Is it possible to get back to a girl after almost a year of no contact?

[Anonymous]

A former co worker

Would it be weird to tell her that I think about her every night after we last met? lol

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1 mo

Sorry got to delete the usual "You just wanna get in her pants" comments.. you don't even know the context jeez

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1 mo

There seems to be a misunderstanding.. we were NOT in a relationship.. I'm not her ex who's trying to get back to her

[MrNameless]

Uhh. Absolutely do not tell her that you think about her every night. That can backfire immensely. Life isn't like the movies.

I don't know the context between you guys. Did she like you back? Did you guys go out? what was the reasoning to why you haven't talked to each other for a year? If you have her contact info, just play it casual and smooth and ask how she's been. Don't push things.

DO NOT confess your feelings like that. That would scare her, especially if she didn't see you like that. If you want something with her, keep talking to her and just ask her out after a few exchanges, if she seems open to it. If she feels pretty closed off, I wouldn't push it.

[Asker]

Yeah I think I was really under the misconception that she'll be flattered, it would rather be creepy
And yes we used to hangout and all.. but I got fired from my job for not playing along with a rude boss
Thanks for the opinion

[boobliker]

post a letter to feel your way

[Ani_Axiom]

Do not tell her you’ve been thinking about her every night. But you can contact her, sure, why not?

[Asker]

I was under the misconception that it would be flattering.. thanks , I'll try to contact!

[Ani_Axiom]

It would sound better without the “every night” part. That makes it a bit creepy.

[Asker]

I see.. thanks

[Asker]

I mean it's true though, I'm not making that up just to "flatter" her or anything haha

[WhitneySnow]

What’s the context? That sounds pretty weird with no context.

[WhitneySnow]

So you had a crush on her. There’s no harm in confessing your crush, as long as she at least knows you as an acquaintance and won’t be like “Who’s this guy?” Don’t do it in a creepy way and don’t push it if she’s not interested back.

[Asker]

Sure, thanks!

[Asker]

Yeah I do accept the reality that there is a chance that she won't even remember me at first , that would hurt but I promise I won't be pushy if she is not cool with it...

[WhitneySnow]

Awesome! Go for it 😊

[OlderAndWiser]

1. Tell her that you think about her every day and you will automatically and irrevocably be placed in the creep category.

2. Did you and this girl EVER share any romantic interactions in the past, or is this just a fantasy you are trying to bring to life?

[Asker]

What's wrong with trying to bring fantasy to life? Why should I just let it remain a dream without even giving it a try?

[OlderAndWiser]

I never said there is anything wrong with pursuing a dream. I am merely trying to get some clarification of whatever history there might be.

[Asker]

Got it Sir

[strateguy632]

very weird. but can talk on the phone to catch up.

see if she is available.

[Asker]

Sure

[Jay-_-]

If its been a couple years the odds of her thinking about you are very slim, id say concentrate on you and find another interest.

[Asker]

True that, maybe I'll just give it a shot and try moving on

[Asker]

Which will be hard , but no choice right>

[Jay-_-]

Exactly but don't worry man there will be one worth it

[Asker]

Thanks and good luck to you too brother

[Jay-_-]

I appreciate it man 🙏🏼 be safe 💯

[KrakenAttackin]

If it's been a year, at least three or four other guys have been balls deep in her. She has forgotten you even exist. Just move on.

[Asker]

That.. is probably true, thanks

[kenziemcmack]

honestly if things didn’t end bad i wouldn’t see why not to contact, but don’t seem like full in cause she might have other things going on

[Asker]

Got it!

[Anonymous]

This is what you get from playing the no contact game.

[Asker]

We were not even in a relationship in the first place... so I'm not playing any games with her

[BonzoInBitburg]

It ended for a reason. It's time to move on

[Account]

Leave her alone.

[Asker]

Care to explain?

[Account]

Yes. You had no contact for her for one year. It is obvious that you only remember her whenever it suits you. Why raise her expectations when in fact you do not care?

[Asker]

Wrong assumptions, I never forgot her for me to "Remember her when it suits me" ... I do admit that I did the mistake of not reaching out for her.. but last few months were tough career wise, so I was in a messed up state myself

[Account]

"were tough career wise, I was in a messed up state" when people truly want to keep in contact you, they do so all these are excuses. But do what you want. I hope she makes the right choice.

[Asker]

Yeah some men do not wish to pull down a woman to their messed up lives , doesn't mean we don't love genuinely , thanks

[Account]

That answer was expected. Just a tip, if your gaslighting was successful, it would have worked by now.
I don't understand why you get annoyed for not getting the answer you wanted to hear. That is my opinion and won't change.

[Asker]

Not annoyed at all lol and what gaslighting? You just assume a lot and make things up the way you want
I never complained about anyone or anything , you must know the meaning of the word that you use everyday

[Account]

I know exactly the meaning of that word even though English is my third language.
Anyway gaslighting is an attempt to manipulate someone and that is what you are attempting to do by mentioning how harsh your year was prior to wanting to contact her.
I dont think any person who likes someone else would take 1 year to contact them in order to save them by pulling them into their messed up lives sooner.
That is what I believe and that won't change. Have a good day.

[Asker]

Thanks but no, I don't intend to gain sympathy or manipulate anyone nor blame anyone for having a rough, very rough year.. I even had to work in an oil rig to be honest
I don't think , realistically, it would be a good idea to confess to a girl while being so messed up , and it might be hard to believe but thinking about her really helped me get over all this and get back to a job better than the one last year (with her) ..
Have a good day you too

[Anonymous]

Why u think about her