Do you think this is my sister business or she has to stay out?

[Anonymous]

I have a married sister and she lives with her hubby. She is not rich but she lives well. She lives in a nice house (not big though), her husband is a family judge and he must earn good money. SHe works in a customer service at her workplace. They both have cars, no kids between them. Since they both have incomes, they never hesitate to spend the money on things taht for them it is important and necessary and they spend it right away. For instance if they have to fix something in the house or buy something like an appliance, a new TV, they do it right away, they have money unlike other people that maybe those things are not priorities or they dont have enough money to buy it immediately so they take time to buy things or not to buy them at all for lack of money, or they dont fix something in the house because of lack of money or they take a looong time to decide to fix something. My sister and her hubby are not like that, if they need to buy something or fix something they have the money to do it so period.

Well, this is not the case of my brother, me and mom. My dad passed away several years ago and when my dad was alive, we could handle to fix things right away or i dad wanted to buy somethign he purchase the thing, even if my dad was always a humble person and he liked simple things. Now he is not with us and at the house and we dont have the money my dad had when he was alive and he was working, mom, my brother and myself, now we live in a different scenario, we dont have the same money my dad used to have. We have to mange well the money so for us many things may not be priority or important but if for us is not priority or important in our house, my sister believes it has ot be important (sure she has money to solve things easily not us) and she does not even live in our house to know what is priority or important for us. SHe says it is for our mom care she likes to get involved. For instance my sisetr lives in a nice house,

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we dont, we live in a house that sure it is old now and there are things that n eeded to be fixed. If for mom, brother and myself we are not complaining about things that needed to be fixed, well my sister do whine and complains to us that we neglect things in our house.

She likes to butt in in our house decision because she says she is our family and she does it because she care for us. She whines and she could suggest a solution sure but her solution is not helping us with money to fix

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ASAP, we have to spend our money. It is easy to say that when she has the money ready , but that is not our case. Also she complains that our brother takes too long to fix things in our house. My brother says he will gladly help but he will do it at his time, not at my sister time if we want it to repair things for free.

When my sister stops at the house for a visit, she likes to inspect each corner of the house so later she can complain about this or that needrepair and be cleaned

[Texasgal95]

I mean I just have a whole wanted help but seems like money is always her go to solution maybe she should just step away for a minute

[Anonymous]

If she doesn’t live there and she’s not paying for it then it’s non of her business.

[Asker]

I know but she is concerned that things that needed to be fixed at the house are fixed in a short time and we fix it even if it takes months or years. Our house is old sure and need maintance but we dont have the amount of money anymore that we used to have when my dad was alive.

She is very insisting and each time she remind us "This has to be fix, this other things too, etc " How come that thing is not still repaired an the house look awful.

My brother can fix things at the house sure, but she is more relaxed and stress so if he does it he wil do it when he has time to do it, that is somethign my sister disagree that the time pass by and a broken thing stil is broken cause my brother has not fix it, other wise we will have to pay for another person to do it and that way it is done fast, but my brother does it for free of course. My brother told my sister, ok you find the solution at your time but dont get me involved in the issue then. But I know that if my sister finds a solution fast, she won't be paying it , us we have to pay it. For me if she wants things fix ASAP at our house she better then pay for it not us, but she wotn do it, I know. It is easy for her to say things when she is not contributing.
There is a bad ceiling tile at home that is hanging from it and nneded to be changed and my brother has not fix iit yet because that tile is hard to find and he said he will look for it but not now but sometime so then my sister said. I be embasrrased to enter the house and see that tile still hanging from the ceiling cause is not fixed yet.

[Waldoe]

mmmm I have an idea, get a JOB

[Asker]

My sister?

[Waldoe]

you and your brother should get a job, your sister is not your parent, she is not required to feed you

[Asker]

But sibligns cooperate duh!! im not saying she has to help us in everything but she compalisn so much about our house stuff then go ahead and contribute in something