as difficult as it sounds...
this probably need some determination and drastic solutions, if the parents are shitty and can't be responsible for this on their own, then they should have NO say either on what other solutions can be provided so
I think the best is that you accept the help of those relatives that are willing to take him, that is the best possibility in this case, because they are willing to do, and because you should definitely NOT do this
not only you are not prepared for this responsibility, but it is also very likely that your brother will not be willing to listen to you anyway, so you could be just enabling and making it worse for him
you should not feel bad for the consequences that come up from the many bad actions of others... this was not your responsibility in the first place, and it should not be your responsibility in the end of it
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Depends on what he did.
You did your month, yes I realize he is you brother, but you did your part. Now let someone else do their part. If your dad don’t agree then let your dad find someone to take him. A question did you tell your brother to get in trouble. NO of course not he did it on his own. I was always told, “you do the crime you do the time”. So I never did the crime, because I wasn’t giving up my time. Your brother need to learn his own lesson, its not your lesson to learn. Don’t feel sorry for HIM or feel any remorse (guilt) on your part. Remember at that age they lie so you will be much better off with out having him around. Harsh maybe, but so is life.
Sorry for what happen so keep away from all this drama. Hope everything goes well for you.
Are the parents not legally required to give financial support to whoever is taking care of him? I would take that shit to court. I would personally take my brother in, but that said my brother isn't a delinquent.
The relative would be the best option, especially if your dad has no valid reason for saying no to that.
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Yeah I don't do being guilted into shit. I'd say yes, but only if everyone involved meets my conditions.
None of this is your fault. The blame goes back to your parents who didn't raise him right and to your brother for doing things that I'm sure he knows is wrong. If keeping him with you is causing financial, physical and emotional hardship then let him go to foster care. As my dad used to say, " you made your bed now lay in it". Don't let your family play a guilt trip on you. You said you would care for him for a month. You held your end of the deal. It's not your fault it was extended.
Your father has no right to lay a guilt trip on you since he lost custody of your brother. If you have another relative who is willing to take your brother now, I say jump on that opportunity while it's still available!
Dont feel guilty about it coz you are not the one who got him in this situation, its your parents to be blamed for this coz they aren't mature enough to have marriage and kids in their life and they spoilt his life and now they are dragging others to take care of their son, for now let him go to foster home or your extended family can take care maybe after few years you can make your brother stay with you once your situation improves
I fully agree with what older and wiser has advised you, thus my advice would be the same as his.
It is not your fault that your brother got arrested and it is not your fault for having bad parents. You can help your brother the best you can but you need to have boundaries and this is one of them.
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