Ex says it will take time for us to get back together?

[Anonymous]

I’ve poured my heart out and really tried hard to get my ex to be with me but no matter what I do isn’t good enough.
He says he wants to take baby’s steps this I’ve been told this for a long time while he went out and partied and got with other girls.
I ask him does he want to be with me he tells me yes and that he loves me but I don’t feel it. He’s all the time following other women on socials talking to them last night he ignored my what’s app message but was online on what’s app the whole night I know I shouldn’t notice these things but just I’m hurt.
All he seems to want to do with me is book hotels and stay with me in them but it’s just for s*x he tells me it’s not but every time it is. I told him I just want to be loved and adored by someone so badly and he says he does but again I don’t feel it.

I’m just sick of being made feel so small by him and I think I am pretty but he makes me feel so ugly. I’ve literally watched him make out with another girl in-front of me and I still tried to push it aside and try for him and it’s like he doesn’t see this sometimes I think is he doing all this just to hurt me or I don't know.

[Anonymous]

Please just move on. He will never be with you the way you need him and want him to. He’s using your desperation for sex. That’s all he wants from you and it won’t change. He will not commit to you because why would he? He can sleep around and act however much of an asshole he wants and you’re still right there crawling for him. You shouldn’t try for someone who isn’t worth it and isn’t trying for you, at that point you’re just being a door mat and you’re going to be treated accordingly. I know you love him and want him but it won’t happen. For your own sake please just block hom and move on with your life. Eventuallt find someone who’s actually worth it and will be as all in with you as you are with him.

[Asker]

I really appreciate this message and your right but finding mr right is so hard these days I find.

[YHL6965]

I think he is using you at your own expense. Get the hell away from him because, the longer you stay, the more you try, the more it's going to hurt you, the more energy and time it will cost you. Tear this bond apart, it's going to hurt, but it's going to hurt less than letting you sink more and more into him, slowly. He knows you're attached to him and he is using that when that benefits him, without considering what you actually feel.

[Asker]

Big time I have him blocked on everything can’t waste my time anymore hope one day tho he regrets this but probably not

[Bklynbadboy12]

Move on don't waste the time he's telling you in a nice way that he's not gonna get back together with you and when they say they wanna take baby steps that's BS as soon as you open your legs he'll run to get that he won't take baby steps when it comes to that

[Asker]

Very true thanks for your opinion

[Bklynbadboy12]

You're so welcome if you need any more advice hit me up

[Bklynbadboy12]

Thanks for the MHO

[boggboss]

He knows u won't leave so he is treating u as a back up option whilst he has fun all he has to do is claim to love u and bam

[Asker]

True so horrible to do this to someone though with genuine intentions. But I think the only option is too block and move on am I right

[boggboss]

Yes u should have done that a long time ago and yes its shit but thats the world if u let people like him they will take advantage of you

[Asker]

I did block him months ago but last month it was my birthday and I just wanted to see if he would wish me happy birthday I know I’m sad lol but yeah worst mistake I ever did as he did wish me happy birthday but was so horrible to me ever since

[boggboss]

Well thats the thing u keep imagining he wants more then he does clearly his actions show he just wants to have sex from you but u keep allowing it to happen why wpuld u even want him to be your partner

[Asker]

I know it’s just he used to be such a good guy to me he used to do so much for me and now it’s like who is this man

[boggboss]

Everyone is capable of being good and equally being shit

[Asker]

I understand that but he was never like this before

[boggboss]

But as soon as he showed u how he is behaving u should have called it out or ended it thats clearly some bullshit claiming to love u yet only wanting to have sex and entertain other women

[Asker]

I did call it out millions of times but to him he was doing nothing and I was the crazy one still to this day Im the crazy one so I just don’t bother saying anything and let him do what he wants so I don’t seem crazy to him. N yeah it is bullshit but again doesn’t think it is and is convinced he loves me and cares.. some shit

[boggboss]

Lol if thats what his love entails again u should have dumped him time ago and kept him blocked

[Asker]

True that ohh what a world we live in ffs

[MrCommodore]

He made out with another girl. in front of you and you are still into him? Take a wee step back and dump his arse. Don't allow yourself to be treated that way.

[Asker]

Thank you

[MrCommodore]

Look I know its not easy when you are mad about demesne, but try to understand that a person who cared about you would never treat you this way.
You'll find your Mr Right who adores you and you'll regret letting this guy treat you this way.

[MrCommodore]

When you are mad about "someone", not mad about demesne. Feckin autocorrected

[Asker]

Awh I know just have to wait for mr. Right thank you so much tho for your kind words

[BloodCursedDeviant]

You’re super beautiful and you deserve someone that will treat you better. Id say move on.

[Asker]

Awh thank you so much 😊