What should I do if I am being pressured by my family to get a job even though I am still sick and depressed?

[Anonymous]

I just resigned from my job last month.
Now I am back to being unemployed, stuck at home with nothing to do. My family want me to get a job. But the thing is I am still sick and just caught herpes. I am not in a good place mentally either, still feeling depressed. Should I just start looking for jobs even though I am still sick? Is it a good idea? Do you think that it is reasonable to have a break for a while to work on my mental and physical health first before applying for a job?

I am being pressured by my family to get a high paying job, but no one helps me to find a job or even helps me to get better mentally or physically. It's like I don't have the energy to do anything. I am still depressed and sad. What should I do guys in this circumstances? I am sorry for my English it's not my first language.

[Anonymous]

It depends on your current financial situation. Can you afford to take some time for yourself? If so, then it's ultimately up to you regardless of what your family thinks (unless it affects them directly in some way, such as you paying them rent or something like that). But, chances are good also that it will take time for you to find something anyway, so you can start looking WHILE you're working on yourself. Chances are you'll have the time regardless. Depending on how much time you think you need, if you do find something right away, you can also usually tell them when you're available to start work. Last point, depression is tough, but getting out there will also help with that, vs sitting around at home. So looking for work might actually help you a lot with that depression.

[Asker]

The thing is when i am feeling depressed, I don't have the energy to do anything, even getting out of bed. I will probably start looking for a job once I am feeling better mentally and physically. Depression makes me want to just sleep all day. That's becoming my habit since I quit working last month. I am just feeling worried about how my parents are going to think about me if I don't get better.

[Opinion Owner]

That's what I mean when I say that it can help with your depression. Not getting out will only keep that depression and cycle alive. But I know how hard that is, but you'll probably find you'll feel WAY better if you can actually force yourself to get out of bed and get out there. Or if the depression is severe enough, maybe you need some help with it?

[Chill_Thoughts]

Well if they pressure you but don't help, the first thing you have to do is ask them to help you. Secondly open up to your mom, dad or someone very close about how you're feeling and be as honest as you can. Lastly give yourself and everyone a deadline. If you say that in 2 weeks you'll get together with your dad and you'll looks for jobs together then, not only is your family more likely to accept your break, but also you're less likely to fall into a cycle of laziness and depression

[Marianna546]

First of all i feel sorry for your metal problems and I hope everything will be fine and you will feel better as soon as possible (asap) and of course if you have herpes and that makes you feel sick you dont have to find a job even though in my humble opinion it could actually distract you a little bit while you will be doing something you really love. But everything is up to you to decide to be honest :) Best of luck girlie <3 <3

[Marianna546]

mental*

[slatyb]

You need to see a professional about your depression.

[007kingifrit]

herpes goes away basically forever after a year, but it disappears before that in bursts, you can look for jobs between outbreaks

[Asker]

The herpes is getting better, and it's already bursting. it's the depression that's still keeping me stuck

[jahaims]

You're an adult. You have to stand on your own two feet. You shouldn't expect help from anyone.

[exitseven]

How do you pay your bills?

[Asker]

I still live with my parents. In my country, it's normal to live with your parents until you get married. Almost every adults around my age still live with their parents here. And parents pay the bills.

[EnglishEuropean]

Your first priority should be to get treatment.