slightly more strongly this direction. "That's fine, but from now on I just want to be included".

She can do all that. But I'm making out with her too

Anonymous · Answer

Well, if they were both in a commited monogamous relationship, I think this would constitute cheating. It's the same as a guy kissing a girl and it would be grounds for breaking up

hahahmm · Answer

Kissed while dating me? I'd feel betrayed and I would dump her for being a disloyal whore. Not that she doesn't have a right to be a whore. She just doesn't have the right to be my girlfriend.

Rizack · Answer

I'd say it depends.
Have i agreed to it/she told me she wanted to do it?
I would most likely be turned on

It happened randomly, maybe due to alcohol? I don't know

If there was no intention other than curiosity i don't think I'll think of it as cheating (of ok there, if it's in secret and/or I'll learn about it from other people then i think I may not be happy about it)

ThrowAwayx404 · Answer

Nope. Not ok.

How is it not cheating?

See, this is the kinda of shit girls say casually, but if she’s my girlfriend and we’re exclusive, it’s CHEATING! It’s not NOT cheating just because it’s another girl or because she did it in front of me.

Iron_Man · Answer

I used to hate that kind of stuff but that might be interesting at a party when everybody’s drinking and they’re playing spin the bottle or truth or dare and the two girls did it on a dare but they would have to be straight girls and not serious and pretty much liquored up. And then maybe will see

Luopio27 · Answer

A friend of mine got really pissed of when his girlfriend at a nightclub started making out with her female friend infront of the boyfriend,

They made out with each other, the other girl was sitting on her in a way facing each other. They even playd with each others tits while making out.

If it was me in his position, I would ask to join in, if she was hot.

Guanfei · Answer

While she's with me, or before?
If before, then I'd be kinda worried, because that means she could be attracted to girls, which means twice more chances to find someone better than me.
If it was while she's with me, it's cheating, and she can pack her things and go.

MCheetah · Answer

I'd probably break up with her. Unless she was kidding, did it on a dare, or was grossed out by it. I have zero interest in being used and exploited by a lesbian.

Anonymous · Answer

If she did it in secret I'd consider it cheating and that would end the relationship, if she asked to do it upfront and let me watch. I'd ask her and the other girl if I could kiss her to. See how my girlfriend takes it when I kiss the same girl to.

If either one of them is not okay with me kissing, then I'd respect that and it would not happen but I might wonder if she has cheated on me before or will soon as I'm away.

hhadeshatesme · Answer

it wouldn’t be something id do behind at partners back. Men seem to not mind if you’re doing it infront of them though. I made out with two of my girl friends infront of my ex and one of my friends boyfriend and they didn’t seem to mind.

NamerOfStars · Answer

It depends rather enormously on when. If it was before we were dating, no problem. If it was WHILE we were, that's something else. I don't look kindly on cheating, regardless of the genders involved.

Shizunk · Answer

It depends on the answers she would give me about it later. A girl is less of an immediate threat, but I would be watching for signs of emotional investment that would suggest there is more to it than it seems.

Miristheiss · Answer

I would break up with her. I do not date bi girls. If it was a deep, open mouth romantic kiss (not a friend peck) I do not stay with anyone who did that to me.

Outlaw117 · Answer

This is the fine line of consent and being understanding with your partner.
I'm okay with my girlfriend making out with other girls but if she does it behind my back then it's different. It's really about finding a mutual agreement. No answer will be the same because every relationship is different.

Anonymous · Answer

Lmao I like how they guys say "I don't desire to be with a lesbian"... They don't desire to be with you either. Think people. There is a word that would make more sense. Bisexual is the word.

Anonymous · Answer

Depends on the context.

If she goes into it with the attitude that "it's not cheating because it's with a girl" then that's going to be a problem. I'm basically just going to see it as cheating and having no respect.

If she is concerned that it's cheating and consults me then it could be okay, although I wouldn't appreciate her indulging herself too readily without me. If I get to indulge as well, then we're okay.

Anonymous · Answer

Wel my boyfriend is not interested in being with a bisexual woman even if the sexual interest in women was only 1%. He wants a 100% hetero woman. I am 100% straight so he is happy with that. He wouldn’t be with a woman who kisses other women.

alleon · Answer

I wouldn’t consider it cheating to kiss. But anything further would be if the man wasn’t present and didn’t know. It’s another thing if he was there and aware

DonkeyDan · Answer

I wouldn't see it as too much if ab issue depending on how she felt about the girl.  I'll ask you this though, how would you feel if your boyfriend kissed a guy?

tatianamay · Answer

If my boyfriend kissed another man, unless it was a dare or something, then I'd dump him asap. It IS cheating

CaliSixx · Answer

I kissed a girl and I liked it, taste of her cherry chapstick🎶

FinalFantasyBro · Answer

I don't care who she kissed in the past, just want to make sure she isn't planning on kissing any other men or another woman if we are currently dating. I don't care if she is bi or not but I don't do well with cheaters not in the slightest.

Anonymous · Answer

Well I'd like to know WHEN she did it, because if it was while we were dating, I'm gonna go ahead and walk away. I'm not going to deal with someone who hasn't figured herself out.

Otherwise, I wouldn't resent her for it.

TheorionMage · Answer

HER lips... HER choice.  The REAL question was the type of kiss, each's reaction, and 'why' she chose to do it.

224466881010 · Answer

If she asked me first and I was ok with it, or we agreed to some type of understanding beforehand, that would be ok.

Jamie05rhs · Answer

You mean while we were dating? Hmm... If she asked me if it was alright first, then I would probably say yes.  But only if it was in a private, poorly lit environment. And only if I get to watch.

tiajoka · Answer

If he's ok with it then nah its not cheating. But thats a discussion y'all gotta have before hand in private.

Bluemax · Answer

I would feel the same as if she kissed another man.

genericname85 · Answer

lol of course it is cheating if you didn't talk about that with your partner. exclusively when you talked about it with him and he is ok with it, only then it isn't cheating.

BobbyC65 · Answer

If I had a girlfriend and I witness her kissing another girl. I would dare her to go a little farther with pussie to pussie with dildos and scissoring and sucking. 💞

Ninaface · Answer

Asker, you're actually the reason that bisexual women are sexualized rather than taken seriously and treated with respect.

Kaneki05 · Answer

Would probably just like it or not be bothered. I only get upset if it's another man.

ThisDudeHere · Answer

I would ask her if we could invite the other girl over.

FriendlyDrugDealer · Answer

Wouldn’t care if it happened before us. That simple

ChrisMaster69 · Answer

It’s basically the same as if she kissed a guy. context is key to it

worldscolide · Answer

Did she do it while with me in an exclusive relationship or prior to being with me, this context matters.

Not_Average · Answer

lmao kind of loose ass morale do you have to say that’s not cheating?

ChiPaPa · Answer

It is cheating. It all depends on what the parties involved consider cheating. I do. End of discussion. I would dump her immediately.

Andres77 · Answer

It would depend on context... and if the girl was a man-hating Nazi butch with arms bigger than mine. In short... it depends...

JayLiche · Answer

It depends..  Idc, I think it’s hot, but ask first “.  if she’s goes behind my back, then I can’t trust her.. There’s no telling what else she’s going behind my back.

Guido · Answer

I would be disappointed she didn't make sure I was there. Then I would have her Invite her friend over so I could watch or better yet, join in the fun.

hawkeye92 · Answer

It's happened before. Was okay at first but it ended up bothering me.

FunkyMonkee · Answer

Perfectly fine! I'd ask her if she wanted to have a 3-way with her and I.

DonRollins · Answer

I would be open to her having a girlfriend while also dating me.

exitseven · Answer

I would think it was hot and wonder if she would have a threesome.

Only-SpittingFacts · Answer

Not really it like if I kissed another guy there a reason behind it when your not gay like money bet or drunk dare but if it like outta nowhere I'm gonna be a little turned ngl but im definitely be having questions but It later

Cubus · Answer

Just kissing is nothing bad. It's not cheating. Some women kiss each other with no sexual context and it's quite normal.

Mangospacho · Answer

I’d think that there’s gonna be a guaranteed threesome but I should probably be concerned that she’s gonna leave me for the other girl.

beernbacon69 · Answer

As long as I was there to watch I would love it, but if it's behind my back that would be cheating.

okeydoke · Answer

If we’re in a monogamous relationship, I’d consider it cheating.

boxxie2002 · Answer

It would be a little bit hot.  I would probably still feel a bit jealous and not 100% the more I thought about it though

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