How do I deal with a friend who rubs her relationship in my face?

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I'm single and I don't mind it at all, to be honest. I'm not "sensitive" about it, or anything. But my friends keeps rubbing her relationship in my face. She keeps saying how it's so much better to be in a relationship than single. And when she asks me for a relationship advice, if she doesn't like my advice, she'll say "what do you know? you're single.". I'm tired of hearing of how big of a loser I am just for being single. What should I do?

JudgmentDay · Accepted Answer

Doesn't sound like a good friend at all. Just keep one thing in mind if you are single you'd never have to worry about dealing with a breakup some day, because more often than not IT WILL happen, because IT CAN happen. If you have nobody, you have nobody to lose, no compromises, no one to argue with, no one to get on your nerves, etc. Just be patient for now and just pretend you even give a fuck, and then when the cookie crumbles and when she breaks up eventually some day, and never say never, you'll finally see it for yourself, and you'll realize, geez I'm glad I wouldn't have to deal with that kind of miseries, pain, heartache, etc. If I were you, I'd minimize all contact with a friend if not constantly make up excuses to not meet up with them or talk to them. You want to know the real reason why they do what they do, BECAUSE THEY ARE INSECURE ABOUT THEMSELVES AND DEEP DOWN THEY ARE MISERABLE. So they try to make you miserable and put you down, etc. Well FUCK THEM, whatever goes around, comes around. Next time when she needs you, you can simply just ignore her altogether. It would be her own problems and issues, not YOUR problems, and therefore let her deal with, and if she ain't gonna even bother to listen or attempt what you advised her to do, stop altogether, let her do her own fucking thing and sort it out for her fucking self.

MrCryptic · Accepted Answer

Tell her what you just told us. Just be like "Why do I get the impression that you are rubbing your relationship in my face and then burn me for being single sometimes?"

If you value her friendship then try to make ends meet with her. Tell her it makes you uncomfortable sometimes and you don't really want to deal with it. If she gets tude with you and makes fun of you further then don't be her friend. Best wishes.

Cynicaldreamer · Accepted Answer

Your friend sounds like an ass- and that's my censored opinion of her because she's your friend and you obviously care about her.

First off, if she doesn't like your relationship advice and mocks you for being single- WHY is she asking you for relationship advice? If she doesn't want your opinion, then don't ask you for it!
And for someone that's your friend, she needs to support you, single or not. Just tell her to stop rubbing it in your face as it bothers you. Also, there is nothing wrong with being single!
Some people, like your friend, just thinks being in a relationship equates happiness because they can't be alone- which says a lot about them as a person and their personality.

If she still keeps picking on you about it, just stop talking to her until she gets the hint.

Joe_Dee · Accepted Answer

Here's the thing though...
If she has to ask a SINGLE person (let alone any person) for relationship advice, then her relationship isn't all that great.
She sounds like a real low down human being that's trying to act like a "friend".
So just do you.
And if she continues- cut ties with her.
Simple really.

hbtgv · Answer

You can quote what Paul said in 1st Corinthians chapter 7

25Now concerning the betrothed, I have no command from the Lord, but I give my judgment as one who by the Lord’s mercy is trustworthy. 26I think that in view of the present distress it is good for a person to remain as he is. 27Are you bound to a wife? Do not seek to be free. Are you free from a wife? Do not seek a wife. 28But if you do marry, you have not sinned, and if a betrothed woman marries, she has not sinned. Yet those who marry will have worldly troubles, and I would spare you that.

MissGee212 · Answer

First off, you're not a loser for being single. Being single is just a temporary state until the right person comes along. Being in a relationship is not a ways great either. I would flaunt how much FUN being single can be. If she asks for relationship advice slap her back with, "I wouldn't know nor do I care. I'm single, remember?"

Gentle_Jess · Answer

sounds like your friend is insecure. Be single and love every minute of it. You are free do do whatever you want without checking in with someone. You are free to flirt. You can wear whatever you want, and talk to whomever you want. Your friend cannot. Your friend is most likely jealous of your freedom.

Factshurt90 · Answer

No need to be friendly. Just tell her she's being irritating and attention seeking and its annoying as hell. Tell her you don't care about her relationship and if she wants to keep being an irritating little snarky bitch she can delete herself. Then casually go back to your single drama free life like you didn't just tell this irritating cunt to fuck off.

btbc92 · Answer

You stop TALKING to her. She is no friend of yours. Drop her. She sounds like she's jealous of you and wants to prove something to you. Trust me, sooner or later that relationship is going to bust and by the time she seeks your comfort your not going to be there. You know why? Because you'll be out of her life, and her number will be blocked and deleted. She'll be all alone, and it will wake her up to how she chooses to TREAT other people. Even her relationship is a farse!

mintmint1990 · Answer

She doesn't sound like a real friend to me. Is she the only friend you have atm? I would suggest staying away from her and try to find a new friend. Being single is nothing to be ashamed of. But apparently to your friend, its the worst thing since someone invented pineapple on pizza lol

Anonymous · Answer

She’s not a friend.

Anyways if you want to be friends here’s how goes. Be honest!
Next time she says “it’s so much better being in a relationship” just say “why is it so bad to be single? Are you not able to be independent? “
Or if she says “what do you know?” Just tell her “then don’t ask next time or listen to my oooinion.” Then never give her an opinion!

Honestly, just drop her. She’s cancerous lol

Gottabsavagee · Answer

Ahh I would confront her the next time she’d say “what do you know, you’re single”, I’d say then why are you asking me, do what you want.

Just because you’re single it doesn’t make you a loser. It makes you a loser when someone is playing you or treating you poorly and you stay with them.

hellacray · Answer

Lol well you have a lot more freedom to do what you want cause you don't have a boyfriend.

Besides when she ends up with a break up don't bother helping her. Cause hey you're single and never in a relationship. You're not qualified to help someone experiencing a break up.

uraslave · Answer

Okay, I went through this exact situation and handled it wrong, so let me give you my advice that I've learned from my mistakes.

It's so fucking simple. JUST DITCH THEM!!! Being alone is 1 million times better than being milked for your jealousy! Just fking ditch em, don't tell em why, if they figure it out, good for them, if not, FUCK EM!!! Life sucks when your friends are shitty

Anonymous · Answer

Damn i feel you. Its like she has no idea what else to talk about. Im not bitter or anything too, but its getting annoying and boring af. What i do is try to change the topic a lot but it always go back to her boyfriend lmao. I really think im gonna snap soon.

Zer0Ghost · Answer

"Being single isn't miserable for everyone just because you can't stand being alone"

MasterKey18 · Answer

Don't give her anymore of your solid advice and find a friend whop isn't a bragger about herself.
Karma stinks and one day when you aren't around, she will be looking for you because of loneliness. Not a relationship.

Rashad · Answer

Distance yourself from her. She is hurting you and making you insecure.
It’s something you will pick up later in life. Single people don’t get along with married people. Different priorities in life, different mindset.

9teen · Answer

Lol, I left someone like that a time ago. So annoying. Discovered her boyfriend isn't as attractive as she described though. Usually people who brag about their relationship are really insecure about it.

SarahsSummer · Answer

First decide if you really are sensitive to this or not, it seems you are. Beyond that, if you don’t like the interactions you have with someone, stop having interaction with them.

bizmarkee · Answer

Fuck her. I've been single seven years and have dated off and on depending on how I feel. Eventually the right thing will come along and you'll know. Ignore her.

Paris13 · Answer

Don't bother with Giving Her anymore of your Lip. It's not Appreciated. Find a Friend who is a Good One, hun, And a Single, Not Some Pringle. xxoo

lumos · Answer

Drop her? She doesn't sound like a very good friend and if she brings you down like that (on purpose), you might as well not hang out with her at all.

admles · Answer

People who do that are insecure in their relationship. It's like people who need to post their relationship all over social media, they need validation.

Angel786 · Answer

Omg girl!!! I am feeling you right now you can private message me I am going through the same situation :)

Anonymous · Answer

At first I thought she just didn't get it that your single and she isn't and she shouldn't be talking like this.
But I realized towards the end girl, she's being kinda ride OR
she just wants you to date and have fun I don't know.

nofunkgiven · Answer

Just be honest and tell her to stop cuz her behavior is very annoying. She should shut up after that.

art84 · Answer

I would stop being around that so called friend who is putting you down for being single. Doesn't sound like friend at all nust someone who wants to start drama.

Ninakumari · Answer

"I don't appreciate that you keep putting me down for being single. I'm happily single and I want you to stop showing off your relationship to me."  That's what I would say to her.

Wolframium · Answer

Terminate all contact with her. As an explanation say…basically this.

Helpfulgirl · Answer

tell them u dont care... if they dont respect that there is nothing i can do to help u...

Burgerboy21 · Answer

Wait it out. When this relationship eventually crumbles, she will be at your feet, begging for mercy!

OnitheWanderer · Answer

Choose better friends or just tell her not to be insensitive/insensible or to have so much insecurities.

Caunsos · Answer

Have sex with her boyfriend. Joking just call her on BS. You are her friend that is your job.

DrHonesty · Answer

Tell her to get a fucking life and mind her own business and rid yourself of that peasant

jessture · Answer

Rub it in her face how much better single life is and watch her cry

ChocolateCheesecake · Answer

Somebody like that is annoying, I'd tell her to hit the bricks

Rambler221 · Answer

Tell her to knock it off, and if she can't you boycott her. Sounds harsh, but what she is doing is immature and fairly malicious.

StrawberryMilkyy · Answer

Forget about her! A real friend just let it be, and don't try to come at you like that! Just tell her it's over. We through. Well ain't cool.

Dchrls78104 · Answer

If someone has to rub his/her relationship in your face, in all likelihood it's not real or healthy and will end (badly) someday (soon).

respondergirl · Answer

Tell her to shut up. Find some single friends. Hang out more with them.

Anonymous · Answer

tell her you love being single and how much better is it tan being in arlationship and the she ask you your advice say I don't know which advice to give you.

PHANTOM13 · Answer

yea i been in a same situation couple of times with friends and now i m doubting am i jealous or they are overdoing in front of me

Anonymous · Answer

What you should do is dump her as your friend. She sounds like a shit human being.

rawatsuraj1207 · Answer

😀😀😀😀 Take her experience for your future relationship... Keep touching with that guys beacuse when they break up. They will come to you with their sad face.

Anonymous · Answer

Fuck the shit out of him honestly  i had a bitch ass friend like that at the end of the day she was the one who was jealous and she betrayed me first.

Halucinator · Answer

Tell her how you feel and how you don’t guve a damn about it

LegateLanius · Answer

Drop this cunt. You don't owe her a friendship, especially with her being this mean.

Anonymous · Answer

Sounds like a “real” friend indeed.  However I can’t help but wonder if her boyfriend likes you and she’s paranoid about it.

Rachel_Juliane · Answer

There is 4 options 1. Get a hot boyfriend 2. Hit her 3. Ignore her 4. Talk to her about it

alex515 · Answer

This isn't a friend. This is a bitch who is using you to make herself feel superior. Drop her.

Anonymous · Answer

Don’t worry about it. He’s probably cheating anyway I mean he is a guy.

playeronice · Answer

tell her to mind her own business, your love life or sex life doesn’t concern her.

Tomblebee · Answer

She probably doesn't even realise she is doing it.

uravgguy · Answer

You break away from the friendship

Aswin_Jose · Answer

Get a hotter boyfriend? Hit the gym? Get rich?

ZELLxoxo · Answer

Just change the topic.

Kenni · Answer

Damn that milkshake looked good

Danxsarah · Answer

Stop hanging out with her friends dont do that

jaejaeraa · Answer

Tell her straight up how you feel.

Iron_Man · Answer

Put her on a bowl ban probation

Hugemoth · Answer

rub some bleach on her face

Jhon24 · Answer

i think she is miserable and wants you to be

LuWe22 · Answer

Does not sound like a good friend to be honest

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