So I never had a relationship. I am quite pretty (8/10 probably) and smart. I am also a nice person and sociable.
Somehow, though, no guy I've ever met wanted a relationship with me. And I'm over thirty. I've been on many dates, and they are ok to good, but none of those guys texts again, or tries to pursue me.
I also get hit up sometimes by taken guys or liars, or they just want sex.
I've also been ghosted a lot, also before or after sex.
Somehow those guys treat me like crap and don't respect me. They don't care about my feelings etc. It can't be that I just can't attract anyone for long-term, because I'm quite good?
I also set my boundaries and I'm not easy, but somehow it seems I don't seem relationship material?
Don't know what to do anymore?
Recently, I guy asked me out, but when I told him my possibilities he just stopped answering. I asked again - no answer. Before he contacted me daily and wanted to meet up.
This happens to me all the time
Maybe because I'm pretty, they just want to see if they get me interested?
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Either something about you is sending off red flags to them, or you are simply dating the wrong kind of guys.
but every single guy?
It's not every single guy, there's still plenty of good ones. Its just every single guy that you in particular are choosing to date.
No, even the good one turn into assholes or ghosts or don't try
But that doesn't negate the probability of both of The things I said being in place. It could be that you're dating a mix of good guys and bad guys, and you just repel good guys once they get to know you.
As I stated above, I don't think I have many red flags... maybe they want someone less threatening to them... cause I leave if it's not working
Most people with red flags don't think they have red flags
it's your opinion. I've dated many, and honestly, I really don't think I have any major red flags...
This is rather odd in this age range. Most guys in this age group are ready to settle down. Maybe there's some subtle red flag in your personality. I really don't know.
I don't really know... I don't think there's a red flag, but I had a lot of bad experiences, also assault and such things, so I'm quite guarded. I do show interest, but I'm rather reserved and like to take it slowly...
Maybe taking it slow is showing a lack of interest on your part... or that's how guys interpret.
Yes maybe... I don't know. I just don't like it fast. It could be tho...
last year I met someone and he wanted to meet up immediately but I couldn't make it. I suggested another meeting though... Later on he accused me that I didn't want to...
The bad experiences are also causing me anxiety and I do think I have fear of rejection or being broken up
I sincerely hope you do find the right guy soon. You could find someone who has the emotional aptitude to understand and be loyal to you to set aside your fears.
thank you :)
You are very welcome.