What is the one thing that you should always ask your girl best friend and the one thing that you should never ask her?

[Anonymous]

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I'm a 23-year-old male and I only have one friend, who's a female. But, I've not been in touch with her for a while, since I have head-tremblingly weird work timing. Now, I want to get back in touch with her, but not with a hi or hello (we only text/call, she's on another continent).
I've already asked this question a few months ago, and I got a whole bunch of weird and awkward responses. So, wanted to try this again with a few more details.
To give a headstart, please know that we aren't sexually attracted to each other and even though we do talk, we don't exceed a few sentences at a time (both of us are anthropophobic).
So, any and every kind of response that's not R-rated is welcome...

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P. S. I'm just asking for honest opinions and ideas. Not a way to flirt with her...

[Rob1n]

Usually when I contact someone i haven't spoken in ages i usually start with that.

Like:
Hi there, it's been ages since we talked, which is such a shame because it was always fun talking to you. How are you doing these days?

And usually i add something that reverts back to a previous conversation. Like when they went on vacation I would say something along the lines of:
Last time we spoke you went on that trip to X. How was it?

Plenty of conversation openers then.

[NYCQuestions1976]

Ask her how she's doing, how's work and life, how her family and other friends are doing, any significant others (in the form of, "Are you seeing anyone?", and not, "Are you banging anyone?"), and other such things that may pertain to your friendship specifically.

[NYCQuestions1976]

Thanks for Most Helpful. 👍

[TacosRAwesome]

If you're best friends, shouldn't all questions be allowed?

[Asker]

We aren't that close, yet...

[exitseven]

I had female friends when i was younger. I used to ask them about relationship advice and sometimes when I was feeling really insecure I might ask them if they thought I was a good catch. I would never ask them about sex.

[globetrotter22]

Are you sure you aren’t attracted to her? If you really aren’t than you wouldn’t be overthinking this and posting a question like this on GAG.

[Asker]

She's a pen pal. I don't know much of anything about her...
So yes, I'm 100% sure...

[globetrotter22]

Honestly I wouldn’t waste my time with this if I were you.

[Asker]

That's bad...
😕

[globetrotter22]

Well is she truly helping or hindering with your romance goals? In my experience female friends usually give platonic male friends bad advice about dating. You are also wasting time, energy and thoughts with her.

But you know what suit yourself. Maybe she’s supportive in other ways.

[Asker]

She is supportive, and we aren't involved in anything romantic!

[globetrotter22]

I guess that’s alright. But from the way you are communicating i really think you need more male buddies.

[Asker]

Maybe...

[globetrotter22]

Are you straight? Do you want to land a girlfriend? I’m guessing yes to both.

But from what I am reading in these comments you (no offense) probably got some work to do. Making friends with masculine guys helps set a good role model. You won’t get that from her.

Anyway it takes one to know one when it comes to being a straight “nice” guy. It’s a hard life. But I feel like I am giving advice to my younger self right now. You need some tough male buddies.

Are you into sports and exercise?

[Asker]

Nope 😁

[globetrotter22]

Please google Corey Wayne and get his 3% book. Very important

[Aakash_Hangargi]

What is your expectation here?

[Asker]

I have SAD. So, I want to talk, but also not sound awkward when doing so...

[Aakash_Hangargi]

Can you ellaborate

[Aakash_Hangargi]

What kind of sadness you are feeling?

[Aakash_Hangargi]

I think you are not clear what is that you seek from her if you get clarity on that you will automatically get in touch with her

[Asker]

Just want a convo starter.
Nothing more...

[Aakash_Hangargi]

Simple bruh just take any old photo were you both are their and says i was going through our photos and found this , and make her remember those memories oh do you remember this that and what not blah blah blah blah. Here is your convo starter

[In_Trance]

This doesn't seem like best friends to me

[Asker]

The pic is from Google...

[In_Trance]

Not sure what that has to do with it but whatever