Why are many big brothers so over protective?

[Anonymous]

Sometimes it's hard for me to understand why my brother acts like he does. He's 11 years older than me, but we spend a lot of time together and I know and are friends with a lot of his friends. Sometimes when I'm with them my brother will make some joke about one of his friends and I being a couple, or if I sit close to him and talk and my brother sees, he'll come over and ask "are we family yet?" It's always super awkward. Either he's joking about it or telling me I can't date/ have sex/ know what a thong is before I'm 60. There's no in between. But that was a sidetrack. Why are some brothers so protective?

[DonkeyRick69]

He cares and knows what his friends are like. He doesn't want to see you become a single mom or abused by some guy. Young girls can be very naive and sometimes and over protective brother is enough to discourage a bad guy.
Older siblings are usually protective but in different ways depending on if it's a brother or sister. You might see that as sexist but it's down to the different kind of trouble a brother or sister is likely to get themselves into for instance a brother is more likely to get drunk and start a fight ending up stabbed or drunk , drive home drunk or do some mad reckless stunt that breaks their back. Girls are more like to get pregnant, more likely to get raped, more likely to get kidnapped, more likely to get into a relationship with an abusive dick. Your lucky you have someone watching out for you.

[sovetskii13]

I noticed that about myself too. My sister is 20 years younger. I try to teach her how to behave, be a good girl, what's important, etc. I think it's an instinct that big brothers naturally get. I love her. And feel that I'm supposed to protect her, help raise her, teach her how to avoid mistakes I made. Things like that.
Some of it has to do with the way we were raised and what we were taught. And now we use that knowledge to make things best for our younger sister (s).
I understand that it can feel like he's too controlling and not letting you make yoir own decisions, but you should appreciate his love towards you and how he has your back whenever you need it. Try to show him your respect by asking for advice and help when you need it. He will love that.

[TackyWhale]

You have to understand, though, regardless of if it’s a guy or a girl you can’t be too controlling as somebody once they get to that age where they can live on their own (18-24, or older).

If I don’t want somebody controlling me or trying to be protective of me as a guy, then it doesn’t seem right or fair at all that it somehow would be fair to do the same thing to a girl.

Yeah, you can help guide her away from genuinely creepy, completely untrustworthy or suspicious persons (which you probably should do if she has no such knowledge of that, yet), yet as the old saying goes, you can lead a horse to water, but you can’t make it drink.

if anything, the only person I wouldn’t really criticize for feeling that way is her father (if she has one).

[Genie23]

Because they love you and don't want anything bad happen to you. I'm the youngest one in family, when I was growing up. My brothers were way over protective of me. It used to annoy me. But over the years, I realised the reason they were doing this it's because they didn't want any guy to hurt me. So, trust me girly, it's not a bad thing, he's looking out for you because he loves you and cares about you

[guysaresuperior]

why?

[Genie23]

@guysaresuperior Sorry, I didn't get you? 🙄

[guysaresuperior]

What made you say so? I mean your opinion

[Genie23]

@guysaresuperior Because I have 3 older brothers and because most of my friends are guys. I find it easy to understand the reason behind their behaviour and actions. 😅 I was saved from doing things that I would have regretted.. Thanks to my brothers. They knew what's best for me. So, I consider myself as lucky 🙂

[TackyWhale]

As someone who doesn’t have that much experience in that area, I’d have to ask: what things, exactly, were you saved from doing that you would’ve regretted?

[JailbaitGamerGirl]

I dunno, I have three older brothers and none of them have ever done anything like that for me... They say I can just take care of myself since I'm smart enough not to fall for an idiot/creeper and strong enough to bash a stalkers skull... But you know, I mean it'd be nice if they were considerate of me like they are of my other sisters... ^^

[redmask38]

It's not just big brothers; it's big sisters too. I am insanely protective over my little brother, especially when he gets teased. One time a boy shoved him and then I threatened that boy despite it being very uncharacteristic of me. Older siblings go crazy when it comes to their younger siblings.

[crystalclear_]

I don't know what kind of brothers you all have, but mine are not even close to being protective. I've always envied other people who are close with their older siblings, but mine don't even bat an eye at me. I'm very protective over my younger sister, but it's not the same as brothers

[luvstoned4him]

Because they want whats best for you and they know what some men are capable of. They dont want to see you hurt like most women. Big bros are are a REAL GEM.

[luvstoned4him]

@Asker thanks

[jeres20]

As brothers we are raised up to believe that it is up to us to protect are sisters when the parents aren't around. It's are job to try and take the hurt for them when ever we can. We don't do it to bother you but we do it because we love are sister and would rather us get hurt then one of them.

[JAZZMANE]

Because he's your brother. That's why. Younger, Older, Same Age.. it doesn't matter! He loves you and cares about you. I love when my brother is protective of me and my other little sisters. Although I'm an adult now he still tries it haha. Which is great because if some creep or a guy I simply am not into keeps trying to get at me, I know I have a brother by my side ready to tear them to shreds! (Not literally)

[Sasisen]

Well it's not a bad thing you know, he just loves you and cares about your well-being and doesn't want to see you get hurt.
If I had a sister I'd be as protective as I can be without controlling her life, I mean, she has her own life to live, but I'd still try to protect her to the best of my ability.
My point is it's a good thing. So don't take it in a bad light.

[metalsucks2]

Dude Im younger than my sister and I am protective over her as a matter of fact when I was in high school guys would always pester me for her number and I would just say "911".

It's our duty as men to protect the women in our lives.

[Berserk117]

"it's our duty as men to protect women" cuck

[TackyWhale]

“It's our duty as men to protect the women in our lives.”

Probably not a great idea if any one of those women happen to want to be completely independent, but whatever suits you.

[Kims2016]

Even if they're the pinger then you. They will be over protective. Me in the other han have 5 brothers all older then I am. And they are not over protective, they don't care what I do. As long as I have a job and not get killed.

[TackyWhale]

That is the best way for them (and you) to look at things, in my opinion. It’s always better to be treated like an adult when you’re over 18 than to not be treated like one (even by your loved ones) regardless of your gender.

[cattertone]

he has seen how the world works, how corrupt and horrible it can be. he wants to keep you protected from that corruption and make sure you have a happy trouble free life.

[TackyWhale]

I do hope that you know the difference between doing what’s appropriately best to help her advert or be ‘protected’ from ‘corruption’, and keeping her sheltered from the outside world beyond childhood and teenagehood as an adult, if she is one.

[rjroy3]

Innate sense to look after family on top of being taught to look after your siblings. I'm protective of my siblings and i'm the middle child lol. My older sister is protective of me too, but takes a step back.

[babygirl6]

I don't have an older sibling but my older male cousins are very protective of me. And I am very protective of my younger siblings and my friends.
Your brother just doesn't want to see you get hurt..

[Browneye57]

This is what MEN do. They protect the women in their lives, including sister, mother, wife.

[TackyWhale]

I’m afraid it ain’t like that anymore, my dude.

That social norm has effectively largely crumbled to dust amongst much of today’s younger generation, and understandably so, given all the fierce pushes for equality.

[JohnDoe3000]

They don't want you to get taken in by bad boy douchebags. They're also protective of younger brothers, just in different ways.

[Anotherweirdo]

It's the same for me. He's just scared something bad can happen to you!

[Mishthefish]

Its a natural caring instinct! He just loves you and wants to keep you safe, thats all

[eagle1951]

it's what we were taught growing up. watch out for your sisters. or women period

[Nice_Guy_Last]

I let my sister live her life, but the fact of the matter is that she is little and fragile. I am not. "With great power comes great responsibility."

[catelyntje]

That's probably how your parents raised him I guess

[GoodGuyBreakingBad]

Well big brothers like to protect their little sisters that is very common.

[jennyem]

because they dont want other guys doing something to you, that they know they'd do to other girls...

[DaddyRollingStone]

Cause he loves you, doofus. Men are supposed to be protective of their family.

[Ghassan2]

Because he loves you and he has seen stuff and he knows how high of a chance something bad could happen to you.

[Anonymous]

lol girl... same story here I don't know but it's irritating

[Anonymous]

So you'd prefer he doesn't give a shit? Leave a shit on his pillow every day, see if anything changes

[nowhere_dani]

Mine isn't protective over me or my sisters.

[guysaresuperior]

what do you mean?

[nowhere_dani]

I mean just that. He's not protective.

[Anonymous]

Would you prefer he didn't give a shit?

[Hispanic-Cool-Guy]

They like being nosy.

[Anonymous]

Just because he love you a lot and care for you.

[OrdinaryGentleman]

Because they are men. duh.

[12mayanks]

it's about possessiveness about your blood

[Anonymous]

Cause you're the baby

[SnowQueen666]

genetics and protecting their pack

[sharkyfish876]

I'm guessing cause they just love you

[Midget_Hug]

They're trained to.

[Nahid1234]

I think all can be.