True or False: Double texting someone when they don't respond right away makes you look desperate?

[coachTanthony]

true

false

see poll ( Coach text me back already )

[Genie23]

It depends on who's double texting and for what reason. I don't mind at all if my friends message me back to back before I could even see and respond. I usually find it either funny or sweet because that shows they're thinking of me. If someone needs help and contact me more than once for that, that's fine too.

If someone I feel comfortable with to talk to everyday (be it someone I'm into or just friends with) suddenly stops getting a response for me then it's understandable they'd want to check up on me out of concern or if someone, that's okay. But if someone I barely knows or don't know at all goes-

"Hi, you there?"

"Sup?"

"Hi"

"Hello?"

"Where did you go?"

"Are you ignoring me?"

"If you don't want to talk just tell me. No need to ignore"

Yeah, then it's pretty desperate and cringey the moment I see back to back messages from someone I barely know or don't know demanding me to talk and overeacting for not being able to check my messages, I make sure to ignore them on purpose or simply block.

[melanieeeB]

Not really, if you're just adding something, all good... it becomes desperate if you clearly don't get an answer and keep on texting multiple times.

Example: just a simple google search:

[melanieeeB]

Oh, or like a reminder text like "hey you kinda forgot to text me back" is also fine. Some people (me) forget to answer but if they don't answer you after that, we get back to the clearly not answering and not just forgotten to answer thing

[coachTanthony]

restraining order lol

[ManOnFire]

It depends on what the text is about. If it's needing an answer for something like what you wanted at the store, or if you're alright cuz nobody has heard from you in a minute, then I don't think it's bad. But if you're dating or whatever, it definitely does make you look desperate and like you must be scared the person dropped you since you didn't hear from them in a few hours.

Never beg for anyone's attention. If you texted once and they did not respond the entire day, then I would take that as a sign to not keep texting them, especially if you see that they're still active on social media or had a Last Seen on WhatsApp within the time you last texted. But also don't try to keep showing your presence to make them respond to you, that will push them away. Say it once, and leave it there. When or if they respond will tell you whether or not they're worth it.

[TheIrishWolf]

It's fascinating how men and women think the completely opposite. How do we even survive as a species? 😂

I said, "yes." But it can be OK if it's been hours upon hours and it's out of the ordinary.

But... BUT... understanding female psychology (by experience), the more you want them, the less they want you. Its strange, but its true. Many have said it too. If every guy in a room tries to get a females attention and that one guy doesn't, he piques her curiosity.

[coachTanthony]

Cat string theory. Once the cat gets the string what does the cat do? Stops playing with the string.

[TheIrishWolf]

This is a real theory?

[coachTanthony]

Yeah.

[TheIrishWolf]

Hmm 🤔

[IAmAzzurra]

This isn’t actually true as a blanket statement.
Not everybody wants to waste their time.

Most people like to cut out the middle man and know where they stand.
This is why so many “what does it mean when….” questions on here are so confusing. Just ask the person in question so things can either get going or move on.

[ManOnFire]

@TheIrishWolf And isn't it sad that so many women are like that? They will actually be driven away from you if you want them and let them know it. I personally think that is a deep inner illness in women of today to love being wanted, but then grow bored or disgusted when a guy wants her.

But then as soon as he goes radio silent and lets her go, she will start wanting him back. I've had that experience myself. I think it's sick that so many women are like this. So now that I go radio silent on you and leave you alone, you want me back. And then as soon as I want you back too, then you'll get bored and disgusted with me again. This is not love.

[Summeroflove]

It depends. If someone won’t talk to you. They’re not worth your time. But it’s not desperate to show interest in someone you’re genuinely into… As long as you’re not annoying.

Now blowing someone up with non important crap when they’re busy, sleeping, haven’t responded in 5 minutes. That’s not good

[Apple1996]

Double text are fine if they are adding to the conversation. If it's one of those creepy "You still there?" text as a double text then yeah that is when it starts becoming desperate 😬

[UnknownSwede]

I can do it at times to people, just to see if they open and forgot about it. Just because I can open up a message and then forget it myself.

[Anpu23]

One of the reasons why I hate texts is because, to me, they have mo sense of urgency. If someone wants something now, call me, a text tells me its not important and I can safely ignore it. And yes sometimes I don't look at my texts for several days.

[Minahh]

No not necessarily. Depends if you want to add something you forgot or you're literally bombarding the person.

[coachTanthony]

I don't consider adding something in the same realm.

[Poliker]

I think it does assuming that you texted this, waited some time, and sent another text before they could reply. If you send one text, and another within 15 minutes to clarify something in the first text, then no that does not seem desperate.

[OfMiceandMen]

I think it is a bit desperate. If you are looking for an immediate response from someone, then it should not be done by text. Use the other part of your phone and give them a call.

[DizzyDesii]

If its happening all at once because you couldnt fit everything into one text, no. But if its like hours later and you respond again before they can, yea probably

[annabananna]

I do t think so. When people do that I usually just think they thought of something else to say. What I don’t like is if I don’t respond right away and the next text is hellloooo? Or earth to Anna? If it was an emergency I’d get it but it never was.

[sage2021]

I don't think it makes the sender appear desperate, but their situation may need their attention right away.

[Peter_Penetrator]

Not only desperate, but annoying and unable to control your emotions.


Makes you a little risky to be around.

[qqqqq0000]

What do you mean by risky?

[Peter_Penetrator]

If a man loses his temper easily, gets jealous, he could also physically hurt you or if jealous, the other guy. He could become physically/verbally abusive to you and/or your children.

Men need to be able to show restraint and if he can’t control his emotions, bad things could happen.

[qqqqq0000]

I see. Trying to see if it relates to my boyfriend. Thanks.

[Peter_Penetrator]

Have you heard the phrase “shit testing”?

[Anemone978]

Yeah but if you pull away they will come back if you don't seem needy.. let them miss you.

[FreyaRed]

Likely... unless other person is really into you, then such mistakes don't really matter.

[AnusNdaPainus]

Very controlling
I don’t care if I’m sitting on the couch watching a movie I did see your text but you are not entitled to MY time

[lorenzomichael]

Depends on what your texting her. If it's money she owes you or if you're waiting for her to bring back your car I'd call her. Other than that I text her twice and that'd be it.

[Jamie05rhs]

That's irrelevant. You shouldn't be concerned with how you look. That doesn't matter.

The only thing that matters is practicing proper manners.

[YourExLover69]

I don't mind getting double, triple and quadruple texts from a girl. 😊 I don't judge them on this

[Ninania]

Depends on the context. If you're contacting a stranger, it's creepy, but if you're trying to get through to someone you know, follow-up messages can be just fine, even neccessary (especially if you know the person might forget).

[Nikki1989]

Texting anyone at anytime shows you lack communication skills.

[Guardian45]

Pardone?

[itsalyssaagain]

I’m sorry I do it all the time because that’s my personality. I do it in real life as well 😂 I have no shame.

[Hispanic-Cool-Guy]

No but I can understand why someone would think that.

Some people like to play stupid games not responding right away when they aren't doing anything that's stopping them except their own egotistical personality.