My family always like to comment on my decisions or what I do. If they say or do something wrong and we discuss it, it always somehow turns into how I should do “x, y, z”, almost like it’s fine for them to say whatever and hurt my feelings but I should do x, y, z so it wouldn’t have “happened” in the first place.
I have a photoshoot recently and the photographer didn’t edit them and said I can do whatever I like with them. And since I’m a bit insecure about my stomach, I made my waist slightly smaller. Anyway, my step mum has ranted at me several times in the past day at how I edited it, and I didn’t need too, that it makes my “arms and hands” look fat, amongst other comments. We just had dinner and she brought it up again, my dad says how my arms look like “pop eye” and my step mum said how I’ve insulted the photographer etc. Step mum said “you look beautiful, those edits make your arms and hands look fat”. It feels like such a backhanded compliment. It really isn’t that noticeable. It was just my waist.
And before I even had the photoshoot, when I was trying on dressed, she commented on how I’m very “muscley” and said how if I lift too much, I’ll get too muscley. She then prodded my leg and made my sister do it as well. I’m toning a little, and I’m doing it the sow and healthy wait. I’m generally thin but I’m just trimming a little. Like all these rants don’t make me feel any better, they just make me feel worse about myself. Do they sound toxic? Do they sound unfair? I just feel like I’m being shamed. I don’t even want to be around them right now
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