On the surface, she comes off as obnoxious and opportunistic but I've gotten to know her more and can see she's genuinely a good person, just very insecure and has a lot of healing to do so she feels the need to one-up people. I get it; we're all working on ourselves.
She'll make these posts about how she won't adjust who she is for any one blah blah. However, I think she's noticed that I've had to uninvite her to events and may be upset as she's been distant. I don't believe in telling people they need to change but also I have to protect the relationships I've built. Any advice on the best way to address her?