This is my belief, we are born we started out as one cell each and every day multiply we are made from water an atom's , atoms broke down is energy. Energy Never Dies. If you can find yourself Within you will feel this energy you'll come to understand this energy the guiding force a teacher in your life it's who you really are within it's your true beauty it's your true smart is your true Everything when we die our body which is our Temple and housing something very important. God has many houses but when we die our energy gathers are so our spirit and everything we have ever done in our life every word we have said every feeling that we have felt every emotion and as our body hits the ground our energy a little ball of light now in orbit will take all of that knowledge all of that every part of us with it to wherever it goes. I want next time that you see your grandmother I want you to hold her hand I want you to feel her energy with your energy become one with her if you cannot feel it through your head if you cannot feel her through your head put your forearm to her forearm forearm together you will feel her energy talking to your energy if you cannot feel it that way I want you to get to magnets place it in your hands first finger and thumb each hand what side they're going to want to touch and come together don't let them touch feel that Sensation that emotion going through your fingers and your thumb and your hands turn the magnet over those magnets are going to want to come together but then comes to a certain point stopped and you can't put them together. Feel that sensation and that energy between your first finger and your thumb in your hand Circle the run together try to put them together as hard as you can feel the energy between the both of them. When you hold your grandmother's hand when you touch your inner forearm to her inner forearm you feel that same energy the beautifulness of it ask your grandmother what she feels I believe she will feel peace and love and the beauty within you
I could give you a rote explanation of the five stages of grief, but you likely already know that and if you don't it's an easy Google search.
That said, there were a few times I've stayed awake at night thinking about the nature and inevitability of death... and there's no way to cut around it, it's terrifying. Always has been; always will be. I won't harp on about its scariness, but I will say, I've tried to think *axiomatically* about it, and this is what I've got.
Axiom #1: Everything dies. Nothing is immortal. Axiom #2: We don't know what happens to ourselves in death. Corollary: We do know (somewhat, for given definitions of "know") what happens to us in life. Axiom #3: As we don't know what happens in death, conjecture on death is pointless. Consideration: If nothing is immortal, and everything dies, then what meaning do our lives have? Further consideration: What IS "meaning"? And what is life's "meaning"? Answer: Meaning is a definition assigned to something by a sentient and discriminating being capable of judgment to try and make sense of the universe through categorization. People often ask for the meaning of life like the universe is going to drop a notebook labeled, "WELL, SINCE YOU ASKED..." in their laps. The universe doesn't care, because it can't care- it just is. It's just rocks and dust and lots and lots of empty space. Meaning needs a mind behind it to give assignment, and the only ones we've found with that ability are humanity. We are forced to create meaning for ourselves in everything we do, from letters to signs to art to life itself. COROLLARY: What meaning, then, should we give our lives? This answer is pretty variant. Lots of people- and I mean LOTS of them- suggest life should be a self-justifying thing and that every day should be lived full of personal expression, a party like they might die tomorrow (and very well may.) Personally, I disagree with the sentiment, because it's inherently selfish and short-sighted. A man in his old age who lives only for the moment realizes that he has lived all the best years of his life already, and there is nothing for him ahead but pain and death, with the shallow comfort of remembering joys long past to soothe him. It strikes me as a lousy way to go. No, what gives a life meaning, in my opinion, is *purpose* - an understanding that your life's goal is to do something with your time that will leave a lasting, permanent benefit to the world you were given, that will endure after you're gone. Oh, seeking remembrance is a foolish vanity- even Ozymandias must see his statues crumble in time- but just because your legacy is forgotten, does not mean it doesn't exist. Does anyone remember the man who first discovered fire? Or carved the wheel? Or gathered the first cattle, or sowed the first field? Are we any poorer because we don't know their names off-hand? Their immortality is not in who they were; it was in what they left behind.
CONCLUSION: Consider your grandmother, and ask her about her life. Ask her of what good deeds she did to strangers, what help she gave to an environment, what lessons she taught to children. Remember what profundity you will take from her example after she is gone. If you do that, your grandmother will have passed leaving this world a better place than she left it, and that is a happy legacy to leave.
I work in death care, and how people process grief varies among individuals. I think it's a combination of grieving the loss of a loved one and also coming to grip with one's own mortality. We all come with an expiration date. I remember when my maternal grandmother passed a few years ago; like your grandmother, she was suffering from a battle with cancer. She was in hospice care for three months, and I agonized almost each day. What was I going to do without her? How can this be happening? But when she died, interestingly I felt a great sense of relief - not sadness, not anger, not grief. And I wondered why, and even felt somewhat guilty that I hadn't broken down and wasn't crying at her passing. I think I finally realized that her pain and suffering was over, and that I was at peace with that. If your grandmother is terminal in hospice care, hospice care workers can help you through it, even before her passing. They're like angels on earth, they're just amazing people. Talk it over with your parents, with your grandmother herself, with good friends. I make some grief counseling literature available at the funeral home, and have counseling resources I can refer families too. There's bound to be some in your area if you need them, though most people work through it with family and friends just fine. Trust me, you will be OK. It will take some time, but life will move on and you'll get through it.
One cannot get psychologically ready for such an event.
You have to accept this fact because you know that death is part of life and that it is inevitable. None of us have ever (or ever will) be able to avoid death.
What you can do is to let go of your negative emotions regarding death because there is nothing you can do to avoid it. It is not God's fault or whatever deity you believe in and it is not unfair or unjust to take this person away from you.
She has lived her time, even if it feels too short for you. Put yourself in her place and accept that she may want to die because she is not having the quality of life that she wants. Be happy for her that her suffering may soon come to an end.
One is never ready for the loss of a person that is dear.
You canāt sadly to say , losing a loved one is a shock to your system , everyone grieves differently , crazy to say but grieving is a chemical imbalance in the brain sort of like a mental illness depending on how your body and mind handle it , some people canāt control it and donāt realize how they are acting , I have witnessed people Grieve in some fucked up ways and once they snap out of it they donāt remember what they were doing during that time , so itās best to not question someone grieving and if you are the one grieving you are best to surround yourself with friends and family that you know will love and support you through the horrible time , I am sorry to hear about your Grandmom , there are really no words anyone can say to Prepare you for what you will experience just know that your Grandmom loves you and that she will be at peace and not suffering anymore , again I am sorry to hear that you will be facing this loss and hope you get through it without hurting yourself or others , just remember there is no set time limit on how long you will grieve , most people can grieve for the rest of their lives , so to say how long you will grieve canāt be answered. Just know your Grandmom wouldnāt want you grieving over her for a long time either , I have lost loved ones and all I can say from my experience is that it does balance out in time , they will always be in my heart until I see them again sometime
I've lost a great many members of my family. Some through cancer or other illness, some through accidents, some through simple old age.
The fact is, sadly, that even when you know it's coming, death is a shock. Psychologically we're not designed to deal with death. Sorry to bring religion into it, but if you read Genesis, God designed making to live forever. Death was a punishment for disobedience.
I'm 49. I've been a Christian 35 of those years. Of the deaths I've seen, all but two, my aunt in a house fire in 1983 and my brother in a road accident in 1985, were before I became a Christian.
Being a Christian doesn't make me immune to the pain of loss. When my dad died in 1999 I was so depressed by the loss I attempted suicide - more than once.
The best thing you can do to "prepare" is to spend time with your loved one. Live life as fully as possible. Watch sunsets. Sunrises if you can. Talk about their life. Get photo albums out and ask them to talk about the time the pictures were taken - I guarantee every "formal" picture has a funny story.
Live. Love. Laugh. Give them the highest quality of life you can
I don't think you ever truly can... I knew for thirteen years my hubby was sick, knew that other shoe was going to drop, just not when. But the last year of his life, I could see him getting sicker, knew the end was near, thought I was prepared, thought I cried and grieved for the loss of who he had been because that last year he was just the shell of the man he used to be, so I thought I had already grieved that loss before he died... And I was so wrong... The best you can do is make the most of the time you have left with her... And when you're missing, grieving that loss, it helps to remember how lucky/blessed we were to have such truly great people in our lives and we may no longer physically have them, but we'll have the great memories of sharing/being a part of their lives... MY condolences, thoughts go out to you and your family🙏🏻🙏🏻
I am already prepared to see all the people I know die at some point, the reason I know death is inevitable and will come to all at some point so I won't be surprised or shocked when it happens
Another way I have prepared because I am a very logical, rational person and since I am not emotional, sentimental type it will be very easy for me to face such a situation as the fact I have to live my life till I die and not to care about people who are already dead.
Not sure you understood but that is my answer to your question.
I lost my first grandmother when I was 7. I lost my Dad when I was 16. I lost my other grandmother when I was 40 and my grandfather when I was 41 (my first grandfather died before I was born) and I lost my mother when I was 47. My Mom died of cancer after a three year fight for her life. You tell them you love them. Your consolation will be they died knowing they were well loved. While they are still with you ask them to tell you about their life and write it down. Take photos and make videos of them. Keep those as keepsakes. In 50 years you will thank your self.
Ask her to watch over you from Heaven and tell her how much you love her, bake her her favourite meal and play the guitar for her and buy her expensive flowers and dress her in the finest clothes - you wonāt have regrets about how you treated her if you do this. And maybe talk to a clergy person about Heaven. Also I think you should try to live in the same house as her so you can support her during this time. Iām sorry about this. I know itās very difficult. But pray together - know God loves you both and very soon her suffering will end. Maybe paint an image of Heaven and gift it to her.
You just try to think of what is and was, not what will be. You celebrate the life rather than getting drowned in the death. You accept that life is not infinite, that we all have our time and it cannot always be of our choosing. Death is not supposed to be easy, but it is a part of life. You best honour the dead by living, not by giving up.
Sorry to hear about your grandma. The best advice I can give is to spend as much time with her and to tell her how much you appreciate her. There really isn't anything you can do to "prepare" yourself but having no regrets will make it easier to comfort yourself with the good memories you have.
The death of a beloved family member is a life changing experience. The only thing we can do is try not to take the time we have for granted because we never know when that time will run out.
I have no idea. I'm working through this myself right now.
Say everything you need to say. Hold her hand, be with her, and say everything you can think of. Even if she doesn't take it all in, it will be better for you to not feel later as if you had things unsaid.
Make the most of your time with her. Making things comfortable and spending time with her. It truly is a difficult time for you and it takes a while. It was so hard when I lost my grandmother - I miss her dearly. She died of Cancer. Sometime later you make peace with it but loved ones will always remain in your heart.
I can't say anyone can truly be prepared, best thing to do though is to resolve what you can now. My biggest regrets is leaving things unsaid or undone. I remember one day my mother asking me to give my grandpa a hug before he left and I ignored her, too busy the next day he died... regretted that ever since.
I do have faith though I will see them again one day on the other side.
Iām not sure you can fully prepare. Just make the most of the time you have with her and remember she will always be with you and live on in your memories of your time together.
Is a hard moment White i prepare for my father and Mother because The get old and hale healt problem. In order to prepare myself for that moment i try to think about how my life will be whidout them and try to handle that pain and lonlines that i think will come. You can't never be 100% prepare but at last can prevent some emotional damages.
I lost my grandfather and my uncle in the same year. The death of my uncle came as a chok, as he didn't tell us he was deadly Ill until a few days before it happened. But I don't think I would have handled it better if I had been prepared for it, everyone has their own way of dealing with loss
My sympathy lies with you. My grandmother just died yesterday, and same as you I had to prepare for it because she had a brain clot seizure. I never saw her in a long time, but ai remember that I expressed to her my love the best I could by last phone call. I was prepared because I know she won't live forever, neither will I. Be strong 🌹
I can relate to this... and there's not really a way to do it, I just tried to convince myself that my beloved person is finally going to sleep after all their suffering. It helps to tell them everything you want to thank them about, that you love them. Having less regrets helps a big deal after they're gone
If you have both accepted God's gift of life, you WILl see her again. but I digress -- - - - -
There is no real way to fully prepare for this. Surround yourself with supportive people, dump the toxic ones, and sally forth each day. We will be praying for you and your family.
I know I took it better when my mom died of cancer than when my dad died of a suicide. With my mom we kind of had time to prepare whereas my dad obviously it was a surprise. It will be hard at first then you'll get over it. You'll never really forget, sometimes it could be years later and you'll just break down like it happened yesterday depending on your current life situation.
We feel for you. My wife is a cancer survivor and I have an inkling of what you're going through. Emotionally there is not much you can prepare for. Mentally, celebrate her life and revisit the good and fun things you did together and because of the cancer, find solace that she'll be at peace and pain free when she passes.
Thats a tough one.. can you really prepare yourself? I lost the woman who meant everything to me, she raised me and made me who I am today. She was ill for a long time and I came to terms with the illness and that she would eventually pass from it, when she eventually did pass it left a void which I couldn't prepare for but it gives me peace of mind knowing that she isn't suffering anymore and had I wished she lived longer would only be for my selfish gains
By being realist. You'll surely mourn their loss for they were integral part of your life, but life, as everything in the world, is just another thing which has an end. It was bound to happen, life goes on until it's your turn.
I honest think there is not one set way to prepare yourself for death of a loved one. It is mainly about accepting that they are passing and going through the stages of grief. Everyone goes through it and it is just about getting to the last step, acceptance.
Nothing can really prepare you for it. You just have to come to terms with the fact that losing a loved one is an evolving part of life that everyone has to go through.
Unfortunately death is a taboo subject in this country, even though it happens to all of us eventually. Don't mourn their passing, calibrate their life. It'll be your turn soon enough.
You don't. The only way for it to not suck is if you don't care about them. Afterwards it will hurt less, but thats as good as it will get, you will always miss someone you care about after they are gone.
Really there's not much you can do. If she's able to manage company and talking sitting with her and thinking about all the nice memories you have shared can help you both.
Remember that even a beautiful song isn't a song without an ending.
You're doing the right thing, spend as much time with her as possible and to treat her like the queen she is. Also, let her rest and nap when she needs it. Hug and kiss her a lot.
@red324 I can relate. When my brother died they wanted to have two extra gatherings to remember him and I just quit. It's hard enough to lose him, I wasn't going to go to anymore funerals about it.
To live each day with them as best and as happily as I can with them. Rather them to leave with a smile than in despair. Lost my gpa to dementia. That was the one time I wish could've given him before he passed.
It's not easy but this is a part of life. What you can do is make the most of the time you have. More than likely your Grandmother has accepted her sun is setting and you can draw strength from that.
@julielamar You can't. You just fucking can't without removing everything that makes you human. Get the fuck out of here and be with whats left of your family.
I honestly don't think you can or should. It will be very hard on you, you will feel terrible and that's ok. Just take your time, be with your loved ones and live through it.
you can't. that kinda pain over rules reasoning. i believe that there will be a resurrections--it doesn't stop the pain. all you can do as remember the good times and lean on those close to you.
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