Never younger though. Can't really say it's something I've been interested in. But I also don't think I could date that much older again. To me that seems rather old.
Middle age habits have set in...
Yes I have I work with guys in there 20s and there wife's are always trying to hook me up with there friends sometimes I go for it sometimes I don't. I love being
actve and alive.. women my age just want to sit around most of the time I have a boat and a parasail and I love going to the lake on the weekends summertime that is there's a foot-and-a-half of snow here right now so I might want to go skiing but I've always wanted to jump out of an airplane and a 22 year old said she would go for it with me and that was a blast I can get anybody my own age to go it's just little things like that and Plus it seems like the younger they are the more motivated they are I have met a couple girls who have their own businesses and that is cool but anyway it is what it is.
When I was way younger I went out with way older women and that was a blast as long as one of these days I meet the right person that's all I care about I don't care how big your boobs are I don't care how old they are.
If they have a beautiful heart and your beautiful person on the inside the outside it's just an extra bonus new experiences is where it's at for me
When I was in my mid-20s, about 26 and 27 specifically, I dated a woman in her mid- 60s - 66 specifically. Honestly, it was an amazing experience in a lot of ways.
Now in fairness, I tend to be older than I am. One time a neighbor asked my mother - I was about 24 at the time - "What was he like when he was a baby?" My mother answered without skipping a beat - "About like he is now."
So, suffice to say, I am a bit older then my years. Still, I met the woman at a work event - we were both in politics - and just decided, as friends, to have dinner together. Things went from there - and yes, including sex. (Not so good the time that her son - who was older than I was - caught us. Awk-ward!)
That said, things just sort of faded after a time. There was no dramatic break, it just sort of faded. I think, for me, part of it was that the idea of being with a sophisticated older woman wore off. Plus, I knew that I wanted children and at 66 years old, that was not something my older significant other could provide.
For her, I think she just got bored. The things that interested her at her age and that interested me at mine had some overlap. Politics jointly interested us, but our life ambitions were, in many respects, different.
So it just sort of faded away. No breaks, no fights. We just sort of stopped calling each other and after a time, I moved onto another political job and that was that.
For what it is worth, I would recommend it to others. It was an amazing experience both emotionally and even sexually. Still, know what you are doing and recognize that there may be limits.
Still, it can be interesting. It can be enlightening. It can be sexy. I would not wave someone away just because of the age gap if there are other connections there.
I can't say I've had a serious relationship with someone way older than myself, but those older guys really know how to make me scream.
Generally speaking I limit no more than 12 years older than myself, mainly cause I've known a few very successful relationships in that range or less.
That said, the biggest downside so having a large gap is just that say your with someone 20+ years older than you, women live longer than men in general and that means someone would be a widow potentially before retirement and either alone for the golden years or moving on to someone else.
@Gagname Oh your totally absolutely 100% right ;)
My current partner is 2 years older than me. That's the biggest age gap I've ever had.
I think that she gaps matter less after college when most people are in the same stage of life.
Had I stated dating my current partner while I was still in college and they had just graduated, it may not have worked out as well as it has.
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When I was 23, I dated a woman who was 46.
When I was 24, I dated a girl who was 36.
When I was 53, I dated a girl who was 37.
When I was 62, I dated a woman who was 81 and another woman who was 78.
I am 66 (almost 67) and dating a girl who is 58.
What do you wanna know about age gaps?
Older women are level headed. I don't know the younger girls today (imho) live in dreamworld where they can expect this and that of a guy and if he doesn't meet this long list of criteria they're out. Then they keep going from guy to guy and never finding that unrealistic standard. Suddenly it's "all men" and not themselves who is the problem. And they never want to even LEARN about what makes men like em in the first place. Smearing makeup all over and wearing skimpy clothes isn't keeping a man. That's just getting your foot in the door. But if you have nothing going on that can stimulate his brain then it's dead in the water. And I'm not saying "all" younger women. But all the young ones I dated it felt like reverting back to high school all over again. Its a generational thing I think tbh.
Wowsers.
I married my same age and it definitely is the easiest and creates the least friction and disparity. You get most of the same cultural references and that's kind of fun to talk about.
But I more often dated older, starting when I was 19, from a few years older to 25 years older, and I believe in those too. And if I wasn't married now, I might date younger now perhaps, though I probably wouldn't marry someone with a huge age gap.)
I haven't had an age gap relationship. (I don't even consider 3 or 4 years difference to be an age gap relationship. What do people expect? Date someone the exact same age from their school and it lasts a lifetime? lol)
Anyways, I would though. 18 to 30 is the range I would date, though 22 + is preferred.
Why? Well first I don't now and didn't in the past like, get along with, or respect women from around my own age. (when I was in my teens I didn't like teen girls, in my 20s, I didn't like girls in their 20s, etc. The ones from my generation and close to it I don't like their morals and way of thinking. Way too sexist against men, too greedy/selfish, hypocritical, promiscuous, too into drugs and alcohol, etc. I dislike people like that and most of them seemed to be that way. So it originally came from a dislike of women from my own generation.
I want someone that doesn't do drugs/alcohol, thinks special occasions are for BOTH men and women, isn't promiscuous, doesn't have kids from a past relationship, wants to have kids and raise a family once it seems like it will last and not have the kids grow up in a broken home just to get free child support, doesn't think that having as much money as possible is the most important thing in life and always strive for more regardless if it means no time with an SO, I want someone that would enjoy games (mostly board games), that enjoys some physical outside activities like riding bikes, hiking, or something sporty.
So those are a few of the reasons. I didn't want to make a multi page response that nobody would read anyways since it would be too long.
When I was 25 I got into a relationship with someone 18 years older. It wasn’t great, he was abusive and behaved really old but thought I made him cool and young, which he wasn’t.
I am now living with a guy 10 years younger and while it was great as he has so much
energy he can be very immature and now I’m not even sure he’s ready to settle down. He doesn’t seem to listen and messes things up all of the time. I’m at my wits end currently in the relationship waiting for it to either u turn or end
+4 is the oldest one I dated. Even if men in my age spectrum appear sometimes childish and immature, they are physically more attractive than older ones. I don't need a controlling leader or a second daddy, I need someone who share mutual emotions with me. It's sometimes spontaneously childish and irrational immature, but this is the fun. Being super self-confident, integer and mature excludes lot of things and I feel that way better while I'm alone. I'm not interested in men who try to impress me with it.
I've never been in a relationship, so I can't say that I've ever been in a age gap relationship.
I could date someone a few years older or younger than me but I would never date someone who was for instance 15 years older than me. That's too much and it would never work out. I want to be with someone who is close to me in age, someone is in the same stage in life.
For example I'm 29 and I would have nothing in common with a man who is 48. However I could be in a relationship with a 26 year old or with a 32 year old.
I've dated someone 9 years older. Never again. Their age didn't make them different. But i just personally dont like dating someone that much older. I prefer a 0-3 year age gap and will stick to that. Age doesn't mean someones any more mature than another. It also doesn't mean we dont have stuff in common because i have lots in common with older and younger guys. But at the end of the day, im uncomfortable just knowing someone is outside of my preferred age range. I also prefer to have kids with someone under the age of 30. Oddly enough, i have no issue jokingly flirting with older men who flirt first and i’d even have phone sex with one. But i’d make it clear that its not going beyond that and that i have no interest in being with them physically. Just not my type. When i turn 40+ then i’ll consider gaps but for now, no.
@eagle1951 haha
The largest gap I had was about three years, and this back when I was young enough that it made a difference. We were teens, I thought she was a little older, she thought I was a little younger, by the time we realized the mistake we had already kissed a lot in a quiet, dark theater. Anyway, there's no real reason to date or avoid dating based on a large gap (well, unless of course it's someone **too young**, legally, in which case don't). As with anything else dating-related, it all depends on how much you like/care about each other. Anyone who exclusively dates much younger or older is working out a fetish.
My partner is 9 years older than me, best person I’ve ever dated. He treats me well, looks after me, makes me happy and is very good in bed. I’ve dated men & women my own age or 1-2 years gap, and they’re been too immature for my liking. Older men & women are my preference because most that I have come across have their shit together and aren’t interested in drugs and alcohol and partying, and they aren’t looking for a girl who dresses skimpy and coats herself in makeup. I don’t wear makeup and I dress respectfully, which older people seem to appreciate more.
Don’t get me wrong, there are older people who are interested in all the drugs and partying and skimpy clothes, and there are also younger people like myself who don’t believe in it or like it. But out of the majority of people I have met and/or dated, older people are a better fit for me.
Mmm actual relationship and not just fuck buddies/dating. Dated 19 yo when I was 23-24. That was the biggest gap in a monogamous relationship.
But I've since had larger age gaps in girls I dated unofficially not monogamous. This year was seeing a 23yo at 31 and a year or two ago was seeing a 36-37 yo when I was 29-30.
My girl now is 36-37 and in 32. So I haven't had massive gaps with girls I've dated. I've slept with girls in a larger gap. Like last year before my bday at 30 was fuckin with a woman in her 40s. 45-47 I forgot.
Honestly wouldn't be against it again, just not her and not exclusively. Just where I'm at in my life and what I want right now. Not gonna do that.
Yes! I’m in one now
Michelle is 10 Years older than me,
We have problems, but age isn’t a problem.
Although age is the root of most problems
Benefits:
She’s very hot & Smart, She can hold her own,
She doesn’t need me physically or financially..
She’s experienced & self aware
her personal hygiene is great, She’s outgoing & Understanding of my shortcomings
Cons:
Michelle can be stubborn,
She doesn’t want anything long term with me
My family; Mother specifically Doesn’t approve
most I had, was about four years younger than me... and I know I'd not mind to date someone younger or older than me by those five years or so
other factors are the priority for me.. age will be taken into consideration yes, but is not a "deal breaker" to me
Yes cuz age doesn’t really matter to me , it’s the chemistry and connection that matters , people that hold age as a deciding factor are just limiting themselves and missing out on amazing connections, I have dated younger and older girls and some of the younger girls I dated were a lot more maturer than girls my age or older , so again age means shit to me as long as she is of legal age of course lol
When 26, I dated a man of 48. I became more aware of the fact I was dating an older man because of other people reactions.
When 46, I dated a man of 31. I really didn’t want to, as my son was 24 and it felt too close in age. He was on my wavelength and it worked. Lasted about 2 and a half years. I regrettably finished with him. Not because my feelings changed; but because of other stuff I could no longer deal with. He still lives with me, in one of the spare rooms!
10 years older the absolute max.
Any bigger age difference and the relationship has no future in my opinion.
Also, I turned 28 and I still want to have a couple of children and a man over 40 is not going to be the best father I can get for them.
Yeah my ex was 18, i was 21. Im now 23 and i still prefer mostly guys a few years younger but i did see this one guy who was 25 and he has a baby face, not gonna lie i think he's cute but i can't picture myself with man more than a few years older IF i did go older but i prefer younger guys way more! Love is love tho as long as it's legal.
Every girlfriend I ever had was at least a year or two younger than me.
The biggest age gap was 6 years. I was 37 and she was 31. She was beautiful, hypersexual and orgasmic, and the sex was phenomenal. There weren't even any age-related cultural differences. We liked the same things. I wound up loving her with my heart and soul and she loved me.
This is a tough one for me - I've always been more attracted to maturity than looks so to speak. Someone that carries themself well and knows how to treat people will always win me over faster than someone "younger or better looking" (not that someone older can't be pretty, cute, or handsome). My first "real" relationship was a much older woman. I don't see too much of a problem here as long as everyone is of legal age and consents :)
The youngest I’ve dated was a 19 year old when I was 22, the oldest was a 29 year old when I was 25 so I’ve never dated with an age gap. I would though if I met someone who I connected with but with restrictions: no younger than 30, no older than 50-ish
Yes I have, it greatly depends on compatibility, it cannot be purely on physical attraction.
I always need a good emotional connection and part of that is being compatible, doing stuff you both like, sharing a number of interests, not just one.
They do work however do take some managing.
personally a lot fail as it’s mainly a physical thing and once that becomes normal and not as high an interest, then the relationship starts to unravel.
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