Guys, how many are interested in long term commitment vs short term or nothing?

[lightbulb27]

For men, how many of you are looking for something long term, ideally?

<28 Long Term

28 + Long Term

<28 short term

> 28 Short term

Not looking

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3 mo

Putting to bed the false assumptions guys here are looking for something short term.
Women... you have nothing to complain about, but the difficulty of understanding men...

[MrOracle]

I'm in what I plan and hope to be a longterm relationship.

My last serious relationship was a "short-term" relationship from the beginning, as she knew she would eventually be moving back to the East Coast when her mother retired, and I have my family and business in California. That lasted a little less than 4 years.

There are definitely men who only want casual sex or very short term "situationships" - and these are mostly the top guys who have nearly unlimited options with women, or the more trailer-trash/ghetto guys with few morals beyond their fists, but I suspect that the vast majority of men - most of the men between those two extremes - would prefer one serious, longterm relationship.

Women largely aren't interested in these men, though, because they aren't handsome enough, not tall enough, they don't make enough money, or even if they do make the money, their job isn't high-status enough.

I know a guy who is 33, pretty good looking, very fit, and he makes about $400,000 a year because he's an electrician and employs a dozen or so guys. He mentioned that lots of women hear he is an electrician and they block or ghost him, and some have told him outright that they wouldn't date an electrician.

I had to laugh, because he's making 3-5 times as much as many of the office workers they DO date - guys who have student loans to pay back. But guys that don't fit this imagined ideal are often overlooked today, and so a lot of men today aren't even bothering to try. Maybe they committed the ultimate sin and tried to take a date to the Cheesecake Factory or something, but when so many women shame men for everything if they are anything less than Christian Gray, many men just walk away from the whole game. I don't personally agree with that, but I also can't really blame them.

[lightbulb27]

congrats! Good input!
I know electricians that find gals. I think some of it is "where the other woman is at". They live and learn and learn to make tradeoffs.
I've seen picky women, picky men. I don't think it's easy for most... ya just have to get "out there" and be your best. That's what the coyotes do...

[Nik1hil]

I am looking for something that like 2 Years and And after that +1 Yr we renew it every new Year..

Committed - Monogamy- But not legally married. Officially Boyfriend and Girlfriend, we even exchange Rings.. ( I just want to keep Law and Legal System out of our relationship).

If the partner shows up and kisses on the New year at Midnight, we continue it..

If they want it to end. They don't show up and kiss me... This way we will never take each other for granted.. We will constantly place efforts and Keeping fixing and Growing Old together

[lightbulb27]

be fascinated if a woman go for that. I don't think most women think like that. Some might that fear commitment, but that be rare. realize... the woman can make an offspring real quick and most don't want to feel like she can be dropped. What they want is unfailing commitment... thus an emotional connection by which they can ensure they are priority #1. That... will feel good. Freedom... will not. Thus... a ring and such. Granted, she may want to fly... but that's different.
for what it's worth...

[Nik1hil]

Oh!.. in the case of Every kid. The agreement between each other, extends to 7 years minimum/ 7th birthday of baby!. and Commitment to the family for next 18 years!.

[OlderAndWiser]

I am 147 years old and getting married in three months.

[mrapollocreed]

I plan to meet a person, and what happens next... only God knows.

But i hope it lasts if it's good, you know?

[lightbulb27]

for sure!

[CozyCoffin]

I'd prefer a long term relationship where we have a couple kids, no infidelity, and stay together until we die of old age. I don't see that happening, though.

[LiamJHayden]

I prefer long term, but have never really had that. Mostly because of me. All of my exes have been wonderful, but for whatever reason something just did not fit for me.

[lightbulb27]

I hear that. when I find a broken record... I look at the record player...
if you find repeating patterns, you must then introspect and look at yourself... that is the way to out and to a different pattern. the answer... is in your childhood develoment/history/environment.

[DJB72]

I never got into a relationship I didn't believe would be a lifetime commitment. Even my first at age 15.

[NathanDavis]

what would you call short-term? days, months, years?

[TheSpaceGnome]

Lifelong with a woman who's mentally extremely similar.

[worldscolide]

I don't do casual or short term..

[Likes2drive]

Looking for long term

[Iron_Man]

Full time forever