INTROVERTS: How do you know when you need to go into hermit mode?

[denisenic01e]

Do you find yourself more tired than usual, angry in general, a little less patient with people.. Even those closest to you? What are the signs that tell you when you need to be alone & spend time alone to recharge?

[Nodachi]

I start feeling tense and restless, especially in my arms and legs, as if I want to go do some exercise to burn off the fatigue. Blood pressure rises a bit. It's a bit like having an adrenaline rush, presumably because I get really irritated.

Barely end up being able to concentrate on anything anyone says, my mind wanders anywhere and just won't process words. I get snappy very fast and sigh a lot if I know I can't leave, especially if someone is addressing me directly (if we are in a group setting).

Not very pleasant. It has very noticeable physical and emotional effects.

[denisenic01e]

Same for me.. I start to get really angry toward everyone & I say either rude things or I have a rude tone of voice. It sucks, and sometimes I don't recognize when I need to take some time for myself. It's interesting to learn that others can feel it, and we all have our own warning signs lol

[Nodachi]

I definitely think the physical effects are a lot more pervasive for me. I'm not sure if you've noticed anything like that but you can... literally feel it, if you pay close enough attention. That might be a way to recognise it early if you can listen to what your body is telling you.

[denisenic01e]

I don't think I've ever noticed the physical effects other than being really tired all the time & having no energy. But its really interesting to hear your warning signs & I'm going to look out for the physical signs (if there are any for me), next time I'm feeling overwhelmed by peopleing!

[i_research]

I get a bit tired and head to my room or be silent away from people/crowd. If someone interrupts me I get irritated.

[Phantomium]

You start to feel anxious, restless and slightly annoyed at the presence of so many people. Imagine how you're in the middle of a group and everyone is talking to you at the same time and at one point you want to run for the door. This is how I feel when I go to a New Year's party with approx. 20 people. 1 hour and I want out. And those are friends I've known for years. Not some strangers. Add to that my hatred for small talk and after such an ordeal I'm going hermit for a month. At least.

[denisenic01e]

I know the feeling ☺️

[MuteBastard]

I try to put up with people, like when on the phone, or hanging out, or when a lot of attention gets pinned on you. I stray away from the center of the group, and would abandon my friends to go somewhere else if like for example, a fight breaks out near us and an audience comes swarming in.

[IEat70sBush]

I've been in hermit mode since 2006, there are no other modes.

[denisenic01e]

I wish that were possible for me! Haha

[IEat70sBush]

Eh I live in America, where work isn't mandatory to live.

[denisenic01e]

I'm 40min away from San Francisco, work is CRUCIAL here in the bay area lol.. Can't avoid anyone for long 🙁

[IEat70sBush]

Yeah I make do living near a ghetto in Cincinnati OH on Section 8 and disability (told the gov't I was crazy, pay me). Roof over my head, food in my belly, and a new PC every 5-6 years, all I need.

[denisenic01e]

Are you happy?

[IEat70sBush]

Happy enough. I've learned long ago chasing happiness just leads to the opposite.

[denisenic01e]

Not for everyone lol

[IEat70sBush]

Not for me. Hell even back when I had a job the extra cash wash worth having to put up with everyone else's bullshit, aside from the fact that if the gov't is going to steal 1/5-1/3 of my income and give it to some other crazy I'd rather be the one receiving than the one getting robbed. Maybe if I could dictate directly on what my tax money was going to be spent on via a letter sent with the check rather than 530 politicians doing it I'd go back to work (and if I could get a job where I was mostly left alone).

[IEat70sBush]

wash = wasn't, stupid auto-spellcheck.

[Matt3434]

As an introvert, you are less likely to express your opinion. leaving you, depending on how long and the circumstances,(point blank), unhappy, frustrated, and probably mad at you self for not saying no or what you really feel but cannot express. you need to take time for Yourself, whenever and before you get to (your) , I'm going to explode or shut down point. But keep in mind, if something, an experience (s), etc, is what is causing this, and no, not a counselor, at least begin to talk to someone you can trust and confide in. just my 2 cents. . I do not believe in luck. so, with time And what you do and how you react, will become Your Future!😊

[Crankor]

I get that mentally worn out feeling. The amount of time it takes depends on who i'm around and how many people.

[denisenic01e]

Same here, some people I can be around for a lot longer than others lol

[NahBruh]

The signs is that 1:not feeling well 2: not that patient with people
3: getting rude
4: thinking mean thoughts
those are when I go into hermit mode

[Chris1456]

Me it's when I have so much in my mind I know i won't be able to be talkative or in a social mood. I need to clear things by being by myself for a few days

[Wasgehtsiedenndasan]

if I want to escape a situation or not talk to people I just go into my room while I'm at home or to the toilet when I'm at work. Ofc staying in the toilet won't last long but it makes me feel better sometimes.

[Anonymous]

I don't really ever need to go into hermit mode, I just find most of the human species obnoxious when people just want to endlessly project their subjectivity onto the universe.

Don't get me started on the "it's my opinion" speech...

[jakeofalltrades]

when I start imagining killing everyone I go into hermit mode

[Gonetowardthewind]

When I'm tired. I hate being out and about when I'm tired.

[GoodGuyBreakingBad]

When I'm under stress, extreme anxiety than i know it' time to go in hermit mode and get some alone time.

[chaos-coud]

just general groggie Ness and irritableness, sometimes I get achey and just don't want to move or do anything

[Anonymous]

Tired and the felling of wanting to be alone just occurs.

[shahpranav]

it friend on which topic are they discussing and where are they talking.

[Built2Last]

When too many things go wrong and you feel it could've been avoided if only people listen to you

[Decentguy]

i always try to spend my time alone. i dont like being in a crowd a bit

[Kataclyst]

The moment i dont have the energy to think is when. or just plain always

[TheLuckyPizzaDog]

I'm always in hermit mode.

[Lumberman53]

I feel tired and irritable like I don't want to talk to anyone

[Federico]

U just know when you need some alone time

[Arya_Christ]

whenever I am angry I want to be alone.