Ya, but if there is no mom, or she has a disability... you never know.
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She has a mom they aren't together anymore. But she has a grandma and great grandma and her dads girlfriend that can do it. Like why can't he just stand outside the shower or tub and wash her?
Like in the shower with you or outside of the tub? Cuz it's fine if his in the room with her washing her from outside the shower but I think it's weird to spend 15 min or so together in the shower.
Well like you said on previous comments, you didn't do it with your parents. So it would be strange to you, since your not used to that kind of thing. But it's not uncommon or unheard of to bathe with your children at that age. Most kids that young risk getting hurt or not doing something right, so bathing together allows you to teach as well as demonstrate how to clean yourself efficiently. You question why he can't jist do it outside of the bath... You do realize that's just as open as personal as bathing with them so your reasoning is a little mixed. At least if they are both undressed or the dad wears a swimsuit, it gives the child a sense of comfort knowing their not the only one in such an open way.
And really, kids don't really care about the whole thing, I remember showering with my parents, I was more concerned about getting to watch cartoons then I was about cleaning with them. And it gave my mom the chance to explain about the female body and say how we are all built differently and that whole lecture. So yeah, while you may find it offputting, bathing with your kid is fine and even educational if you make it that way. You shouldn't judge them for it. just let the parents raise the kid how they want. If you had cause of concern like some incest molestation speculation then I would worry. otherwise, it's fine.
But he doesn't explain any of that to her. He just stands in there with her for 15 min or so and helps her wash her hair real quick. He's not educating her on anything.
And no I don't feel anything inappropriate is going on. Just seems strange he can't do it from outside the tub so she can learn the difference of showering and having fun with dad when she's not naked. And to learn that showers are for one person not two people. Until she's older.
Whats curious is how you even know what they do in the bathroom. Did this jist come up one day during a conversation? are you in there watching them lol Because what they do should be of little buissnees to you. It's not your family hun, so who cares. And so what, he's jist helping his daughter out and if he can squeeze in a quick shower too then even better. kill too birds with one stone. And I'm sure when she gets more confident in showering they'll let her be by herself who cares.
Cuz I'm his girlfriend. And more of a mother figure and good role model to her than her mom is. Her mom's a piece of shit with no job. She needs good influences in her life. And I care about her future. We live with his mom and grandma and his grandma thought it was a little strange to. I don't know if his mom even knows they do. I don't know what she thinks. That's why I'm getting opinions on here.. I just thought it was inappropriate maybe cuz I'm not use to it? I never showered with my mom or dad.. And wouldn't want my son showering with me.
Hun, while applaud you for stepping up in raising the little girl, considering how most women in that situation would just ignore it. I think you should just let this pass. While you find it strange, its just something they do. And eventually they'll grow out of it. No need to confront something that isn't an issue. It'll just make him defensive if you confront it anyway, and you asking everyone one the subject is none of their business. He knows what's he's doing. Like I said, it's probs just weird becuase your not used to that. But everyone has their way of doing things. And it's not uncommon for people to do it with their kids so your gonna get mixed views on things. Just let him be a dad his way and help your way.
Ohk. I agree I think I'm just not use to it and will do my best to ignore it and let it go. And no I'm not her mother and am not trying to take the place of her mother, but she needs a good role model in her life and one that makes her dad happy and her. She loves me and tells me almost everyday. If me and him get married then I would be a stepmother but as of rn I'm just trying to be someone there for her and a good role model for her. I would love to be her mom if her and her dad would allow. But ik that won't happen unless were married. He's very stubborn and hard headed.
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Ya, but if there is no mom, or she has a disability... you never know.
She has a mom they aren't together anymore. But she has a grandma and great grandma and her dads girlfriend that can do it. Like why can't he just stand outside the shower or tub and wash her?
Then yeah thats a little weird. But i mean its his kid, so aslong as there isn't any pedo shit happening then its ok i guess.
Yeah but what about the future?
Like i said weird. I dont think its good to do it forever.
It should t continue past 5 for sure I don't think. I wouldn't do it with my son past the age of 2 or 3 or whenever you quit breastfeeding even
Makes sense
There is no problem, he is a dad. It would be if he wore nothing or got a boner.
Yes that inapporite
some nations do it even they are adult.
Which nations?
@SuccessfulHornDog one of a chinese nation and German do that.
Germans do that? really, wow
I see no problem with it at all.
my father would wash me when i was in that age
Like in the shower with you or outside of the tub? Cuz it's fine if his in the room with her washing her from outside the shower but I think it's weird to spend 15 min or so together in the shower.
How are you related?
Why?
because it is important to know for us to answer properly
that's why everyone keeps asking you
No I'm a friend.
Well like you said on previous comments, you didn't do it with your parents. So it would be strange to you, since your not used to that kind of thing. But it's not uncommon or unheard of to bathe with your children at that age. Most kids that young risk getting hurt or not doing something right, so bathing together allows you to teach as well as demonstrate how to clean yourself efficiently. You question why he can't jist do it outside of the bath... You do realize that's just as open as personal as bathing with them so your reasoning is a little mixed. At least if they are both undressed or the dad wears a swimsuit, it gives the child a sense of comfort knowing their not the only one in such an open way.
And really, kids don't really care about the whole thing, I remember showering with my parents, I was more concerned about getting to watch cartoons then I was about cleaning with them. And it gave my mom the chance to explain about the female body and say how we are all built differently and that whole lecture. So yeah, while you may find it offputting, bathing with your kid is fine and even educational if you make it that way. You shouldn't judge them for it. just let the parents raise the kid how they want. If you had cause of concern like some incest molestation speculation then I would worry. otherwise, it's fine.
But he doesn't explain any of that to her. He just stands in there with her for 15 min or so and helps her wash her hair real quick. He's not educating her on anything.
And no I don't feel anything inappropriate is going on. Just seems strange he can't do it from outside the tub so she can learn the difference of showering and having fun with dad when she's not naked. And to learn that showers are for one person not two people. Until she's older.
Whats curious is how you even know what they do in the bathroom. Did this jist come up one day during a conversation? are you in there watching them lol Because what they do should be of little buissnees to you. It's not your family hun, so who cares. And so what, he's jist helping his daughter out and if he can squeeze in a quick shower too then even better. kill too birds with one stone. And I'm sure when she gets more confident in showering they'll let her be by herself who cares.
Cuz I'm his girlfriend. And more of a mother figure and good role model to her than her mom is. Her mom's a piece of shit with no job. She needs good influences in her life. And I care about her future. We live with his mom and grandma and his grandma thought it was a little strange to. I don't know if his mom even knows they do. I don't know what she thinks. That's why I'm getting opinions on here.. I just thought it was inappropriate maybe cuz I'm not use to it? I never showered with my mom or dad.. And wouldn't want my son showering with me.
Hun, while applaud you for stepping up in raising the little girl, considering how most women in that situation would just ignore it. I think you should just let this pass. While you find it strange, its just something they do. And eventually they'll grow out of it. No need to confront something that isn't an issue. It'll just make him defensive if you confront it anyway, and you asking everyone one the subject is none of their business. He knows what's he's doing. Like I said, it's probs just weird becuase your not used to that. But everyone has their way of doing things. And it's not uncommon for people to do it with their kids so your gonna get mixed views on things. Just let him be a dad his way and help your way.
i think the real question here is to ask yourself if you are just her father's girlfriend or if you can assume the role of stepmother.
Ohk. I agree I think I'm just not use to it and will do my best to ignore it and let it go. And no I'm not her mother and am not trying to take the place of her mother, but she needs a good role model in her life and one that makes her dad happy and her. She loves me and tells me almost everyday. If me and him get married then I would be a stepmother but as of rn I'm just trying to be someone there for her and a good role model for her. I would love to be her mom if her and her dad would allow. But ik that won't happen unless were married. He's very stubborn and hard headed.
I see no problem
so, it's all good