My ex kept trying to contact me, even through my friends and family. At first I ignored it but eventually I texted him to stop out of respect for my new relationship (my boyfriend knows about it because I showed him the texts). My boyfriend appreciated that. On the other hand, my bf’s ex is also trying to call him non stop and my boyfriend is not doing anything about it. Not sure how we should go about this. What would you do if it were you?
I got rid of my old chick just by telling her my new chick is sexy and lets me fuck other women as well. She just stopped trying and would not respond to any messages herself... it turned her from hounding me for the "D" to ghosting me and not wanting anything to do with me.
See... you have to crush whatever dreams that ex is holding onto and once you do that... they'll want nothing to do with you. Sure it can be a little be self-deprecating, telling some white lies to get them off your back and to destroy their hopes and dreams that they're hanging onto... but in the long run, you just saved yourself from some stalker that follows you around on social media or that sends texts with hidden agendas in them to get next to you somehow again.
You and your ex boyfriend for instance... Your ex isn't going to want to hear about how much you love giving your current boyfriend head. But if that's all he gets every time he starts trying to butter you up... How many more times you think he'll try? I'd give it 2... maybe 3 times if he's really desperate.
My method works and it works even better than ghosting. It makes the other person want to ghost you instead. It's a win-win.
Here is the thing though and a word of caution about your current boyfriend as well as yourself... your ex's haven't hit the red light themselves and my tactic could've already been employed. Why not? See... a lot of the time people actually enjoy the attention they're getting from that ex, even though they don't admit it, any outsider can see what's going on more clearly. So they'll say just enough to not meet up, but not enough to make it stop. That's the proverbial "foot in the door" for the ex. It's the fuel that has your ex's still trying... what gives them hope of something happening to change things.
Crush their dreams, and you crush their will to chase you. It's as simple as that. But you and your man will have to break down and say things the ex's just don't want to hear...2... maybe 3 times if they're desperate.
Furthermore, if you're still reading... your ex didn't stop just by ignoring him. <--He was hanging onto hope, and thus kept trying. Hopefully, you being direct and telling him to stop worked, but that's what it really takes to kill their hope.. direct action. If your ex still doesn't stop... He's obsessed and we all know how dangerous that can get.
"I am so happy with my man, you made me unhappy and I hope I never meet another person like you ever again," is the kind of shit that will make him not want to message you. Just saying.
Hope I helped. ... if there is one thing D_Bone knows, it's how to get people to not want anything to do with me. 😂
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You need to have a discussion with the current Mr. Wonderful. You should tell him that you are bothered by his ex just as you assume he was bothered by the actions of your ex, and then ask if he is willing to do anything to address that. Be prepared to hear a response that you don't want to hear.
This is why you should go no contact with an ex after a break up (unless you have a child together.)
Kinda lame that your boyfriend doesn’t at least answer the phone when your ex calls and tell him to stop, I’d take note of that if I were you. If he doesn’t have your back in the small things it makes you wonder about the big ones. But anyway, all I can suggest is block and keep ignoring your ex. I know it’s tedious but he’s going to get the point and stop trying to reach out.
What would I do? Nothing. I would never reply or even open their message. It is not my problem.
The best way is indifference.
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Well, the ones I have kids with need to contact me, and I'm friends with another ex. A couple of exes are now deceased. But there's only a couple of others I'd be OK with contacting me anyway.
I would tell them that I'm not interested and to stop contacting me. If they persisted, I would just block them and NEVER REPLY. That's very important -- do not reply to people who continue contacting you after you have told them to stop. They will continue contacting you as long as you reply in any way. If you stop responding, eventually they will stop.
If I was in a happy new relationship then I wouldn't be talking to them and would tell them I can't be talking to them. Why would I want old memories coming back? That's not being very fair to the new relationship. Not sure why exes don't understand this.
If I was in a happy relationship with someone I would tell them I’m in a happy relationship and I’m not talking to you anymore and then block there number. I would also tell my girlfriend about what happened so she doesn’t think anything is going on.
I would react normally ask her what's up hear her out and go from there, and if I'm involved at the time I would think it relationship is solid enough and we both are married enough that it won't impact us in anyway,
If it’s them that broke up with me I would ask them how they’re doing nothing more but if they want to try and get back with me I would just block them especially if I’m in a relationship. I’ve had exs add me on social media before just so they could watch what I was doing. Weirdest encounter I had was when an ex of mine literally showed up to my church introduced her husband and baby to me and shook my hand. They sat right behind me I dipped as soon as service was over. She texted me asked me where I went that she wanted us to go and all eat at a restaurant…was really awkward for me
My ex from many years ago contacted me through social media. I haven’t heard from her at all for years. She messaged me telling me how horrible her life has become and how she would love to rekindle our relationship and how we could be so happy together. I responded by telling her how great my life has become and ho happy I am with my wife and there is no chance that I would change anything in my life. I never heard from her again….
Tell your partner why he can't block his ex like you did, that's foul no lie
That photo is the PERFECT photo for this topic 🤣🤣🤣 I have that issue honestly. My first ex from 10 years ago is STILL trying to contact me. It's fucking crazy.
I ask him why he's contacting me and that I can't talk to him because I am in a relationship. I respond because there isn't really bad blood between us.
In your circumstance for you and boyfriend exes: ignore. Tell them to stop & taken. And if they’re pressing more, block.
Just tell them you are in a relationship and has move one. Every time they do, repeat the same thing, hopefully it will sticks!
I'd just tell her that I'm in a new relationship, and that if she persist, I will block her..
I think you have to make it abundantly clear that you no longer want any contact with him, and block what I assume is a new number he is using to call me, because I would have already had the old blocked.
Don’t. Living well is the best revenge. And happy IG pics set to public.
When this happened I changed my phone number. It sent the message I needed her to receive.
Change your phone numbers and don't give it to them.
Plain and simple talk to your boyfriend about you tell him it's either me or her choose.
I'd simply say, please don't contact me again.
I'd Block them after saying I'm in a relationship and not interested
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