She's always been really clingy/needy, and recently it's gotten worse with another one of our roommates, who's one of my best friends. Her a her boyfriend were dating for about a year and a half, took a break over the summer, and are now trying to get back together again. He's traveling abroad next semester, which is making her sad, because she doesn't want to be away from him for six month. She's now trying to split her time between being a nursing student, spending time with her friends, and spending time with her boyfriend; she's doing a really good job of splitting her time equally, even though spending more time with her boyfriend would make her happier.
The other roommate keeps nagging her about how she doesn't hang out with her, makes comments about how she (the other roommate) does everything but others (i. e. my good friend) just put themselves first. She'll ask where my friend is going, or if she's hanging out/sleeping at our house, or at her BF's. She'll also bother my good friend when she has her boyfriend over - knocking on her door when they're sleeping, calling them both, texting them both, scratching on the door, etc. - to the point when her boyfriend won't sleep over anymore, because she's so annoying.
At one point she even told my friend to "not forget her friends in the process [of having a boyfriend]". She said this because my friend was heading over to her boyfriends house at 10pm that night. She had hung out with the other roommate for about an hour before, so there was no reason for the other roommate to make that comment, because they had just hung out.
What I'm worried about, is that in the next couple of months, I may be dating one my good friends boyfriends roommates. I don't want the other roommate making these kinds of comments, and trying to guilt trip me into hanging out with her more. I don't want to make her feel bad, but I also don't want to deal with this when I have a boyfriend. How should this be handled?
The other roommate keeps nagging her about how she doesn't hang out with her, makes comments about how she (the other roommate) does everything but others (i. e. my good friend) just put themselves first. She'll ask where my friend is going, or if she's hanging out/sleeping at our house, or at her BF's. She'll also bother my good friend when she has her boyfriend over - knocking on her door when they're sleeping, calling them both, texting them both, scratching on the door, etc. - to the point when her boyfriend won't sleep over anymore, because she's so annoying.
At one point she even told my friend to "not forget her friends in the process [of having a boyfriend]". She said this because my friend was heading over to her boyfriends house at 10pm that night. She had hung out with the other roommate for about an hour before, so there was no reason for the other roommate to make that comment, because they had just hung out.
What I'm worried about, is that in the next couple of months, I may be dating one my good friends boyfriends roommates. I don't want the other roommate making these kinds of comments, and trying to guilt trip me into hanging out with her more. I don't want to make her feel bad, but I also don't want to deal with this when I have a boyfriend. How should this be handled?
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