Who makes the first move more these days?

Question

Girls or guys?

I still think it hasn’t changed since the dawn of man.

Women still put themselves out there kinda like fishing. And wait for the fish to bite, the fish being men. And they pick and choose what “fish” to keep.

Anonymous · Accepted Answer

I've learned as a guy, sure, if someone catches your eye, make the first move, but it can't be lopsided, the girl should pursue and ask the guy out on a date of when to meet up after he initiated the first move. She has to show interest. He picks a place to go to, is a gentleman, does all the right things. Here's the key, to the ladies and to the girls reading this don't just scroll over my comment and look at Tik Tok on your phone. If a guy you sorta like but not sure about and you agree to go out on a date with him and the date goes well. After the date, go start freaking out or having an anxiety attack of commitment issues of omg but its one guy I don't know! I don't know! I don't know. To the females on GAG don't waste a guy's time, don't waste a man's time. If y'all keep talking about other fish in the sea (other girls) then fine don't even agree to meet up on a date there's no point because you are giving a guy a false sense of hope with you. And any girl who reads this will most likely say "ohhh false sense of hope eh so you just wanna have sex you sad pathetic boy". Actually, nah, to the delusional females out there stop having a stick up your ass and grow up, some guys in life mature and want a MEANINGFUL relationship. But I get the sense a lot of girls want a guy who is 6'3, 250, with a big cock and these delusional girls assume that guys like that will be faithful and loyal 24/7 when he also will have options going after him and to girls out there understand that the higher and dumber your expectations of the perfect guy y'all better realize those types of dudes know full well he can get hotter girls to sleep around with to. I don't know why girls today have such a problem with a guy who's like 5ft8, 5ft9, athletic build, confident, funny, quirky, knows his stuff whether its money, politics, economy, religion, etc. Guys aren't scared to pursue girls nowadays, guys just don't care.

HawkPerception · Accepted Answer

Men are still primarily the ones to make the first move and most likely, always will be. Assertiveness and confidence are masculine traits. They don't only apply to men, but they are more common in men. So statistically men have more traits to be asking the girl out. However, women are realizing guys they're interested in are passing them by because guys are oblivious until a girl literally tells them to their face that they're interested in them, so girls are starting to make moves too.

BrownSugar00 · Accepted Answer

Although I think there has been a decline in men approaching women for many reasons, I still think men make the first move.

And for those men who say women should make the first move, when a woman does, they are uninterested and unattracted the woman. Not saying that they should be, but when a woman does show interest, they are either not interested or they are but then become disinterested because she's now pursuing him! Ridiculous.

Apple1996 · Accepted Answer

I think it really depends on the person. I'm the type to approach guys. It would give me the ick if a guy approached me first 🤮  Other girls might want the guy to approach

devilish-cutie · Answer

Lets just be smart about this, men do approach more but thats quanitity and not quality. That bark at every dog n then pick tru those that respond, then further the line how many of them actually follow trough and pursue a woman with effort? Not much, most leave scared of freaking everything they got themselves into, only mature men stay that dont wo der about silly approaching. Cause approaching is just that, approaching, but the rest requires effort. Women are also more likely to make a move when there is somethong real while men are often scared of it. Women once "hooked" by men approaching make a lot of effort for it to work. And both side need to put an effort for it to work. So stop glorfying men approaching. Women will never approach as men cause to them its not a numbers game, they go for ones that actually make them feel something besides tingling vagina.

OlderAndWiser · Answer

For my generation, women don’t call to ask for a date. It will never happen. Never! But they are usually glad to be asked for a date.

Static_In_The_Attic · Answer

Honestly times are slowly changing & although guys are mostly making first moves some girls are making moves as well. I have a upcoming date with a lovely girl & it caught me off guard when she asked me out.

GoodManDave · Answer

I suppose it depends on what you think the first move is. Back in the olden days, a woman dropped a scarf on purpose, so the gentleman would pick it up and give it to her, and then maybe start a conversation and go from there.

If you day it's flirting, it might be either, though we it's usually the woman. If you mean asking someone out as the first move, then it's usually the guy.

smne35 · Answer

No it don't sometimes your waiting on the dude to approach you and he's just too damn shy so you wait, wasting the one thing no one can afford to waste time, so hey women are free from having to worry about not being lady like and see a dude you like go tell him no worries unless he's already taken but it's 21st century so express yourself!

ShadezMcgee · Answer

Depends on the person. For me with women most of the time it has been the woman making the first move on me. So either they went for what they wanted or thought I was dense as hell before making the move to get it to click because I wasn't picking up on it.

I have made the first move before, but like I said above, I guess I found some aggressive women.

Tharithi · Answer

Because that’s the first step to see if he got balls or not

musclesimp · Answer

It has to do with estrogen and calcium channels if I'm right, females excrete all their calcium through egg shells and milk. Although I'm not a misogynist, I do enjoy bragging how women are inferior hahaha because my мом doesn't check in on me in da ваseмeпt here. So how could women make the first move if we are the ones with overactive muscles and lovemuscles?

Momo5274 · Answer

I've confessed and been confessed to. If I know I like or fancy someone for sure, I won't wait around pointlessly... But if a man makes the first move, especially in person and not via text, you're instantly more attractive in my eyes. It takes balls and tact to do it what with more and more social issues these days

curious_gul · Answer

I prefer if the man makes the first move, but I have no problem making it.
Also I would get a bit made if you (mostly a man) say (s) women can't make the first move or shouldn't; or saying no women and men are equal, they should make the first move..
(And there's no problem, and no shame in women doing so).

RavVid · Answer

Technically men and correctly men.

Correctly men because quite simply if the man doesn't desire sex with the girl it isn't going to work out.

Technically men because girls tend to indicate interest or otherwise.

RageBabe · Answer

No, as a woman, I respect conventional roles.

thegreenyogi · Answer

I think it's fair to say probably women do more these days.

Anonymous · Answer

It’s always the guys, guys are the ones that ask the girl out or ask the girl for the number.

Girls want masculine energy, they want a courageous man and a confident man.

Girls don't typically approach men, or most i should say.

Most players think asking girls for numbers is a numbers game so go do it.

Im still a virgin as of right now, but i just figured the reason I'm still a virgin is because I'm not asking girls out.

IslaTheWitch · Answer

Whoever has less patience, feels more confident, whatever? :D

Kaamraj · Answer

Overwelmingly men, and for the far forseeable future it's going to be men. Relationships work best if the man takes the initative and has the leaverage.

Madkeyra00 · Answer

Sounds about right to me besides one thing, women get to decide which man to keep as well.

Amara_09 · Answer

Does it matter who makes the first move? Both men and women should make the first move.

turnpost · Answer

I feel like women, send me soo many clues, almost to the point its like slapping some one in the face. Then I ask them out.

So formally the guy does. But it takes two to send clues and its quite obvious to jump ship eventually.

Altheavas · Answer

I think guys still make the first move more. But I don’t mind making the first move, either.

NathanDavis · Answer

don't know about others... but it hasn't changed that much for me

Nightblade23 · Answer

I say women because I've never actually had a guy ask me out to my face when I've asked out several guys in person but yet none can ask me out in person but on a date the guy might make the first move

TalkWithoutSpeaking · Answer

Definitely men. But as I understand it, women like it that way for the most part

Smoothing · Answer

As long as you get to date, it doesn't matter who makes the first move.

WhitneySnow · Answer

Guys make the first move more, but more and more girls are doing it too

malecurious · Answer

seems to be more prostitutes than ever before calling themselves anything and everything all over the internet. prostitutes advertise therefore throwing themselves at any men, women, non-binary, and anything that makes a slight muscle spasm.

Babygirl_S · Answer

I think it's equal though men used to do it more often. Nowadays many seem to be afraid of being accused of harassment.

Sparkie460 · Answer

I think guys make the move more but women are starting to do it. It's probably 60 percent men and 40 percent women who make the move first

hardboiledink · Answer

I've had like 2 girls approach me and I've approached MANY

Goofy9009 · Answer

Men because majority of women expect men to make the first move

Luckycharms12 · Answer

Doesn't really matter but guys although had lot girls make first move on me good thing to I'm terrible reading the signs

pickles77 · Answer

Definitely men but fun fact there use to be a tradition where it was the women who would ask the men for their hand in marriage

KittygosMeoWW · Answer

I’ve always made the first move but lol that’s because I’m mid.

Mark987 · Answer

I think now it's more equal.. In my experience I always have

LiamJHayden · Answer

In my life, I have well over 95% of the time.

FenixG45 · Answer

Men do, but if a woman is smart then she will make the first move!

Djaay · Answer

Motives make the first move with a woman , intentions make the first moves with a man.

Anonymous · Answer

Sure it'll still be this way even a full Century from now or longer, hence why there will always be more male wizards than a female Wizards

IloveWinters · Answer

Whoever has more attraction towards the opposite sex

Anonymous · Answer

I don’t make moves in person. To big a chance of being blasted on social media for daring to talk to a woman

mandyfire98 · Answer

It's gotta be men.

Anonymous · Answer

Women should make the first move. If a man does it he might get hit with a sexual assault charge lol

boobliker · Answer

most of the time it men

SUMAIREBRAHIM · Answer

It's depends on situation

Anonymous · Answer

Women because they stay chasing

Slim57 · Answer

Men because most women simply don't have to

Anonymous · Answer

Men almost always make the first move

Booklover_90 · Answer

I’m gonna say women.

Anonymous · Answer

Always men, seldom women.

TheFirstMan · Answer

Agreed

krin_m · Answer

Mostly men!

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